Tene
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So I was showing my boyfriend pics of Jada and Will's son's and daughter's hair. I was telling him how ridiculous it is that they did that to their daughter's hair. Then I was showing him how much hair their son has. One of the pics was showing his hair curly and I was telling him it looks like he took his mother's hair type. He tried to say that they put something in his hair to make it curly. He said that Jada's hair was real short. I told him yeah it was until she started growing it out. But her hair was curly when it was short. I told him there is nothing that you can put in your hair to make it look like that. I said what ever curl pattern or texture you have, that's what it will look like with a chemical just elongated. I said maybe you could get it to look like that with a curly perm and they set it on rods but I'm not sure. I said if they did have something like that you wouldn't have people on hair boards asking how can they get their hair to look like that.
Then he tried to say Rachel True had a curly perm. I told him that is her natural hair. He said when she was on hanging with Mr. Cooper it was always straight. I said she probably blowdried it and flat ironed it. I didn't know Holly Robison Peete had curly hair until I seen her years later. I told him I could flat iron my hair and make it look like it's relaxed. Then he tried to say that I manipulate my hair to get it to form spiral curls. I told him that is the way my hair grows out of my head. I said I can show you my hair when it's wet with no product and it wil look the same. The only difference is the products make my hair even shinier than what it is. I said if I didn't manipulate my hair it would hang. I told him my hair only hangs when wet and then when it dries, it shrinks. I said those are properties of natural hair. He tried to say that when I had first did the big chop my hair was just curly and now it
is spiral curls.
So he thinks it's something I'm putting in my hair or manipulation that makes my hair that way. The reason my hair looked different was because the relaxed hair had stretched my curls. So after a month my curls formed to how they should be. Plus I also use to use the denman to brush my hair, and that just removes my curls. Then he said well if you was natural you would be like the people in Africa that get up and don't do anything to their hair. I said when did natural mean not doing anything to your hair. I said just becuase you're natural doesn't mean you don't take care of you hair. I said natural means that your hair isn't chemically altered.
Then he said well I use conditioner and that's a chemical. I said yes their are chemicals in conditioners. But those condition your hair they do nothing to alter your texture. I said the only thing that does that are chemicals like relaxers. Natural hair has to be taken care of just like relaxed hair. I said africans do their hair also. I said so now you're trying to say that they're not civilized and just run around looking any kind of way. He's ignorant just like alot of these other black people when it comes to our hair. I think he believes that all black folks hair look alike and that if it's curly they've done something to it. That's just very sad how black people think. Black people have various hair textures just like we have various shades of color.
Then he tried to say Rachel True had a curly perm. I told him that is her natural hair. He said when she was on hanging with Mr. Cooper it was always straight. I said she probably blowdried it and flat ironed it. I didn't know Holly Robison Peete had curly hair until I seen her years later. I told him I could flat iron my hair and make it look like it's relaxed. Then he tried to say that I manipulate my hair to get it to form spiral curls. I told him that is the way my hair grows out of my head. I said I can show you my hair when it's wet with no product and it wil look the same. The only difference is the products make my hair even shinier than what it is. I said if I didn't manipulate my hair it would hang. I told him my hair only hangs when wet and then when it dries, it shrinks. I said those are properties of natural hair. He tried to say that when I had first did the big chop my hair was just curly and now it
is spiral curls.
So he thinks it's something I'm putting in my hair or manipulation that makes my hair that way. The reason my hair looked different was because the relaxed hair had stretched my curls. So after a month my curls formed to how they should be. Plus I also use to use the denman to brush my hair, and that just removes my curls. Then he said well if you was natural you would be like the people in Africa that get up and don't do anything to their hair. I said when did natural mean not doing anything to your hair. I said just becuase you're natural doesn't mean you don't take care of you hair. I said natural means that your hair isn't chemically altered.
Then he said well I use conditioner and that's a chemical. I said yes their are chemicals in conditioners. But those condition your hair they do nothing to alter your texture. I said the only thing that does that are chemicals like relaxers. Natural hair has to be taken care of just like relaxed hair. I said africans do their hair also. I said so now you're trying to say that they're not civilized and just run around looking any kind of way. He's ignorant just like alot of these other black people when it comes to our hair. I think he believes that all black folks hair look alike and that if it's curly they've done something to it. That's just very sad how black people think. Black people have various hair textures just like we have various shades of color.
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And yes, we have come to conclusion that the rest of the world, hell even the majority of black people, are ignorant about black hair. We here on LHCF are the not the norm in society so you might as well get used to the ignorance.
erplexed
. My BF knows nothing of hair, poor darling. To him, it's just something on top of people's heads, no more consideration given.
