LONG HAIR LADIES, HOW DO YOU HANDLE STRANGERS PUTTING THEIR HANDS IN YOUR HAIR?

[Belle Creole]

There probably is a thread about this, but humor me any how. A friend of mine had a lady run her hands through her hair while she was a work. I think i would flip my lid! I want to be prepared. Those of you who have reached long, really long, and/or beautiful healthy hair no matter the length, share your experiences. What do you do to discourage people from touching you and your hair when your hair is down, how do you react, do you welcome strangers? Give us the run down.

 

[empressri]

depends. i don't like just anyone close to me, but some people will ask if they can touch it and i usually don't mind. others get the duck and dodge when i see that hand coming at my head

 

[Irresistible]

People always wanna just come up and grab my pony, well they pull their hands back with conditioner and oil on them

thats my gratification



its so funny when they look at their hands like 'What Theerplexed"?

I dont even have to say it, they dont do that again

 

[Morenita]

People always wanna just come up and grab my pony, well they pull their hands back with conditioner and oil on them

thats my gratification



its so funny when they look at their hands like 'What Theerplexed"?

I dont even have to say it, they dont do that again

 

[LadyAmani]

bumping.....................

 

[Neith]

People always wanna just come up and grab my pony, well they pull their hands back with conditioner and oil on them

thats my gratification



its so funny when they look at their hands like 'What Theerplexed"?

I dont even have to say it, they dont do that again

Ewww... lol.

My man touches my hair even with the goop in it and the man just don't care

I don't have long hair, but the occasional person touches. If it's a friend I don't mind if they aren't trying to rake their fingers through my hair.

 

[tnorenberg]

People always wanna just come up and grab my pony, well they pull their hands back with conditioner and oil on them

thats my gratification



its so funny when they look at their hands like 'What Theerplexed"?

I dont even have to say it, they dont do that again

Oh, that's the best Justice served !!

 

[DDTexlaxed]

People always wanna just come up and grab my pony, well they pull their hands back with conditioner and oil on them

thats my gratification



its so funny when they look at their hands like 'What Theerplexed"?

I dont even have to say it, they dont do that again

That's so gangsta! Great idea! I'll have a very long way to go before I get to where you are.

 

[Mai Tai]

I usually pull my head away and give them this look like "If you do that again, you will be missing a hand." Some people get offended but I don't care. If you bold enough to do that, then you can handle getting gone off on.

I'm a Nurse so I am naturally germ-a-phobic. I don't know where you hands have been. You could have just finished scratching your a*s before you stuck your hands in my hair.

 

[Barbara]

It’s very rare if someone puts her hand in my hair; but if this happens, it’s usually with someone I know—not strangers.

 

[SoCalli]

I've never had a stranger put their hands in my hair!

 

[Blkprincess]

I hate it when my nieces and little cousins do it, I have this one niece, about 3 or 4, and she loves to sit on my lap just to touch and play with my hair like I'm her personal doll baby. I'm like go get your Dora doll honey!!

 

[araceli2418]

You know, I've read a few threads where women say people just came up to them and put their hands in their hair.

Maybe it's just me but this just boggles my mind. Whatever happened to personal space and boundaries? Geez. People amaze me sometimes.

 

[Evazhair]

It doesn't really happen with strangers. I can stop them before it happens. I did have to break my cousin from always trying to fingercomb my hair with love of course.

 

[ebzonix]

I don't like anyone putting their hands in my hair, unless I give permission. But that's just me. Slap the hand in a quick reflex.

 

[Belle Creole]

Bump

 

[Belle Creole]

Bumpin for more 411

 

[ajacks]

I don't have long hair. But when strangers try to touch my hair I have to duck or move out of the way. I am protective styling with a sew-in but they don't need to know all that

 

[Belle Creole]

I don't have long hair. But when strangers try to touch my hair I have to duck or move out of the way. I am protective styling with a sew-in but they don't need to know all that

Right! I had my cousins husband run his hands through my hair a few months back and I was so stunned that he would be that ignorant ( his kids were there too) I didn't say anything at the time my cousin is somewhat estranged from my side of the family right now--so I didn't want to flame the fire, but trust and believe, I'm ready for that joker next time!

 

[Ediese]

Hmm...I haven't had to deal with this yet, but I'm not sure I would be too receptive to it.

 

[Monigirl]

My hair is SL relaxed and thick and I have had this happen many time while attending Beauty College this year. While attending beauty college for the Skin Care Program (Esthetics) three black female Cosmetology students and a Cos. Instructor came up to me and ran their hands through my scalp and hair without warning. They just couldn't resist. But one of them was honest enough to say she had to weave check me b/c my hair was so thick. I didn't mind.

I always made sure my hair was looking nice every day weither it was styled with curlformers, falt ironed or in a protective style. They never asked me if I needed my hair done. They all knew I loved doing my own relaxing, trimming and hair color and was successful at it. And they were all made aware of LHCF and Fotki hair journals.

 

[Belle Creole]

WOW, you have nerves of steel, I just don't think I would have been ok with that. "weave check" who deputized her as the "Weave Sherif" is she part of the weave patrol ,

 

[longhairlover]

hell to the no!!! i don't like no strangers putting theirs hands in my hair, I was trained since i was little not to let anyone touch my precious hair lol!!! all of our hair is precious i always think about where the strangers hand may have been and why r they trying to touch my hair.

i don't even like my mil touching my hair, one time she put her hands through my hair and i wanted to scream lol!!!!

only my mom and hubby and if i had kids i'd let them play with my hair aka jack it up

 

[Monigirl]

WOW, you have nerves of steel, I just don't think I would have been ok with that. "weave check" you deputized her as the "Weave Sherif" is she part of the weave patrol ,

LOL!!! Yeap, that black cos teacher thought she knew anything and everything about hair. But she never bothered me after that. Anywho when you attend a beauty school for 7 whole months and every day students are learning hair and practicing styles you get use to things like that.

 

[longhairlover]

i guess being in a hair environment like yours it is bound to happen, i know that can be annoying too, but in that field people are most likely just sizing your hair up because that's their thing, I just don't like people in offices and people at gatherings doing that.

I bet these are the same people that use to do that in elementary school. always had their hands in someone elses head

My hair is SL relaxed and thick and I have had this happen many time while attending Beauty College this year. While attending beauty college for the Skin Care Program (Esthetics) three black female Cosmetology students and a Cos. Instructor came up to me and ran their hands through my scalp and hair without warning. They just couldn't resist. But one of them was honest enough to say she had to weave check me b/c my hair was so thick. I didn't mind.

I always made sure my hair was looking nice every day weither it was styled with curlformers, falt ironed or in a protective style. They never asked me if I needed my hair done. They all knew I loved doing my own relaxing, trimming and hair color and was successful at it. And they were all made aware of LHCF and Fotki hair journals.

 

[longhairlover]

yeah i thought they would be doing weave checks lol,,,,that's none of their business though if a person has a weave, if they are a hairologist then they should know without violating someones locks.

 

[CHECKMATE!]

This happens more with friends/family...I just smile and pray they don't pull/yank it lol

 

[ayanharr]

Lmao @ the Below! Enjoy.............

(NEW YORK) Venitra Davies, an African American attorney at Dewey, Cheatum, and Howe, was escorted from her office building Monday after assaulting the firm’s new white office manager.



According to New York City police office Tony De La Cruz, witnesses saw the two in the kitchen Monday making their morning coffee. “Then out of nowhere, Davies let out something like war cry before punching out the victim,” said De La Cruz.



“I have no idea why she was so upset,” Abby Spitz, the target of Davies’ aggression, told De La Cruz after regaining consciousness. “All I did was say ‘Good Morning’ and then complimented her on her hair.”



Davies told The Peoples News it was Spitz’s next comment and actions that pushed her over the edge.



“Abby looked at me and said ‘Oh my gosh. Your hair is so curly. How’d you do that? Is it real?,’” said Davies, who had spent all day Saturday at the salon. “She then proceeded to raise her hand in the direction of my head.”



That’s when the normally prim and professional Davies snapped and cold clocked her co-worker.



Spitz, who had just started at the firm the week prior, had not been privy to the protocol around Davies’ hair.



On an almost weekly basis Davies’ hairstyle can go from a sleek, short pageboy, to long and luscious, to an electrifying natural fro. Her white co-workers, who struggle to grow out bangs or end up looking like poodles after failed attempts at perms, don’t understand how Davies can pull off her quick changes.



In fact, Spitz was not the first employee at the firm to have a too-close-for-comfort reaction to Davies’ varying styles. Cassidy Wankman, a senior partner, holds that honor.



During an off-site retreat in 2003, Wankman absently ran his fingers through Davies’ hair when she was trying out the long sleek signature hairstyle of Naomi Campbell.



“It looked so shiny I just had to touch it,” he said. “Venitra shot me a look and told me to never touch her hair. I knew she meant business.”



But Wankman’s actions opened the door for other colleagues to satisfy their curiosity about Davies’ mane by reaching out and touching it.



“I’ve asked them a thousand times, please don’t touch my hair,” says Davies, 37, who last year put a sign on her desk reading ‘Don’t Touch My Hair.’ “Abby caught me on the wrong day.”



De La Cruz says one of the leading causes of office assaults is white people touching black women’s hair.



“When black women get their hair done, it’s best to just say it looks nice and move on,” he says.

 

[Irresistible]

Lmao @ the Below! Enjoy.............

(NEW YORK) Venitra Davies, an African American attorney at Dewey, Cheatum, and Howe, was escorted from her office building Monday after assaulting the firm’s new white office manager.



According to New York City police office Tony De La Cruz, witnesses saw the two in the kitchen Monday making their morning coffee. “Then out of nowhere, Davies let out something like war cry before punching out the victim,” said De La Cruz.



“I have no idea why she was so upset,” Abby Spitz, the target of Davies’ aggression, told De La Cruz after regaining consciousness. “All I did was say ‘Good Morning’ and then complimented her on her hair.”



Davies told The Peoples News it was Spitz’s next comment and actions that pushed her over the edge.



“Abby looked at me and said ‘Oh my gosh. Your hair is so curly. How’d you do that? Is it real?,’” said Davies, who had spent all day Saturday at the salon. “She then proceeded to raise her hand in the direction of my head.”



That’s when the normally prim and professional Davies snapped and cold clocked her co-worker.



Spitz, who had just started at the firm the week prior, had not been privy to the protocol around Davies’ hair.



On an almost weekly basis Davies’ hairstyle can go from a sleek, short pageboy, to long and luscious, to an electrifying natural fro. Her white co-workers, who struggle to grow out bangs or end up looking like poodles after failed attempts at perms, don’t understand how Davies can pull off her quick changes.



In fact, Spitz was not the first employee at the firm to have a too-close-for-comfort reaction to Davies’ varying styles. Cassidy Wankman, a senior partner, holds that honor.



During an off-site retreat in 2003, Wankman absently ran his fingers through Davies’ hair when she was trying out the long sleek signature hairstyle of Naomi Campbell.



“It looked so shiny I just had to touch it,” he said. “Venitra shot me a look and told me to never touch her hair. I knew she meant business.”



But Wankman’s actions opened the door for other colleagues to satisfy their curiosity about Davies’ mane by reaching out and touching it.



“I’ve asked them a thousand times, please don’t touch my hair,” says Davies, 37, who last year put a sign on her desk reading ‘Don’t Touch My Hair.’ “Abby caught me on the wrong day.”



De La Cruz says one of the leading causes of office assaults is white people touching black women’s hair.



“When black women get their hair done, it’s best to just say it looks nice and move on,” he says.

 

[Divine_Order]

Well, the one time I did get a "hair check" I had a couple of drinks. So by the time it did happen...I was cool.

It happened while I was at a girlfriend's BBQ over the summer. She complimented me on my hair and asked me if it was all mine,etc. Well...her cousin (a guy about my age) must've come up from behind and started doing the "scalp shuffle" on me....twice! Again, by that time, I was a lil buzzed...so we all laughed it off. He tried to get my number too before I left. (I was lookin extra cute that night)

Other than that...I've only really had family and friends touch my hair. Those encounters don't bother me at all.