SurferBabe
Well-Known Member
I just came out of a year long relationship in which I was engaged. I'm mid-twenties and he's early twenties. When I met him he really didn't have anything going for himself but a part-time job and no HS Diploma, but he said he had aspirations of becoming rich, and I believed him.
I made more than him and often paid for stuff. When he lost his job I bought us food, bought him gas, and gave him a little money for himself. He looked for work but there are not many opportunities without a HS Diploma. I was laid off and we were both out of work which made things hard for us. He was very kind, caring, loving, etc... but he really didn't seem to have aspirations to provide. Some men will go rake leaves everyday in order to make sure they have the things they need. I had to ask my mother/father for money most of the time.
I became very down and depressed because of this. I always wanted more for my life and realized I wasn't where I wanted to be at my age. The more depressed I became, the more depressed he became. So I broke up with him because I needed time to work on myself. We agreed that once I got better, we would work on us. He said he would spend this time working on himself as well--getting a GED, finding a job, etc... He said he wasn't looking to be with anyone else, nor was I.
Three days after the breakup, he meets an 18 year old college freshman. A week later they start spending a lot of time together and get intimate. Now three weeks have passed and he has said that though he loves me, he's conflicted as to who he wants. They have actually started talking about their future together. His family hates her and loves me, and they have told me that he said he's with her because she's working on being a doctor so she's going to be rich and he doesn't have to worry about money with her. They are living off of her student loan money. Obviously his family believes he has lost his mind and that he has become obsessed with money--something he never cared much about before.
I've been so depressed lately because I feel like he replaced me with someone who can provide. I realized how stupid it is for a woman to feel this way. He's in his twenties depending on an 18 year old to buy him food and here I am upset that she can provide what I can't. I sound just like the women I looked down on, but now I realize that love can make you irrational.
I need some tough love. Why was I so dumb??
I made more than him and often paid for stuff. When he lost his job I bought us food, bought him gas, and gave him a little money for himself. He looked for work but there are not many opportunities without a HS Diploma. I was laid off and we were both out of work which made things hard for us. He was very kind, caring, loving, etc... but he really didn't seem to have aspirations to provide. Some men will go rake leaves everyday in order to make sure they have the things they need. I had to ask my mother/father for money most of the time.
I became very down and depressed because of this. I always wanted more for my life and realized I wasn't where I wanted to be at my age. The more depressed I became, the more depressed he became. So I broke up with him because I needed time to work on myself. We agreed that once I got better, we would work on us. He said he would spend this time working on himself as well--getting a GED, finding a job, etc... He said he wasn't looking to be with anyone else, nor was I.
Three days after the breakup, he meets an 18 year old college freshman. A week later they start spending a lot of time together and get intimate. Now three weeks have passed and he has said that though he loves me, he's conflicted as to who he wants. They have actually started talking about their future together. His family hates her and loves me, and they have told me that he said he's with her because she's working on being a doctor so she's going to be rich and he doesn't have to worry about money with her. They are living off of her student loan money. Obviously his family believes he has lost his mind and that he has become obsessed with money--something he never cared much about before.
I've been so depressed lately because I feel like he replaced me with someone who can provide. I realized how stupid it is for a woman to feel this way. He's in his twenties depending on an 18 year old to buy him food and here I am upset that she can provide what I can't. I sound just like the women I looked down on, but now I realize that love can make you irrational.
I need some tough love. Why was I so dumb??