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S.O. RUINING REGIMEN!!!

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Is you SO ruining your regimen?

  • I slip on my regimen when I have a SO

    Votes: 74 31.0%

  • I continue with regimen with or without a SO

    Votes: 163 68.2%

  • I don't have a regimen if I have a SO

    Votes: 2 0.8%
  • Total voters
    239
Only bc my SO lives in VA andI'm in KY. So when I visit, I can't bring my entire arsenal of hair care products like I want. This past week I had to flat-iron and wear my hair down (even though I didn;t want to) because I did not want to have to purchase hair care products there. And now I decided just to purchase little things to leave at his house, but not for long bc we're getting ready to move to seattle....
 
My dh use to complain a lot about how much money falling through my hand ,
now i make my own dam money.:yawn:

He now complains when i come out with a scarf on my head,
so i explain to him whats goin on with wearing my scarf outside.
now when he see my hair hangin down my back he smiles .
HE HATES BUNS HE SAY TO ME U LOOK LIKE MY GRANDMA WITH YA HAIR LIKE THA U LOOK WILD so i no longer wear buns its been months.
 
I started my hair journey with a DH. Lucky for him, he doesn't ask too many questions or make too many comments. ;)
 
:grin:LOL Excellent thread! But to the ladies who wear it down during "no-no" time? I can't help but wonder if you ever have a problem with the hair getting in the face or the mouth or even itching? I tried making out one time ( still inexperienced), and I was smacking Lovie in the face with my hair and things were just wild!:twister: :rolleyes:So it doesn't itch or get tangled, or fall in his face and get in his mouth?:thought:
 
I'm pretty lucky because he doesn't care how rough I look, he still thinks I'm beautiful. :blush: I think that's crap lol I know I look like a bag lady :lachen:

He doesn't ruin it though. He actually loves playing with the new growth between stretches. So do I. I absolutely love doing co-washes now. He sticks his nose to my scalp and breathes in then sighs. It's so cute.
 
the only thing he likes about me being natural is the fact that it can go back to being straight if i want it to, so fluck him.

:lachen:i think thats harsh
 
I only have hair goals of APL for now. But I do keep up wiith a weekly regimen in order to grow my hair longer and look cute for my SO. Hes catchin up to me so I gotta step my co-washing game up!!!!!LO!L
 
His Puerto Rican ass is married to me so he ain't going anywhere LOLOLOL
:lachen:

When I was single I didn't dare try anything weird that made my hair look a hot mess. I'm married and my husband knows better than to comment on anything hair related.
 
Sometimes...

:dinner:
When Im in a relationship I tend to want to wear my hair straighter more often, which means more heat and quite possibly More damage.

I also tend to slack off on the satin bonnet, but I at least settle for a satin pillow instead.
 
In the beginning my husband was tired of LHCF and of my "new hair habbits" now he helps me and doesn't complain anymore about the time spent in my washing , co washing...
 
I'm glad me and my SO are at the point where we can look a complete mess around each other...Hey, I always tell him "Don't get it twisted, when it's time to step out, you know a sista cleans up well!"

ETA: He did mention to me the other day that he was glad that I'm in braids now and don't spend much time on my hair when it's time for us to leave.
 
cecilie said:
In the beginning my husband was tired of LHCF and of my "new hair habbits" now he helps me and doesn't complain anymore about the time spent in my washing , co washing...
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:lachen: yes, what's the saying ... " If you can't beat them, join them." There are probably a lot of SO's who have surrendered.
 
MY DH understands and supports my natural hair journey but I know he really appreciates when I do my curly/ straight styles as well " that's when all the "Oh baby " come out:grin:. No bagging for bed but he's ok with satin caps.
 
Yes! I workout regularly and on Saturdays I like to do my deep condition and rollerset and let it air dry. I am in southern California, so it is always warm and dry, no problem air drying.
Sure enough, he wants to go "grab some lunch " at a sit down place and I'm like "O.K." But under my breath I'm like "&&%$##%, I just put my hair up!!!" I have to take it all down and the ends aer all frizzy! UGH! At least it's only once in awhile!
 
No, my dh doesn't complain. Matter fact, he supports my habit and even inquires about my LHCF day. Ask what are the newest hot topis and even buys me hair products (of course, I have point them out as he's not skilled like that to know automatically which ones to buy). It goes both ways though. He's a motorcycle enthusiast and I take interest in his hobby. The love is reciprocated. I know being mushy is not the intent of this thread but it's how we get down.
 
I asked the guy I was seeing if his last girlfriend of 3 years was black and he said yes so I thought he knew about the night time hair wrap routine. Boy was I wrong. When I came to bed in my scarf he was like "what is that thingy on your head" I was like you have never seen a black woman wrap her hair? and he said "no".

Needless to say I was a little embarrassed but my hair was past BSL at that point so the wrap was necessary. The next time I spent the night over there I brought my satin pillow case and called it a night.

I have never lived with a man but I don't think having a SO will stop me from doing what I have to. :yep:
 
My fiance doesn't complain at all. He supoprots my protective styling and sees how much my hair grows when I protective style. After my mom passed away almost 2 years ago, I cut my hair balled. My hair grew back like weeds. He see's that protective styling works.
 
He isn't ruining my regimen. He knows that wash day is time consuming. He doesn't like that we don't go to bed at the same time because I'm still twisting my hair, but sometimes he comes in the bathroom to talk to me or he'll talk to me while I'm DCing.
 
Absolutely not! Dh knows what time it is! Shoo, I'm tryin' to grow some healthy long hair dangit and it takes work!

He used to complain about my buns, but he got over that since I bun mostly during the week and will wear my hair out on Saturdays. He also gave me the "I wish you'd spend as much time with me as you do on your hair" spiel, but I'm not trying to hear that either.

I spend over 2 hours airdrying my hair and laying up under him the whole time! :yep:

ETA: In his defense, he doesn't care what I look like when I go to bed. I've wrapped up, baggied, scarfed, and bonnetted (:spinning:), and when he sees me, he just :look: and then :ohwell:, and maybe we :over18:, and finally :sleep:. So it's all good.
 
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i plan special events around when i get my hair done.... like someone else said earlier.

i try not to let it interfere. sometimes it's difficult. mainly becuase i get sick of hiding my hair just as much as he does.

my dh supports my hair fetish and my hair care regimen. he just would like to see the benefits of it more often...i can't blame him for that.
 
Thankfully, my SO is in Chicago and I'm in NY so I am able to do my hair routine like clockwork. I know he doesnt care for the scarves and I never sleep with bonnetts even by myself because as bad as it sounds I cant even stand how they look on me... lol Depending on my hairstyle, if its something that NEEDS to be tied up ie; microbraids, cornrows, treebraids etc... then I'll tie it up, but Ill wear a really cute scarf and tie it up in a cute way and 9 times out of 10 I'll put it on AFTER we've finished ahem ummm "blessing the sheets"...:blush: This keeps the complaints down as far as that goes but when we were living in the same place a few years back, I kept the smelly stuff to a minimum, he has a nose like a bloodhound when it comes to me and he knows my "natural scent" and loves it, I think its cute and the second I called myself trying to start with some hair products that was a little too strong for his liking he let it be known. He supports me 1000% in my hair journey and notices my growth sometimes even before I do, and I appreciate that sooo much. It sounds really bad but hear me out, I ove him to death but At THIS POINT in my hair journey, I'm kind of glad we ar not living together because that means I can go H.A.M. with this sulfer and protective styling because now that my hair is getting longer, like most of your SO's and DH's, he likes to run his hands through it, which I dont mind when he is massaging my scalp but I dont want it out ALL the time at this delicate time.....
 
My SO is happy that I have goals for my self. He does not give a woot about me wearing a scarf and very supportive. Which is amazing because he is a butthole about most everything else...
 
he does not interfere but he wants the hair down during fun time.
 
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Mine too, he loves my hair, and so he has agreed not to touch it until 3 days after its done. He doesn't know how addicted I am to my hair care though...:spinning:
 
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