You're in the middle of a nasty divorce..

Before, or after I passed out from shock?

Seriously, I would put my needs first. For some, that means becoming a single mother, for others, not becoming a mother at all. Either way, whatever you decide is the right decision, as long as it puts your needs first. Personally, I wouldn't try to get back with the ex. Baby won't fix things if its already broken.
 
Why is the divorce nasty? I couldn't imagine myself in the middle of a nasty divorce and pregnant by the man I'm divorcing. I know stranger things have happened, but still . . .
 
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Do we have other kids?
Is he violent?
Can "we" afford another kid?

Lots of questions...

I hate to be a broken record but the #1 cause of death of pregnant women is murder...

Also in TX you can not be granted a divorce for 365 days after you have a baby. So you are going to be stuck with him another 2 yrs!!!
 
^^ yep.

I dont know that I would keep it, especially if I didnt have any other kids. And it also would depend on why it was nasty and how he personally was.
 
Same for me. If I really wanted to be rid of him I would have an abortion.


ladysaraii said:
^^ yep.

I dont know that I would keep it, especially if I didnt have any other kids. And it also would depend on why it was nasty and how he personally was.
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pookaloo83 said:
I would keep my baby and keep it moving.
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^^ ITA. :yep:

However, I do know couple that this actually did happen to and she did keep her baby (it was their 4th) and kept it moving.

A close friend of mine was going through a divorce and found out she was preg with baby#3. She decided to terminate the pregnancy given her circumstance and was already anticipating being a single parent to already 2 children.

Everybody is different so it varies.
 
call me a fool, but i'd keep the baby and hope it brings us back together. keep in mind, i'd keep the baby either way but divorce is something i'd never ever ever everrrr want to do. so even if i hate him at that point, the baby would be like a sign to me or something idk.
 
nah, babies dont fix broken relationships. Doesn't work like that. They are stressful, expensive, cuddly, lovely things.

I know a guy who was in the early stages of divorcing his wife and she ended up pregnant. they stayed together until the little boy was a bit older (like 3) and then divorced.
 
I'd keep it and add child support to my list of demands. Knowing my dh, he'd want to get back together.

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This actually happened to my Aunts DH. His wife got pregnant during the separation and the baby was born in Oct, they divorced in Feb, and he married my Aunt in March. He's was definitely double dipping but she married him anyway...
 
If it's a nasty divorce then we've reached the point where we can't be together..I'd keep my baby and go on with my divorce.
 
Depends on why and how bad the divorce is going. If we could work it out, I would. If not, I'd ask what he wanted because divorcing me means you understand you are getting full custody of any and all children.
 
How bad is it? I think I'd try to reconcile first, TBH. If that wasn't possible, I'd start working on a custody agreement, child support, etc.
 
Browndilocks said:
I'd have it and hand it over to him. :look:
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If I thought he wasn't fit to stay married to, I doubt id want to let him mold and shape my child into adulthood.

Id keep my baby and continue on, especially if we already had other children together.

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Klearli said:
If I thought he wasn't fit to stay married to, I doubt id want to let him mold and shape my child into adulthood.

Id keep my baby and continue on, especially if we already had other children together.

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Not necessarily. There are men who are awesome fathers, yet horrible husbands. The same goes for women.
 
If he's not abusive, I would keep the baby (especially since I want another child desperately) but if he is then I probably would not. It's hard to imagine because my dh is so sweet :love:
 
I wouldn't keep it. That is the main reason why, when I was finished with my exhusband, I never had sex with him again. We didn't have sex 6 month's before I booted him out. Stuff like that happens when you dip and dab.
 
JayAnn0513 said:
Do we have other kids?
Is he violent?
Can "we" afford another kid?

Lots of questions...

I hate to be a broken record but the #1 cause of death of pregnant women is murder...

Also in TX you can not be granted a divorce for 365 days after you have a baby. So you are going to be stuck with him another 2 yrs!!!
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Yep; It doesn't have to be 365 days after, but you can't be prego and granted a divorce.....regardless of who the father is too.

This is a good question though; I'd probably stay married until the lil one was walking then file for divorce again if I still wanted one.
 
Klearli said:
If I thought he wasn't fit to stay married to, I doubt id want to let him mold and shape my child into adulthood.

Id keep my baby and continue on, especially if we already had other children together.

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You'd do something different than what I'd do. Okay.
 
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This happened to a friend of mine. She kept the baby and divorced the husband. However, due to extenuating circumstances they do not have formal support or custody agreement. In order for an agreement to be put in place she would have to make availible information about the child, which she is not willing to do. However, she is of an age, financial position, and career where can manage that.
 
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