Your husband/man has something to tell you....

[blasianbeauty]

but before breaking the news he acts very suicidal and violent towards himself. He won't tell you what it is unless you promise not to leave him because if you do, he may kill himself. So you tell him yes everything will be fine but then he tells you that he got someone else pregnant. What would be your next course of action? No, this is not me just in case yall are wondering, but someone very close and she doesn't know what to do because she's scared he may hurt himself (he's already been punchin himself in da head).

 

[locabouthair]

You post really interesting stories.

I really dont know what I do.. I would definitely want to leave him though...

If I stayed, we'd be living like roomates not husband and wife. We wouldnt have nothing to talk about except the bills and the kids..

 

[KEWLKAT103]

Sounds like he's manipulating her to me.
That's not a fair thing for him to ask of her.
All the punching in the head and suicide threats seem like extra dramatics so she won't leave him.

 

[blasianbeauty]

You post really interesting stories.

I really dont know what I do.. I would definitely want to leave him though...

If I stayed, we'd be living like roomates not husband and wife. We wouldnt have nothing to talk about except the bills and the kids..

I know but I really don't know what to tell her. I think because she is a devout Christian and has been married to him for over ten years and has two children already she feels ovligated to stay. And I agree with you, we'd be sleeping seperate tonight and indefinitely until I figured out a plan.

 

[Almaz]

Okay THIS Man is a Manipulative ARSE HOLE because he was'nt having thought so Suicide when he was shagging his side piece. ME Myself. SHYTE

I would be like go ahead kill yourself I don't care. If a man cheats on me I am out of the picture. Don't care HOW much I love him or he says he loves me cause if he did HE would NOT be out screwing another woman. And TRUST me on this.

All this drama for nothing he should have kept his penis in the right place and we would not be HAVING this conversation.

Wow this sounds like a NOVELA

It was not the FIRST time he was with this other woman he just got caught up and he had to tell her before the other woman did.

NO he is having thoughts of suicide because of the consequences of his actions.

Boy men will try anything. What WHAT is he going to say to her now.

BABY Issss just Screwing her
BUT I LOVESSSS YOU.

Devout Christian my butt he is a devout Arse hole. Who did not care about his family or what this would do to her. NOW hes got 3 kids to support. Some people can work through that but I don't think I could just the fact of this man that I Vowed before man and G-d to stay faithful too and he basically SHYTED on me his kids and those vows. We gots NOTHING to talk about.

My prayers are with all of them

 

[blasianbeauty]

Sounds like he's manipulating her to me.
That's not a fair thing for him to ask of her.
All the punching in the head and suicide threats seem like extra dramatics so she won't leave him.

I agree...it's like he wants sympathy for screwin around and producing a child and it seems like it's working somewhat. The woman plans to keep the baby despite the circumstances.

 

[fmnnity]

I'd leave. You see cheating nowadays could result in death. Suicide . . . hmph as far as I'm concerned he had unprotected sex which means my life doesn't meet sh!t to him so why should his mean anything to me. Oh and yes he is manipulating her.

 

[princessnad]

Suicide? Better him than me when he brings HIV home.

 

[kawista9]

Suicide? Better him than me when he brings HIV home.

lolYES!!!! He is not going to kill himself. They always threaten stupid stuff and plus according to bible, you can divorce when either one of you commit adultery. Let him go or atleast walk away for a while because he is going to go back and do what he did again.

 

[LoveLiLi]

but before breaking the news he acts very suicidal and violent towards himself. He won't tell you what it is unless you promise not to leave him because if you do, he may kill himself. So you tell him yes everything will be fine but then he tells you that he got someone else pregnant. What would be your next course of action? No, this is not me just in case yall are wondering, but someone very close and she doesn't know what to do because she's scared he may hurt himself (he's already been punchin himself in da head).

I would make the promise just to hear what he has to say, already knowing that it would be something horrible (he cheated and contracted HIV, he's been having sex with men, he had sex with your mom etc).

He is threatening to hurt himself in order to manipulate her into staying with him. He is being so over-the-top in hopes that her fear of him hurting himself will overshadow her anger - he's going to play this to the hilt to get his way and to avoid repercussions.

I would leave him - no pretending to care about his feelings and entertaining his bs. If (and this is highly unlikely) he kills himself I would feel that he was destructive and probably going to kill himself over some other nonsense eventually.

I had someone break down and cry, say they couldn't go on and threaten to kill himself after he seriously messed up. I hung up, got a snack and watched TV. When he called the next day, I asked him why he was still alive.

I would not be a prisoner to him just because he puts on a show and makes (usually empty) threats.

 

[FeelinIt]

but before breaking the news he acts very suicidal and violent towards himself. He won't tell you what it is unless you promise not to leave him because if you do, he may kill himself. So you tell him yes everything will be fine but then he tells you that he got someone else pregnant. What would be your next course of action? No, this is not me just in case yall are wondering, but someone very close and she doesn't know what to do because she's scared he may hurt himself (he's already been punchin himself in da head).

I would have to bounce and he would have to die....

Morbid you say?


Coldhearted maybe??


I say call his bluff....


That is toooo much drama right there. I would have to pack my bags and leave him alone. He's got too much drama going on AND now he's got somebody else pregnant. Time to go...bye, bye see ya now n laterzzz!

 

[FeelinIt]

I would make the promise just to hear what he has to say, already knowing that it would be something horrible (he cheated and contracted HIV, he's been having sex with men, he had sex with your mom etc).

He is threatening to hurt himself in order to manipulate her into staying with him. He is being so over-the-top in hopes that her fear of him hurting himself will overshadow her anger - he's going to play this to the hilt to get his way and to avoid repercussions.

I would leave him - no pretending to care about his feelings and entertaining his bs. If (and this is highly unlikely) he kills himself I would feel that he was destructive and probably going to kill himself over some other nonsense eventually.

I had someone break down and cry, say they couldn't go on and threaten to kill himself after he seriously messed up. I hung up, got a snack and watched TV. When he called the next day, I asked him why he was still alive.

I would not be a prisoner to him just because he puts on a show and makes (usually empty) threats.

ohhhhhh weee seee.....i like you, i really like your gang-STER

That was so awesome!

And OP pose this question to her...what if he extends his gracious self induced exit to her and the kids? I'm sorry but when a dude says something like that, he may be crazy enough to kill the whole family. I'm NOT going out like that.

She really needs to think about that.

 

[Naveah2050]

This happened to my aunt and uncle - well when he told her he cheated on her with her bestfriend, she decided to leave him even though he threatened to kill himself.....fastforward, he took an overdose and called her to tell her that he couldnt live without her etc....obviously she was concerned but the funniest thing is before she even got the chance to react he totally freaked out and panicked and called the ambulance himself - he was so scared of dying he couldnt even wait for them and started wandering around trying to take himself to hospital....


I guess i would just leave him to deal with the consequences of his actions - i would call his blufff cos sho nuff after that he would be as good as dead to me anyway.

 

[tocktick]

but before breaking the news he acts very suicidal and violent towards himself. He won't tell you what it is unless you promise not to leave him because if you do, he may kill himself. So you tell him yes everything will be fine but then he tells you that he got someone else pregnant. What would be your next course of action? No, this is not me just in case yall are wondering, but someone very close and she doesn't know what to do because she's scared he may hurt himself (he's already been punchin himself in da head).

I find the bold to be emotional blackmail. Many men act this way when they know they've flucked up and don't want their woman to leave; I think it's disgusting behaviour since many aren't really actually depressed or genuinely suicidal. Therefore, I couldn't see myself saying "yes" to anything.

However, for the purposes of your hypothetical situation, I would make him get help for his "issues" even before he told me the truth but I would be leaving him asap anyway. He wasn't mentally unstable when he was having his fun hitting it raw with some random chick. I would feel no guilt about going back on my own foolish promises about staying with him. I'd be out!

 

[~NanCeBoTwin~]

Had a similiar issue with my ex. He didn't do anything wrong, I just wanted out of the relationship (dd's father), we were much younger (early 20's). Anyway, he started telling me how he would kill himself and doing ridiculous stuff to himself (hitting, punching). So I very nicely called his father and sister, he's in the same room begging me not to make the call. Yeah right, umm, "Hi, Mr. ex's father, umm I just broke up with your son and he's talking about suicide. You may want to come and help him get it together. Oh why yes, you can speak with him hold on."......
I'm a firm beleiver if a person wants to kill or harm themselves they won't tell anyone, instead they'll keep it to themselves. Knowing human compassion no matter what would make others step in and try to help. So, if you are telling me what you are gonna do to yourself, I'm not playing those games about what I need to do, No....I'm gonna call and get you some kind of help.

I don't do manipulation, games, or trickery.

 

[caramelmocha]

Let him keep actin violent towards himself And maybe he can beatsome sense back in his head while he's at it

 

[FluffyRed]

The cheating is one thing. But even if he had NOT cheated, his threats and violence ALONE are reason enough to get the hell away from him.

That ish would scare the CRAP outta me! I know it's just manipulation, but it shows where his mind is.

 

[LBoogie]

but before breaking the news he acts very suicidal and violent towards himself. He won't tell you what it is unless you promise not to leave him because if you do, he may kill himself. So you tell him yes everything will be fine but then he tells you that he got someone else pregnant. What would be your next course of action? No, this is not me just in case yall are wondering, but someone very close and she doesn't know what to do because she's scared he may hurt himself (he's already been punchin himself in da head).

Sorry, but that's hilarious.

ME, I'd roll out (as I have when my ex got someone pregnant on me) and he didn't kill himself...I dont think.

I would never stay with someone JUST because they're threatening to kill themselves (besides, that's just a scare tactic). Why give up MY "life" so that he can have his? And if he is stupid enough to off himself,...oh well. What can one do?

Suicide threats are in the old book of tricks.
I'd punch him in the head on my way out of the door just because.

THis same Ex I speak of threatened to kill himself at one point because I tried to break up with him. He went into my bathroom with what he claimed was a half-loaded gun, and I heard him in there pulling the trigger through the door. I told him "don't get that ****e on my new towels" and left. When i came back, that fool was watching my TV talking about "I'm so sorry, please just don't leave me."

 

[blasianbeauty]

This happened to my aunt and uncle - well when he told her he cheated on her with her bestfriend, she decided to leave him even though he threatened to kill himself.....fastforward, he took an overdose and called her to tell her that he couldnt live without her etc....obviously she was concerned but the funniest thing is before she even got the chance to react he totally freaked out and panicked and called the ambulance himself - he was so scared of dying he couldnt even wait for them and started wandering around trying to take himself to hospital....


I guess i would just leave him to deal with the consequences of his actions - i would call his blufff cos sho nuff after that he would be as good as dead to me anyway.

So did your aunt stay with him after all that?

 

[LBoogie]

Let him keep actin violent towards himself And maybe he can beatsome sense back in his head while he's at it

 

[blasianbeauty]

Let him keep actin violent towards himself And maybe he can beatsome sense back in his head while he's at it

 

[MissMeWithThatIsh]

Man, he needs to stop.
Nobody's going to feel sorry for you because you purposely slipped "and fell" in some wet wet and stayed long enoguh to impregnate.

 

[brownelovely]

I have a cousin who went through this and the lady ended up having twins She stayed but please believe that she still hurts to this day. I know I couldn't stay because everytime I hear about that child I would and I wouldn't want to sepnd the rest of my life doing that to my kids or myself.

It's a hurtful situation to stick through and I think his way of making her suffer through a decision is to put his life on the line. Only problem is, why wasn't he punching himself in the head when he was cheating? It was all fun and games but now the pregnancy is too much to handle.

No way would I consider staying.

Please tell her to remember this: If she got pregnant by another man, he would leave her indefinitely. Men are not as forgiving as women and he wouldn't consider putting up with it, unless he's in the minority that will.

 

[chocolatethai]

when i first read this i assumed this was a SO and i was all deceided to leave but now that i know they are married with kids that makes it a harder decision. i think he is being super manipulative and is just trying to trap her. i had an ex boyfriend threaten to kill himself if i left him ....needless to say we broke up and he is still alive

 

[nychaelasymone]

POOF be gone fool! And please don't make a mess on my carpet.......Hell is looking for a few good men....get in line!

 

[TCatt86]

I would leave him for cheating and trying to manipulate me.

If he was suicidal he wouldn't be threatening to kill himself he just would.

 

[Makenzie]

I would make the promise just to hear what he has to say, already knowing that it would be something horrible (he cheated and contracted HIV, he's been having sex with men, he had sex with your mom etc).

He is threatening to hurt himself in order to manipulate her into staying with him. He is being so over-the-top in hopes that her fear of him hurting himself will overshadow her anger - he's going to play this to the hilt to get his way and to avoid repercussions.

I would leave him - no pretending to care about his feelings and entertaining his bs. If (and this is highly unlikely) he kills himself I would feel that he was destructive and probably going to kill himself over some other nonsense eventually.

I had someone break down and cry, say they couldn't go on and threaten to kill himself after he seriously messed up. I hung up, got a snack and watched TV. When he called the next day, I asked him why he was still alive.

I would not be a prisoner to him just because he puts on a show and makes (usually empty) threats.

Had a similiar issue with my ex. He didn't do anything wrong, I just wanted out of the relationship (dd's father), we were much younger (early 20's). Anyway, he started telling me how he would kill himself and doing ridiculous stuff to himself (hitting, punching). So I very nicely called his father and sister, he's in the same room begging me not to make the call. Yeah right, umm, "Hi, Mr. ex's father, umm I just broke up with your son and he's talking about suicide. You may want to come and help him get it together. Oh why yes, you can speak with him hold on."......
I'm a firm beleiver if a person wants to kill or harm themselves they won't tell anyone, instead they'll keep it to themselves. Knowing human compassion no matter what would make others step in and try to help. So, if you are telling me what you are gonna do to yourself, I'm not playing those games about what I need to do, No....I'm gonna call and get you some kind of help.

I don't do manipulation, games, or trickery.

ITA. He's being manipulative. He wasn't worried about his family when he was sleeping with his chick on the side. Please.

If she is actually worried that he will hurt himself, have her call his family and inform them of his mental state. Let them deal with while she bounces.

Also, let's just say he is serious about killing himself, how many times have we heard about murder suicides? He'll kill himself but decides to take her and the kids out as well. I'd leave because of that alone. Don't try to emotionally blackmail me, that's shows he's not right in the head ANYWAY.

 

[Almaz]

OMG I Can't Breathe LMAO at the bolded. hahahahahahah hahahahaha ahahahahaha hahahahaha Yep that would be me hahaha




I had someone break down and cry, say they couldn't go on and threaten to kill himself after he seriously messed up. I hung up, got a snack and watched TV. When he called the next day, I asked him why he was still alive.

I would not be a prisoner to him just because he puts on a show and makes (usually empty) threats.[/quote]

 

[Nyssa28]

This happened to my aunt and uncle - well when he told her he cheated on her with her bestfriend, she decided to leave him even though he threatened to kill himself.....fastforward, he took an overdose and called her to tell her that he couldnt live without her etc....obviously she was concerned but the funniest thing is before she even got the chance to react he totally freaked out and panicked and called the ambulance himself - he was so scared of dying he couldnt even wait for them and started wandering around trying to take himself to hospital....


I guess i would just leave him to deal with the consequences of his actions - i would call his blufff cos sho nuff after that he would be as good as dead to me anyway.

 

[Helpmeblongagain]

I'd leave him n call the authorities n tell them hes suicidal...lock his crazy manipulative arse away...

hes full of it!! he was trying to commit suicide anyway...once he decided raw-doggin was cute...smh...