Do you Ever get Tired of Talking About Hair with Non-Black/Latin women?

[LdyKamz]

Ok, so I just love all things hair! As ALL of us do right. That's why we are here. But most of the black women I know in day to day life couldn't care less about hair if they tried. Working in a corporate environment with lots of yt women around I have become close to some of them. One in particular. We are actually very close and she talks about hair. But it just isn't an enjoyable experience for me. She knows that I am on this board and knows that I like hair and that's why she talks about it with me. But she says the dumbest things. Like we just got into a mini argument about trimming your ends. I said trimming your hair does not make it grow. It simply makes it look nicer, gets rid of splits and helps you retain better. It has nothing to do with the hair that grows out of your scalp. She disagrees saying that when she doesn't get her hair cut she loses a lot of hair. I didn't argue with that and said, yes she might be experiencing an increase in shedding and also breakage since her ends needs to come off. Again, nothing to do with the hair coming out of your scalp. I let her have her opinions but she makes fun of a lot of the stuff on here. Like the deep conditioning treatments some of us do. (yougurts, oils moinstat -???even that is questionable to me but if it works for you more power to you!) I have yet to remind her that my hair is not the same as hers and all hair isn't created equal.

I am glad to have you ladies here to talk about hair with. I was just thinking the other day how we have developed a community where you can go and get help/advice. Overprocessed, bad dye job, increased breakage? Come on here and find someone to help you. It is amazing. I just wish I had more people in day to day life to bs with hair about. That conversation with my yt coworker kinda gets under my skin. I try not to let it bother me but does anyone else have people around them like this. I don't mean people that are ignorant and curious about our hair but people that think we are created equal in that department but thinks we are doing something wrong with the way we care for our hair (for those of us that are doing everything right)

 

[melissa-bee]

I get tired of talking hair to black women.
...except for the ones on the internet obviously.

 

[Lilmama1011]

After I have explained to her and she still thought her theory was right, we couldn't talk about hair anymore. Because she will see why her hair stays in the same place like I was mis informed. My mom just like two days was saying you know the more you trim your hair the faster it grows, I explained it, and she finally starting to listen but months ago we would get into arguments about it. I said in that. Add me hair would be touching the floor

 

[LexiDior]

I think what would tire me out is talking about whether or not my hair is real. Im all for helping other people but the back and forth on whether its a weave or not is ridiculous.

 

[LdyKamz]

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[melissa-bee]

Ok, so I just love all things hair! As ALL of us do right. That's why we are here. But most of the black women I know in day to day life couldn't care less about hair if they tried. Working in a corporate environment with lots of yt women around I have become close to some of them. One in particular. We are actually very close and she talks about hair. But it just isn't an enjoyable experience for me. She knows that I am on this board and knows that I like hair and that's why she talks about it with me. But she says the dumbest things. Like we just got into a mini argument about trimming your ends. I said trimming your hair does not make it grow. It simply makes it look nicer, gets rid of splits and helps you retain better. It has nothing to do with the hair that grows out of your scalp.

I've had this argument with a black man.

I let her have her opinions but she makes fun of a lot of the stuff on here. Like the deep conditioning treatments some of us do. (yougurts, oils moinstat -???even that is questionable to me but if it works for you more power to you!) I have yet to remind her that my hair is not the same as hers and all hair isn't created equal.

There is a forum out there with plenty of "non black" women doing the same thing so just depends on who you are talking too and how invested they are with their own hair.

 

[LdyKamz]

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[LdyKamz]

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[Dposh167]

I don't talk hair with non blk women. I don't talk about hair much at all outside of the forum. Trying to preach to people who aren't hair obssessed as we are in the boards is just a lost cause

 

[Lilmama1011]

I don't talk hair with non blk women. I don't talk about hair much at all outside of the forum. Trying to preach to people who aren't hair obssessed as we are in the boards is just a lost cause

I definitely agree with that one

 

[LdyKamz]

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[ravenhairedcharm]

There is a forum out there with plenty of "non black" women doing the same thing so just depends on who you are talking too and how invested they are with their own hair.

This. Not everybody is interested in talking about hair in real life, it's not a race thing. Most people just do whatever with their hair--the basics. I think the people more invested in learning the ins and outs of hair and its overall care can be found on boards like this one.

 

[LaFat]

I never get tired of talking hair to anyone, that's my favorite conversation subject lol

 

[LdyKamz]

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[BostonMaria]

In real life I have my DD (she's 22) and my big sister to talk about hair. We talk and talk and talk. I don't need anybody else to talk to about it LOL

I do have one black co-worker who I helped transition to natural and she and I can talk about hair for hours. If anyone comes to me for advice I help them. If they come to complain or start talking about oh you have good hair bla bla bla mess I just keep it moving.

 

[MystiqueBabe]

When I talk about hair in general people just call me obsessive and tell me to shut up about it. And that was pretty much the end of that. I only discuss hair on the boards. Maybe once I get some more length to my hair people will want to listen or not. Outisde convos about other black woman's haircare makes me cringe i.e women who are half bald talking about getting a relaxer

erplexed

Most of the White & Latina women I know think our hair in general does not grow and that we wear weaves. One of them even mentioned that her balding father could grow hair better and faster than a black woman. They know my hair is real and that I hate fake hair. I discuss hair with a white friend of mine and she is supportive of me growing my hair back because relaxers damaged it.

 

[grownwomanaz]

Maybe I should stop too. I mean I kinda laugh when I hear some of them complain about how "coarse" their hair is. It certainly is a lost cause on most that don't care to listen. Even when they ask. I know this much, I just wish the fools would stop asking if they don't want to know. When I feel like they don't want to know I give them a short answer, "regular DC's and bunning for me" and get accused of having an attitude and not wanting to share my secrets. You can't win with these heffers.

This is exactly why you should just avoid hair talk with them and KIM. I only talk hair when asked by someone who seems genuinely interested. If folks want to stay ignorant I let'em.

 

[TheMenAllPause]

I do get tired of explaining weaves, my braidouts, buns etc...they kill me with their cluelessness...

 

[IMFOCSD]

The only time I talk about hair to anyone is when the statement "you need to leave those wigs alone and wear your own hair" comes up...its like ytf do yall keep tellin me the same thing over & over just so I can say the same thing "they help me retain length" then you gotta break down what is actually meant by retain..sigh..

 

[Leesh]

There are times when I do not, by any means, want to talk about hair, regardless to what color they are...

I don't like attention directed toward me, (Social Anxiety) so once someone notices how long my hair got, it starts...ugh! Then there's the Nay-Sayers, the Doubters and the trillion questions...And the, "Oooo Darlene, Look how long Leesh's hair got", then the fondling... SMH

 

[cocosweet]

This board is kind of like Fight Club to me. I can't remember the last time I told someone about it.

Outside of here, I don't talk hair much. I kind of cringe when someone brings it up.

 

[TheMenAllPause]

This board is kind of like Fight Club to me. I can't remember the last time I told someone about it.

Outside of here, I don't talk hair much. I kind of cringe when someone brings it up.

LMAO @ Fight Club!!! So true...

 

[LdyKamz]

This board is kind of like Fight Club to me. I can't remember the last time I told someone about it.

Outside of here, I don't talk hair much. I kind of cringe when someone brings it up.

Ha! I liked that.

 

[SimJam]

I get tired of talking hair to black women.
...except for the ones on the internet obviously.

EXACTLY .... LHCF and general hair board minded persons are few and far between.

Im happy i found 2 ladies in my office that are into natural hair products and healthy hair and we chat and share mixes.... but oddly enough, I prefer chatting online

 

[SimJam]

This board is kind of like Fight Club to me. I can't remember the last time I told someone about it.

Outside of here, I don't talk hair much. I kind of cringe when someone brings it up.

So true ... I will send ppl to youtube gurus, napturality, curly nikki ..... but LHCF is like my lil haven

 

[ScorpioRising]

OP, I read your first post and I'm still trying to find out what your frustrations have to do with her race or skin color? erplexed

OH and FYI, Latin women can be 'black' (of direct African descent) also.

 

[ScorpioBeauty09]

The only time I talk about hair is with my mom and sisters and I'm usually giving them some advice I got from here lol. It's come up a couple times with my black friends but we have such different hair types and wear our hair entirely differently it's more about comparing notes.erplexed My non-black friends only see my hair straight (unless they dig real deep in my Facebook pictures lol) so it just doesn't come up because I think in their minds there's nothing really to talk about. I don't want to have to explain anyway.

I will say this, I don't have any white friends but my dentist and the person who takes care of my chihuahua are white. I'm on vacation right now and my hair is braided and they both had funny reactions to me and my sister's hair. I have a feeling my Hispanic and Asian friends wouldn't make such a big deal over it lol. Jus sayin'

 

[LdyKamz]

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[Your Cheeziness]

It's not the talking about hair that is the problem. She seems interested in hair. Always bringing it up, talking about what she's doing (which is never anything more than using a new conditioner). She has no problem talking about it which she does a lot. But the making fun was another thing. Sort of like it was only something "we" would do. Maybe I am being overly sensitive considering her attitude during the trimming argument.

I get your argument, but c'mon. Was there not a point in your life, pre hair boards, that you would have laughed at someone putting Monistat in their hair?

If I'm talking to someone about hair, I stick to the basics and tip toe into board lingo. If I get a blank stare, I back off. If I see their eyes light up, it's all systems go!

 

[irisak]

I have two friends I can talk hair with. I gave one of my sisters advice off here and she's been rocking braidouts and dcing every since. I tried to give another one of my sisters advice only because she mentioned she was growing out her hair using weaves. I explained to her that with her hair type (4 b) and stretching relaxers she has to keep it moist underneath and she told me she didn't want her weave looking "greasy". I recommended s curl or braid spray which are definitely not greasy. Then she wanders why she stays at neck length but I'm approaching bsb. Some people don't want to hear the truth.

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