CoCoEspresso
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I have recently had an epiphany.
All the complaining and boohooing about another failed romance doesn't get me anywhere because I end up in the same place a few months later.
I had to do some soul-searching and realize that I am the common denominator. Yeah, Tyrone did such and such, but where was MY place in the demise? What did I do wrong? Even if he screwed me over big time, did I allow him to? Did I see the warning signs ahead of time so that I can get of dodge?
Rather than hold on to old hurts, we as women need to mature and take responsibility for our own actions. The only person you can control is yourself, and the only variable you can control is how you react to every situation. Even though we may think that we are over past hurts, we slowly and surely accumulate baggage that weighs us down and hinders us from the receiving of greater things to come. Until we properly come to terms with our issues, we can never "get over" them.
ACKNOWLEDGE, ACCEPT, FORGIVE, TRANSCEND.
While I know that it is easier said than done to hold a mirror up and be brutally honest with yourself, it is necessary.
"It's time to stop being polite, and start getting real."
All the complaining and boohooing about another failed romance doesn't get me anywhere because I end up in the same place a few months later.
I had to do some soul-searching and realize that I am the common denominator. Yeah, Tyrone did such and such, but where was MY place in the demise? What did I do wrong? Even if he screwed me over big time, did I allow him to? Did I see the warning signs ahead of time so that I can get of dodge?
Rather than hold on to old hurts, we as women need to mature and take responsibility for our own actions. The only person you can control is yourself, and the only variable you can control is how you react to every situation. Even though we may think that we are over past hurts, we slowly and surely accumulate baggage that weighs us down and hinders us from the receiving of greater things to come. Until we properly come to terms with our issues, we can never "get over" them.
ACKNOWLEDGE, ACCEPT, FORGIVE, TRANSCEND.
While I know that it is easier said than done to hold a mirror up and be brutally honest with yourself, it is necessary.
"It's time to stop being polite, and start getting real."