phynestone
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Okay, so I've met an awesome guy in one of my classes. He's highly intelligent, has a great personality and is so nice. He makes everyone feel like they are special whenever he engages you in conversation. We've been corresponding a little bit and I really like him. I don't know if he's just trying to be nice or if he's actually interested and is trying to play it cool. But I've noticed that he pays attention to everything I say and do. I don't want to mess things up and I've been praying about it. I know it may sound weird to some of you, but I am just amazed by this guy. And even when I happen to overhear the conversations he has with others, it shocks me with the amount of stuff we have in common.
I'm trying to play it cool and not be aggressive, overly analytical or super sensitive about things like I have in the past and things didn't work out with the guy for whatever reason.
What say you? So far we've exchanged numbers and I've suggested we should hang out sometime, but that's it. We're both grad students.
He asked me for my number.
I've suggested we hang out sometime, but I haven't brought it up since. And now he likes to give me hugs every time he sees me, after alluding to some attraction to me. Long story.
I've had a habit of pursuing guys, so I'm trying not to do that now. Giving them all their space now. Over the Thanksgiving holiday after he asked for my number, I called him. He didn't answer, so a few days later (4 days actually) and I decided to text him. Nothing serious, just saying hi and wishing him a good holiday. He texts back the next day and I didn't respond. When I saw him a week later, I kept my distance b/c I was afraid I came off as a little thirsty, but he approached me and wanted to know why I didn't respond. I told him I was busy studying for finals.
I'm going to add to this story just a bit. We talked later that same day and he told me he just wanted to get me alone and give me a nice long hug.
I got up after that and he texts me the next day, apologizing for saying that. I waited a few hours later and decided to call him. (I told him the day before that I prefer phone calls to text messages. Texting makes men lazy, but it's okay once you've been "official" for a while) Anyway, he picks up, even though he was at work and chats with me for a bit. I told him that even though his comment was out of line, I appreciated the apology and that I was over it. He tells me that I told him that he can be honest with me and then his voice changed (he sounded down) and said that's why he doesn't joke around with people very often because his comments are misconstrued. He needed to go and I told him he could call me later that day and he said he would. He didn't. And he didn't call me the next day. It is now Sunday and I still haven't heard from him, so I won't sweat it. I would like to date other guys, but I really don't get approached very often. Looks and stares definitely, but nothing else. I don't think I'm ugly. I don't dress inappropriately, I spend time in quality venues - museums, nice lounges, stores, etc. - but I guess it's just not my time. Oh well.
I'm trying to play it cool and not be aggressive, overly analytical or super sensitive about things like I have in the past and things didn't work out with the guy for whatever reason.
What say you? So far we've exchanged numbers and I've suggested we should hang out sometime, but that's it. We're both grad students.
He asked me for my number.
I've suggested we hang out sometime, but I haven't brought it up since. And now he likes to give me hugs every time he sees me, after alluding to some attraction to me. Long story.
I've had a habit of pursuing guys, so I'm trying not to do that now. Giving them all their space now. Over the Thanksgiving holiday after he asked for my number, I called him. He didn't answer, so a few days later (4 days actually) and I decided to text him. Nothing serious, just saying hi and wishing him a good holiday. He texts back the next day and I didn't respond. When I saw him a week later, I kept my distance b/c I was afraid I came off as a little thirsty, but he approached me and wanted to know why I didn't respond. I told him I was busy studying for finals.
I'm going to add to this story just a bit. We talked later that same day and he told me he just wanted to get me alone and give me a nice long hug.