He YANKED my hair!

[fletgee]

Ok. let me set this up for you. I had gotten to bsl when a rare cancer took my hair out and left me with 2 large bald spots. My SO cut the remaining hair down to less then an inch with his clippers.

Fast forward to now (about 6/7 years later). I have just been washing, conditioning, oiling and hiding my hair under scarves all this time. It upset me to look in a mirror. I wear a scarf 24/7. But I do take care of the little hair I have.

But I was curious and decided to blow dry my hair a couple of days ago. Mind you I have not used a blow torch in 6/7 years, let alone my Maxi Glide. So I sat in the living and blew my hair out. I decided trying to use the Maxi would be too much.

My SO came into the livingroom, grabbed my hair and pulled my head back and planted a big wet kiss on me! He said, "You have much more hair than you think you do, keep it up kiddo". "Your hair is a little beyond your neck in the back".

I was stunned and scared that he said I had enough hair for him to grab. Did he lie because he loves me, or wants to encourage me? I put my scarf back on and would not go into the bathroom to look at my hair. I just cried. I'm too afraid to look. I just cannot do it.

But I will continue to take care of my hair. And listen to the wonderful advice
I get here.

 

[indarican]

I think he was telling the truth. you never know until you look.

 

[Janet']

((hugs)) OP, you felt him grab it, right? That's no cause for tears, that's a cause for celebration...Your hair is growing and that's WONDERFUL I am so happy for you!!! Keep up the positive vibes and healthy hair practices and you will be BSL in no time!!!

 

[aymone]

Why would you cry? From your story, you started you hair journey with an inch of hair. Now if your SO grabbed your hair, it must mean that your hair grew a lot and is strong. So I think he's being honest. So keep up the good work lady. And I hope that you will be able to look at your hair and celebrate your hard work. Have a great day.

 

[Sondice]

I think hes def being honest, you should go look, you will def have a pleasant surprise

 

[ShiShiPooPoo]

Girl, I thought you meant someone came past you and yanked your hair or something. Celebrate this good news! Go look in the mirror and love on yourself!!!!

 

[TressObsessed]

Girl! Yes he is being honest, you have hair and you are a survivor. I know how you feel because I have gone from full bsl to el, sl and barely grazing bsl, all different lengths due to self inflicted set backs and I can not stand look at my hair now..I wash and rebraid once a week and my DD had to tell me that it is growing..I hate to look at it and if I didnt have to I wouldnt I even removed all my siggy pics and avatars of how it used to look....and get this my DH doesnt even know that it broke off that's how well I hide it under my wig...I refuse to cut it and I am attempting a transition to natural...bottom line is sometimes it takes others to remind us of how truly far we have come...we are own worst critics..continue to take care of the hair you have and it will continue to flourish...remember that you are a survivor and He is still blessing you.

 

[1QTPie]

Take that scarf off and go look at yourself. He sees you as beautiful and you should try to start thinking of yourself that way too, hair or not. Hair does NOT make you. Trust your hubby, trust yourself more importantly.

Take that frikkin frakkin scarf off and hold your head high missus.


And, I'm glad that you're alive and well.

 

[hair4romheaven]

This made me want to cry. Your SO was telling the truth and your hair is growing back. Don't hide your self love your self. Look in the mirror and embrace your self. YOUR HAIR IS GROWING BACK!!! Believe it and achieve it!

 

[brucebettye]

If your SO could grab your hair and pull your head back and give you a kiss you have some hair on your head. Please take a look at your hair and stop crying. Your LHCF sisters are here for you.

 

[princessdi]

I don't think he would lie to you because I'm sure he knows how sensitive you are about it. Your hair is growing sweetie, congratulations and keep up the good work....and go take a peek-- It will most likely bring a smile to your face.

I hope you're doing better now (health-wise). Take care!

 

[Distorted Barbie]

I admire your strength for dealing what you have dealth with for the past 6/7 yrs. I'm sure your SO was not lying. If you looked in the mirror, you would probably realize that a beautiful, strong woman is looking back at you

 

[divachyk]

OP: (((hugs, hugs and more hugs) ---> You felt him yank it so let's celebrate! Only tears of joy allowed. Praying for you.

 

[againstallodds]

This made me want to cry. Your SO is telling you the truth. Your care and dedication to your hair are paying off and that he's able to grab to and kiss you (I think thought was cute) is proof of that. No sad tears, only happy ones! Take off your scarf and acknowledge your accomplishment and that you've come very far!

 

[Dragon_Of_Vaeros]

I think he's being truthful! There was enough for him to grab. He wants you to realize your hair is beautiful too.

 

[MissLawyerLady]

Like the other ladies, I think your SO was being truthful. He knows all that you've been through and is obviously proud of you for how you've persevered through your illness. He knows that the work you've put into your hair has paid off and he wanted to let you know it too. Celebrate!

 

[notlookingback06]

Girl, I thought you meant someone came past you and yanked your hair or something. Celebrate this good news! Go look in the mirror and love on yourself!!!!

AMEN, AMEN, and AMEN!!!!!

 

[notlookingback06]

Take that scarf off and go look at yourself. He sees you as beautiful and you should try to start thinking of yourself that way too, hair or not. Hair does NOT make you. Trust your hubby, trust yourself more importantly.

Take that frikkin frakkin scarf off and hold your head high missus.


And, I'm glad that you're alive and well.

And again I say, AMEN!!!!

 

[DDTexlaxed]

This was the most touching posts I've ever read. :Rose: He's seen you at your best and worse. He still sees the beauty you have inside and out and your courage in the face of illness. Heck yeah, he was telling the truth!

 

[fletgee]

Ladies,

I would like just like to take a moment to thank you all for your posts. You give me advice, you make me laugh, you make me think. But most of all you challenge me.

A poster asked a simple question. She asked why did I cry. Ay first I felt a little angry. But it made me think. Why did I cry?

I cried because:

My illness is very rare.

I will never go into remission.

This illness will slowly progress thru it's stages.

Untill..

But I also cried because:

My body is tell me it's still fighting.

I won a battle. I thought I would never have hair again.

I am greatful.

And today ain't fu****g until!

*****

Thank you all for challenging me and making me think.

Blessings.

 

[Newtogrow]

What a testimony, and the love of your SO is strengthening!! Be blessed and take a look in the mirror to see the beauty that he sees.

 

[chickle]

Beautiful story, your strength is inspirational, and I am praying for you. Don't be afraid to take your scarf off, I am sure your SO is right!

 

[darlingdiva]

Take that scarf off & revel in your hair!!!!

 

[AwesomelyNappy]

i admire your post. You have to know you DID win a battle, and its nothing wrong with celebrating a victory! hold your head up high, you've come a longgg way, and it's not over yet. Enjoy your beautiful hair and your caring sweetheart. You have a lot to be proud of and happy for, despite everything else. Let your scarf take a vacation, and let your hair, scalp and mind breath! Good luck and many blessings on everything op.

 

[aymone]

Hoping to be that poster, LOL. But the Bible says that a woman's hair is her crown and glory. The devil is a liar and like you've said you have won the battle. So celebrate the Lord's victory. I speak healing in your life in Jesus' name. Be blessed dear, be truly blessed. Remember that lady who bled for 12 years until she touched His garment, trust me she celebrated. And I believe the Lord used that event to challenge you to accept your healing. Cancer always attacks or womanhood: hair, breast, ovaries. But we are God's last creation and the perfect creation. So I say again, healing has come into your house and Jesus is restoring you. God bless the SO.