How long did it take your man to come around??

[cclark1]

This question is probably best suited for naturals and transitioners. I'm transitioning now. My husband has been really quiet about me transitioning. So finally I asked him...what's up? His reaction was, it's your hair and I know this is something you really want,but I prefer you with long straight hair. I got a little upset. But then I remembered that this is the same man that when we met I had a really short pixie cut who never wanted me to grow it long. When I grew it long, he couldn't stand when I went to the salon to even get a trim. So I'm sure the brotha will come around. Plus I'm transitioning and really don't know what to do with it except wash and go and bun it up. But I wanted to know if any of you are having/have had these experiences with your man? When did he finally come around?

 

[FemmeCreole]

when I met my b/f I was transitioning with braids and then when I went home to NY I removed the braids and did the BC so he was shocked the first time he saw me without braids....he keeps telling me to re-braid cause he likes that but he never asked me to relax my hair. He understands and actually likes that I'm natural....he seems more relaxed now as the hair is growing and can do more things.

 

[DMJ's Mom]

I'm very blessed. When I met my SO just in general conversation we were talking about black women and their hair with the weaves, wigs, etc and he hinted to not liking the relaxed super straight look on women. He was more than happy when I told him that I didn't relax anymore

 

[brownsugarflyygirl]

My former SO was not supportive of my transition....but when he became former and came around a year later to try and win me back he magically developed an affinity for my natural styles including two strand twists Needless to say, he is still my former.

 

[Mook's hair]

Just a little background.

My Husband loves long hair, but I recently learned that he has a limit as to how long. He says just below the bra strap is ideal anything longer than that... he said...get this..."Longer than midback & waistlength hair is unattractive"
WOW, I never knew he had a cap on length.

He also hates braid extensions, wigs & weaves but likes flat ironed or curled hair, natural braids, or twists as long as there is no fake hair added.


Anyhoo... I am transitioning. I'm 9 months in. He has supported me, but rather quietly. And I'm happy about that. I do not expect him to jump for joy about this process or become extremely engulfed in it. He loves the fact that I no longer go to the salon and I get excellent results on my own.
He occasionally checks in on the length of my hair by stretching it to see how long it really is. Ever since seeing/reading the expose about Korean Beauty stores & products he is much more passionate about black-owned products & beauty supply stores.

I have to say, You probably should just be happy with his silence and lack of opposition. Now he has told you what he thinks because you asked.
You didn't get the answer you were hoping for but the responded with truth & honesty. He's not trying to hinder you or stop you from doing what you desire with your hair, so moving forward, you should try to feel content with your choice and find satisfaction in knowing that he is not acting salty or counterproductive to your choice.

Maybe once you are farther along he will have a new view. It sounds like he has flip flopped a couple of times in the past because it's hard to tell if he is gonna like a hairstyle on you until he actually sees it.

Maybe one day soon you can do a flexirod set or a braidout to give him a change of pace.

Just my 2 cents.

 

[lovelychar]

Well my situation and scenario is a little different ladies. I'm relaxed/texlaxed, I don't relax bone straight only twice a year. And have been on my growth journey for a year and a half. My SO loves long hair and I have actually contemplated transitioning for a healthy head of hair, off and on for this time period because I love how strong my natural hair is to my relaxed hair well.....of course in order to do have only that, you know you have to BC. He has mini nervouse break down every time I say I may want to cut my super relaxed ends. So there for I have been dusting and trimming like crazy.

 

[phyl73]

I too am transitioning. The other week, I found my SO glancing at my head and quickly turning away. He did it a few times. Me:What? Why do you keep looking at me like that?, Him: I'm not use to your hair looking that way. Me: Should I just cut it off and have a TWA? Him: No, I can wait for it to grow. I really want natural hair and come, weave, wig, or hats, I will have that and my SO.