Hair for your man

[~Sparklingflame~]

I know this has been mentioned before but I wanna start a fresh.

Do you grow or keep your hair long for your man, or do you do it for yourself?

If you had long hair and you want to cut it but your man wants you to keep it long, do you?

 

[westNDNbeauty]

I might grow it long to hook him...and once I have him, do what I want

 

[SouthernStunner]

That's a tough one. I know there are going to be alot of folks yelling "its my hair", but in reality a marriage is about give and take.

My hubby does so much for me that if he wants me to keep my hair long I would.

 

[~~HoneyComb~~]

My DH could care less if my hair is long or short--and that's a good thing, I can cut it when I want and grow it if I like.

 

[cheryl26]

I cut my hair from waist length to shoulder length.....that caused a lot of problems with my husband. He's old timey and thinks women should have long hair I liked shoulder length hair when I was thin but now that I've gained so much weight I feel longer hair hides my body

 

[Katherina]

I really don't care too much either way, so if it makes him happy for me to have it long, I'll keep it long. But if maintaining long natural hair becomes arduous for me, I expect him to not complain when I start spending money at the salon

 

[reeko43]

When my husband and I married, we became one. His body belongs to me and vice versa. I am my husband's queen and he treats me as such. If he really didn't want me to cut my hair, I wouldn't. When there was something that I didn't want him to do with his appearance, he honored that. Therefore, I would give him the same respect. Thankfully the only thing I have had to refrain from is braids because he really hates those.

 

[snillohsss]

My dh doesn't care if its long or short. He does like it straight, or if curly, he likes it flatter. He doesn't like big hair.

 

[k.belle]

That's a tough one. I know there are going to be alot of folks yelling "its my hair", but in reality a marriage is about give and take.

My hubby does so much for me that if he wants me to keep my hair long I would.

I concur with this!

 

[LadyEuphoria007]

That's a tough one. I know there are going to be alot of folks yelling "its my hair", but in reality a marriage is about give and take.

My hubby does so much for me that if he wants me to keep my hair long I would.

This is how I feel as well. As long as he keeps the muscles poppin...I'll keep growing the hair.

 

[AwesomelyNappy]

If changing my hair was inspired by shear impulse or boredom without much forethought, then I would greatly consider his opinion... I'd consider him my voice of reason.

However, if it was a change that I had a real desire or need to do, something I was serious about, then I'd warn him, but ultimately I'd do what needed to be done. I might try to compromise, or ease him into my decision (using fake hair or something), but ultimately, I get the final say. My consideration for him would be due to my love and respect for him, but if he cant see i'm not happy with my hair, couldn't respect my decisions about my hair and something so trivial as my hair cause and uproar of sorts, then something is wrong with him and perhaps our relationship (because i am not my hair! did he love me? or my *imaginary* waist length hair?)

Something like cut my (imaginary) waist length hair might surprise him or throw him off, but I'd hope he would be able to trust me and then get over it.

Another thing is, he may not understand that my (imaginary) waist length hair was too damaged, too hot, too heavy, dry, too much work or cost too much money to upkeep. And if he couldn't listen to reason, then I'm sorry, luv ya, but i have to do whats best for ma hair. Would love to make him happy, but i've got to make myself happy first.

 

[JJamiah]

Married 8 plus and going strong.

My Theory though is I was doing my hair well before me and him were together and I will continue to do what makes me happy with My hair. He never complains.

I picked option one because he asked me to grow it back out and I am, he doesn't ask for much. Yet, If I wanted to go short, I wouldn't feel a need to ask.

 

[Roux]

my SO loves long hair and didn't like the idea of me ever cutting but he told me that it's my hair and he thinks i'm beautiful either way.

 

[chrisanddonniesmommy]

I keep it long for us both. He likes my hair when it's long (we met our freshman year in college in 1994; so, that is what he prefers on me). Also, I prefer long hair.

So, we're both happy.

 

[BrownieBrie]

When I met my SO in highschool I was obnoxiously bald headed (4 inches or less, unhealthy, poorly maintained) and I pretty much stayed that way to some degree until about 2 years ago. He likes that I have nice hair, but If I popped up looking like Halle tomorrow, he wouldn't care.

 

[NYAmicas]

He prefers long hair and so do I. He was not pleased when I had to cut it due to damage but I told him he'll have to wait and be patient like I have to for it to grow back.

 

[MangaManiac]

It's funny because my ex-SO (we're still very good friends now) didn't care either way. BUT, he preferred bone straight hair hanging loose. I almost never wore my hair that way, because I didn't want to damage it and he was fine with that.

I do have to say, though, I would probably go nuts if I came home and my (future) husband had done something crazy to his hair. There's certain styles that I DO NOT care for on men and if he's willing to keep it the way I prefer I will do the same for him.

 

[againstallodds]

My SO prefers long hair and I'm on a mission to grow mine out, so it works out for us. My hair is pinned up 90% of the time and whenever I let it down and he sees the length and health, he never fails to compliment me; I'm APL, an inch shy of BSB. The few times I have trimmed my hair, he doesn't complain because he knows it's for the best and that I wouldn't have done it if it wasn't absolutely necessary.

He does make a face whenever I jokingly threaten to cut my hair, usually when he's doing something to pester me lol. I wouldn't drastically cut my hair for the same reason he won't drastically make a change to his hair that I'm not going to appreciate. There's no doubt that it's MY hair and MY choice, and likewise his, but we consider each other in our decisions.

My baby likes long hair, I'll oblige haha.

 

[RegaLady]

Dh could care less. He's seen me with longer hair and short and doesn't bat an eye if I threaten to cut it. He cares most about it being kinky and natural. The more texture the better. I want the length, he wants the kink,lol. So for me longer hair and texture go hand in hand.

 

[ManeStreet]

My husband has given a length that he doesn't want it to be shorter than. When we met it was the shortest I've ever worn it in my life. He's never known me when my hair is very long so I said I'd grow it out for him. I'm still debating how long I will grow it. As long as it isn't too ridiculouly time consuming I will maintain it. Probably mbl.

 

[julissa1289]

I really love long hair but my S.O. ( a nice Puerto Rican man) said that he doesn't believe that black women/ people in general can grow long hair because he has never seen a black women with really long hair unless its in dreadlocks or a weave so he is my motivation for getting what I have always wanted

 

[ebsalita]

He'd never tell me what to do with my hair but I can tell he's loving it more and more as it grows. I'd always ask his opinion and take it into account.

 

[Aviah]

I prefer mine long, he doesn't mind too much as long as it looks good. But he still cracked jokes at my SHS CHOP last year.

ETA: to answer the question, I'm sure there could be a compromise reached on what can work, ie mid length hair?

 

[SmileyNY]

I hope whomever I end up with won't have any attachments to my hair. I have a reputation for being spontaneous. Natural fro then. Texlaxed now. Long hair today. Big chop tomorrow. Who knows *shrugs*

If it's really that serious... I might mess around & be single for life based on my hair habits.. or lack thereof

 

[Aireen]

I don't get the big hang up men have with hair. I mean at the end of the day, it's hair, it CAN and WILL grow back. I'd probably keep it long for a while but if the urge comes to cut it off, I'd cut it and just grow it back again. Ironic coming from someone like me who's on a hair board charting their progress though.

 

[Dizz]

My hubby likes the same lengths I do-- super short, or long (bsl-ish). He is a bun-hater though, and prefers when I wear my hair down and straight.

 

[Summer79]

Mine says he doesn't care as long as it's my own, long or short. But I know he likes it longer and would be a little sad if I cut it.

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[Poohbear]

My DH could care less if my hair is long or short--and that's a good thing, I can cut it when I want and grow it if I like.

Same here... except my man is my boyfriend, not my husband yet.

 

[Lynnerie]

I think hair is apart of your appearance so if my SO finds me more attractive with long hair then thats what I'll be aiming for also.

 

[SpicyPisces]

I actually had this discussion with my SO yesterday. He told me if I cut my hair short, he wouldn't like it. He prefers long hair and freaks out when I trim my hair lol. However, if my heart were set on short hair, I think he would respect it, regardless of whether he liked it or not because he wants me to be happy. But if I were to drastically change my hair, I should respect his opinion because if he made a drastic change to his appearance without even getting my opinion, I'd be a little upset.