BSL+ Ladies.. How Do Men React To Your Hair??

[snillohsss]

most just assume Im weaving it up unless I am wearing a ponytail.

 

[HoneyA]

Being a woman with long healthy hair...its like icing on a cake, a glaze on a honey ham, Frank's Hot Sauce on some home fried chicken...you get my drift! It don’t make you more or less of a woman it’s just an extra "condiment" that just adds that much more flavor to your already delectable deliciousness that makes you, YOU! *looks*

Long hair on a black woman is like seeing a black man from the hood with his pants pulled up with a belt on...you know it exist, you just ain't never seen it, and when you do see it you are in AWE!

This post is pure HOTNESS! Correct!

 

[theAlist]

I'm only apl so no one ever ogles over my length...they are more into the 'swang' that I have . Even when my hair was ear length it always had a good bounce and sheen to it. I won't say what they call me because I even get offended so I don't want to offend any of you.

 

[Dove56]

My DH loves my natural hair--the length doesn't do anything for him.

I don't know how other black men feel about it, I could care less

Your hair is beautiful and so are you.

 

[DDTexlaxed]

Ya'll know that it's the mentality that you have to be mixed to have long hair mentality. I haven't been BSL in so long, but I can remember the stares of admiration, not just from black men, but also white people my mom used to work with. I think it was my mom's bragging point back then. I had a horrible time when I cut my almost waist length level hair Toni Braxton short. All those people crying Why You Cut Yo' Hair So Short?! I didn't even know them. I can imagine the reaction of someone's SO, if they have that mentality. Thank goodness my hubby doesn't care. You know how I do with my multiple BCS.giggle:

 

[DrC]

They love it and I tell them her name is Megan... They honestly don't care.

I had a conversation with my SO about women and weave one time and he tells me:

Honestly, as long as it looks nice, most men don't care. Men aren't trying to f**k your weave.

 

[lovelexi]

Anybody that knows me knows that "hatin" just isn't in my spirit, but I'm definitely on the verge in this thread lol. I'm too new in my journey to respond OP........tis all lol.

*back to lurk mode

Here thinking the same thing. I'm going to use this as some motivation. All the BSL ladies...carry on!

 

[Spring]

When my hair is up in a bun, I get genuinely friendly hellos...nothing flirtatious... from men passing by.... but when my hair is down, I get the stares

 

[BlackMasterPiece]

I've noticed Black men are very sly with me lol....they'll test the waters by making small gestures like they're gonna run their hands through my hair and gauge how I react lol when they see I'm not doin the "dip and dodge" then they'll run their hands through my hair. Once they start they just can't stop themselves from then on lol. A few brave souls will just ask me straight up if its all me and when I do they'll react with surprise or gratification one way or another, it's rare, so it definitely does set you apart from the pack.

Black men love it and really appreciate the way you're not limiting how they can be affectionate with you, I can understand that.

 

[cocosweet]

I mean as hair "obsessed" as I am as a woman I can only imagine if I were a guy things wouldn't change for me lol. I would want my girlfriend/wife to have long/healthy/fly hair too. So I can understand men wanting their girlfriends/wives to have long/healthy/fly hair because dammit it looks good! Let’s keep real! But I would never put her down (if i was a dude) or any other black women who didn't have it.

Being a woman with long healthy hair...its like icing on a cake, a glaze on a honey ham, Frank's Hot Sauce on some home fried chicken...you get my drift! It don’t make you more or less of a woman it’s just an extra "condiment" that just adds that much more flavor to your already delectable deliciousness that makes you, YOU! *looks*

Long hair on a black woman is like seeing a black man from the hood with his pants pulled up with a belt on...you know it exist, you just ain't never seen it, and when you do see it you are in AWE!

Hilarious! I've made it my siggy.

Some black men lose their minds just going on and on about it. At that point, it becomes creepy. Once, when I was 10, my dad and a friend of his were going on and on with the "Your hair is your crowning glory, don't EVER cut your hair" speech. I cut it the first chance I got.

Dh likes it, but he doesn't go on ad nauseam about it.

 

[dyh080]

They love it and I tell them her name is Megan... They honestly don't care.

I had a conversation with my SO about women and weave one time and he tells me:

Honestly, as long as it looks nice, most men don't care. Men aren't trying to f**k your weave.

That reminds me of what my Aunt Ellen used to say "Ain't no body eva asked me fo no hair"...and she had nice shoulder length hair.

 

[ladylina]

I just usually get comments on how beautiful it is, but i really dont wear it down much because i love pony tails!!

 

[TrueToHair]

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[davisbr88]

Ya'll know that it's the mentality that you have to be mixed to have long hair mentality. I haven't been BSL in so long, but I can remember the stares of admiration, not just from black men, but also white people my mom used to work with. I think it was my mom's bragging point back then. I had a horrible time when I cut my almost waist length level hair Toni Braxton short. All those people crying Why You Cut Yo' Hair So Short?! I didn't even know them. I can imagine the reaction of someone's SO, if they have that mentality. Thank goodness my hubby doesn't care. You know how I do with my multiple BCS.giggle:

Girl, when were you almost WL? I've only seen short on you.
Pictures! Pictures! Pictures!

 

[bb09]

bump!^^^^^

 

[niqu92]

black men love my hair and get so excited when they find out its all mine
i was at school the othr day and i had my hair straightened (i usually wear braidouts) and i was walking to one of my classes&it was windy and my hair was SWANG-A-LANGIN!(lol) and as i was walking a lot of the guys i saw driving kept staring out their windows-one of them actually missed a stop sign (fortunately no other cars were going in the other direction).
my ex would always brag about my hair too..i remembr the first time he brought me to his church&introduced me to his friends he was like "yeaah her hair is real too!!!!" -___- like seriously..lol

i dated an asian guy once and he loooved my hair (i was natural at the time) but he always wanted me to straighten it.He said he liked my hair "sleek&straight" so i was like whats wrong with my hair when its not straightened? &he was like "its too...nappy&not as long" i was like well you dont see me complaining about your height,do you?so dont complain about my hair.
needless to say that relationship didnt last long

 

[keepithealthy]

I mean as hair "obsessed" as I am as a woman I can only imagine if I were a guy things wouldn't change for me lol. I would want my girlfriend/wife to have long/healthy/fly hair too. So I can understand men wanting their girlfriends/wives to have long/healthy/fly hair because dammit it looks good! Let’s keep real! But I would never put her down (if i was a dude) or any other black women who didn't have it.

Being a woman with long healthy hair...its like icing on a cake, a glaze on a honey ham, Frank's Hot Sauce on some home fried chicken...you get my drift! It don’t make you more or less of a woman it’s just an extra "condiment" that just adds that much more flavor to your already delectable deliciousness that makes you, YOU! *looks*

Long hair on a black woman is like seeing a black man from the hood with his pants pulled up with a belt on...you know it exist, you just ain't never seen it, and when you do see it you are in AWE!

I know others have already commented but this is hilarious

 

[Damaged but not out]

I was 2inches past APL( BSL i don't know). Everyone assumed it was weave.

So in my brilliance to counteract that thought I would scratch my scalp, ya know to show the lack of tracks. IN retrospect I probably was giving people the impression that my weave was funky!

 

[Ballerina_Bun]

When it's down, they usually stop and try to speak to me at length. When it's up in a bun, they are more polite and less "forward”.

I was at the beach a couple of summers ago and chit-chat turned into a 6-7ish hour conversation about a myriad of things. The conversation was all clean and polite until my hair fell from the up-do it was in. He then asked, “Is that ALL yours. Can I touch it?” I let him, then he just blurted out, “ I bet you like to have that _hit pulled during sex.”

 

[davisbr88]

But where them pitchas at DD....
I ain't fohgot!

 

[4bslbound]

It is a slippery slope. They get giddy; but, it gets maddening because they focus on my complexion and it gets creepy.

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huh? explain, girlfriend

 

[lsc2956]

When it's down, they usually stop and try to speak to me at length. When it's up in a bun, they are more polite and less "forward”.

I was at the beach a couple of summers ago and chit-chat turned into a 6-7ish hour conversation about a myriad of things. The conversation was all clean and polite until my hair fell from the up-do it was in. He then asked, “Is that ALL yours. Can I touch it?” I let him, then he just blurted out, “ I bet you like to have that _hit pulled during sex.”

Wow! What did you say?! Awkward would be an understatement. I would just be pissed I spent 6 hours talking to someone who would say something like that. erplexed

 

[theLovelyStyle]

When it's down, they usually stop and try to speak to me at length. When it's up in a bun, they are more polite and less "forward”.

I was at the beach a couple of summers ago and chit-chat turned into a 6-7ish hour conversation about a myriad of things. The conversation was all clean and polite until my hair fell from the up-do it was in. He then asked, “Is that ALL yours. Can I touch it?” I let him, then he just blurted out, “ I bet you like to have that _hit pulled during sex.”

I guess long hair unleashes the beast out of a man

 

[LongLeggedLife]

Im certainly not BSL, but I find men go crazy over hair. I regularly have reactions where men-total strangers-walk up and touch or grab my hair. One guy said "your hair is driving me crazy!!" and grabbed my head out of the blue. If they are giving me hug, I can feel them putting their face in it, and even snuggling into it sometimes! We can just be talking, and they will randomly start stroking my hair.
I never understood the "DONT TOUCH MY HAIR!!!" women, I love them to touch it, particularly my S/O's. Sometimes if I have just started dating somebody I have to tell them it's ok to touch it b/c I can see them resisting the urge.
Funny topic.

 

[chelseatiara]

Im certainly not BSL, but I find men go crazy over hair. I regularly have reactions where men-total strangers-walk up and touch or grab my hair. One guy said "your hair is driving me crazy!!" and grabbed my head out of the blue. If they are giving me hug, I can feel them putting their face in it, and even snuggling into it sometimes! We can just be talking, and they will randomly start stroking my hair.
I never understood the "DONT TOUCH MY HAIR!!!" women, I love them to touch it, particularly my S/O's. Sometimes if I have just started dating somebody I have to tell them it's ok to touch it b/c I can see them resisting the urge.
Funny topic.

Same here! i even have this guy (i know him lol) who pets my everytime im at dinner lol i busted out with my bangs today and i asked my SO bf what he thought and he looked up under em and said "as long as it's yours it's nice" im only apl but around here healthy hair period is a show stopper.

 

[luckiestdestiny]

I don't know what I am I guess I'm in between mbl and wl alllllllmost wl

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/ha...4-month-pics-w-set-back-explanations-etc.html

When my hair has been at least mbl and I wear it out (flat iron)

When it's down

"Hey Baaaaybiiiiiiiie."

"Hold up can I talk to ya for a minute?
"I just wanted to say you've got some preeety hair"
“Hey Beautiful”
Nothing just blank stare and longing

When it’s not down it’s not such vocal approaches. I’ll get approached, given cards, etc. BUT these men act a fool when it’s down with ridiculous double, triple takes, stopping in their tracks, etc. Oh and when it's in braids, I get tons of approaches...from whitemen. So this past year, with the exception of when I wear it down (then it's all men season as most men seem to love long hair), it's been mostly white men because I've been braided up (oh and my fiance calls me beautiful but he's supposed to)

 

[luckiestdestiny]

oh when I grew up in Germany everyone stayed in my hair, asking can I please touch , and saying "beautiful!" but more about my hair then me lol!

 

[TonicaG]

I mean as hair "obsessed" as I am as a woman I can only imagine if I were a guy things wouldn't change for me lol. I would want my girlfriend/wife to have long/healthy/fly hair too. So I can understand men wanting their girlfriends/wives to have long/healthy/fly hair because dammit it looks good! Let’s keep real! But I would never put her down (if i was a dude) or any other black women who didn't have it.

Being a woman with long healthy hair...its like icing on a cake, a glaze on a honey ham, Frank's Hot Sauce on some home fried chicken...you get my drift! It don’t make you more or less of a woman it’s just an extra "condiment" that just adds that much more flavor to your already delectable deliciousness that makes you, YOU! *looks*

Long hair on a black woman is like seeing a black man from the hood with his pants pulled up with a belt on...you know it exist, you just ain't never seen it, and when you do see it you are in AWE!

LMBO!!! BoingBoing, you are CRAY-ZEE, but I have to agree with you 110%. I'm below BSL and I get weave checked constantly because it's not heard of that we are able to grow our hair and I see that I have become the minority in my area.

I often offer hair tips but I find that it's not well received as they want an overnight solution - Sorry Boo, ain't gon' happen...

When I was wearing the Halle Berry cut (which btw I ROCKED!) it was cool for a quick minute then DH asked that I grow it out and I did.

I THINK the majority of men prefer long hair over short at least my DH does and he's proud when we're out especially around his family because they are true "chickenheads". They tend to make excuses why I have the length - "Oh you got good hair". I politely tell them, I take very good care of it and am very attentive when my hair is talking to me - no, I'm not crazy but when my hair behaves a certain way I listen.

 

[JJamiah]

I rarely ever get Weave Checked; I think maybe once or twice. I also don't wear my hair out much. When I do; no one looks hard.

But the Mr. JJamiah Loves my hair. He likes it because you know......

 

[lana]

I recently started putting my hair up to avoid unwanted attention if I'm out without my DH. That's how much people can stare when they see BSL/APL healthy hair.

I just hit BSL and I really want to be "below" BSL by two inches before I officially claim it. Mostly family and friends ask me what I do to my hair, sometimes I tell them, sometimes I don't - it all depends on if they REALLY want the information. I can break it down!

But the last time I was at a party, I got downright stares. Note to self: Don't start whipping your BSL hair on the dance floor - you may start a riot. (lol) My DH told me to stop showing off! But he was laughing. (lol)