You're BFF's SO cheated on her but she wants to get married to him?

[locabouthair]

He cheated twice (that she knows of)

Would you tell her to not get married to him?

I believe if someone cant be faithful if you two are in a rlp, how can they handle the commitment of marriage? JMO. I guess there are exceptions.

Would you tell your bff not to marry this man?

 

[Angelicus]

They won't listen to you. I tried.

 

[shasha8685]

It's been my experience that grown people do what they want...

However, as a friend I would tell her that I don't feel that so and so is not the right person for her. He has cheated on her and I feel that he doesn't respect their relationship. Despite all of that however, she is still my friend and I support her in whatever she does. I only want for her happiness and if she feels that this man makes her happy then I will stand by her in that decision (and be a shoulder to cry on if it shouldn't work out).

That's it. I would state my opinion without condemning her and just let her know that I am always there for her no matter what her decision is.

 

[MrsHdrLe]

I'd tell her once, continue to support her, but decline to be in the wedding, and just stock up on the ice cream n chocolate syrup, wine, and tissues so I could be ready for her if/when she needs me.

 

[ThickHair]

BFF married her cheating boyfriend who did it in the open and continues to cheat. What in the world could I have told her that she didn't already know? Not a darn thing.

See: http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=381996&highlight=

 

[locabouthair]

It's been my experience that grown people do what they want...

However, as a friend I would tell her that I don't feel that so and so is not the right person for her. He has cheated on her and I feel that he doesn't respect their relationship. Despite all of that however, she is still my friend and I support her in whatever she does. I only want for her happiness and if she feels that this man makes her happy then I will stand by her in that decision (and be a shoulder to cry on if it shouldn't work out).

That's it. I would state my opinion without condemning her and just let her know that I am always there for her no matter what her decision is.

This is exactly how I feel. But I would hope she wouldnt marry him. I know someone in this situation and I wonder if her friends told her not to marry him.

 

[chokolate miss]

ITA with everyone else. If you tell her not to do it she will just remove you from the guest list and you will no longer be her BFF...sigh.

 

[Helpmeblongagain]

It's been my experience that grown people do what they want...

However, as a friend I would tell her that I don't feel that so and so is not the right person for her. He has cheated on her and I feel that he doesn't respect their relationship. Despite all of that however, she is still my friend and I support her in whatever she does. I only want for her happiness and if she feels that this man makes her happy then I will stand by her in that decision (and be a shoulder to cry on if it shouldn't work out).

That's it. I would state my opinion without condemning her and just let her know that I am always there for her no matter what her decision is.

This is exactly what I'd do...whatever you do..be honest and make it clear you are not judging her...

 

[jerseygurl]

I'll say my piece and tell her I will be there for her. I won't be in the wedding though

 

[deltagyrl]

Nothing you can do to stop it.

I have a bi ex who recently married. He has never been faithful to anyone and has never shared his bi-ness with his new missus. erplexed

Now there is a slim chance that he'll be faithful but I'm betting that this will end badly.

 

[weaveadiva]

she already knows the deal and doesn't mind
i wouldn't offer my opinion unless asked for it