would you ever get with a dude u felt was out of your league??

Nelli04

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its hard to explain, but a guy I like and he likes me (at least he did)

but he is just so ****in sexy that I just dont feel that I can match his sexy lol.
but since I am feeling this way, would it be a bad idea to persue a relationship?? I can just see myself being like 'why is he with me' lol
I basically dont think I am cute enough for him :nono:
 
I've been there! Being with someone like tht made me strive to be better in every way possible honestly!
 
Tyra did a show on this a while back. You should definately give it a try! If he's going out with you there must be something about you he likes, your personality, your brain, and you may not think so much of yourself but he may think you are GORGEOUS. Model looking men aren't always looking for a model looking girlfriend. He could be a man that values more than the outside. Go for it.
 
*gives the sly condescending side eye*
Girl, aint' no such thing. These hurr mens is lucky enough if I give them a chance. Now if you'll excuse me I'm off to find Shemar Moore so I can ignore him.
 
I say go get him!

Regardless of the zeitgeist that dictates that a chick need to be humble in her approach to her man expectations....I say aim high.

If I ever run into the newly divorced Mista Dwayne Johnson, my fat *** is shootin to be wife #2.
 
I do it all the time. I always get asked out by these sexy, chiseled men. I don't know what it is. I just let it give me the motivation to get to my career goals.
 
I was in this same situation a minute ago and I let it pass by, That guy appeal to all of my senses! SEXY was an understatement!
 
Fake it until you make it! And ignore the haters (because there will be plenty). There is more to a person than what is on the outside. He likes the whole you, you like the whole him, so go for it!:yep:
 
Isnt this what we try to do anyway? :lachen:

Always trying to date a man who has MORE than us in the looks and finance department?

We be damned if we date someone on the same "level" as us or lower. :rolleyes:

There was a couple guys in college and when i found out he was feeling me i was just :blush:....cause I would daydream about being with him never realizing that I could get with his fine ***....My friend told me he asked about me and i was like "ARE YOU SURE..maybe he meant the other girl sittin next to us at lunch..."

One of them had more depth than i realized. Everyone saw his face and body and to hell with his brain..He was a really nice person inside and out.

I do believe some guys prey on insecure women below their league to control them..Women get so wrapped up in their trophy man that they get mistreated for it.
 
I say give it a try. There are more to a realtionship than "awww they look like a cute couple"...that's BS to me. Just b/c you look good together doesn't mean you're relationship will be good.

Be confident and happy that he likes you the way you are. I've been there in high school and trust me the guy only made my life better. And I say that because he made me see that although I felt I wasn't perfect, he made me feel like I could just be myself and there will be plenty of guys who appreciate that.

Trust, there are women who will want to be where you are regardless of how fly you look on a daily with him or any guy for that matter. Be yourself and give him a chance!
 
No man is out of my league. There are some things he contributes, and some things I contribute.

If a guy is genuinely interested in you, he thinks you're at his level or above.

Thinking a guy is too 'this' or too 'that' for you is a recipe for disaster. There will be issues with insecurity--a HUGE turn off for guys.

What happens when you see other women look his way? What if those women are what you'd consider more at his level? What happens when he tells you you're beautiful and perfect for him? Are you going to accept his compliments because you know you're a catch, or are you going to turn down his compliments because you don't see yourself as a woman worthy of his attention?

When a man is hunting, he is looking for a prize. If you know you're a good catch, and present yourself as such, he won't mind treating you as such. If you make him seem like he's too good for you--he'll either be turned off or take advantage of you.

Never think a guy is out of your league. Sure he's fine, sexy, etc...okay now what about you? Attractive? Funny? Intelligent? Dependable? You are just as much of a catch.
 
I don't really feel like a dude is out of my league unless he's like gay or something.

I used to feel like that when I was younger. . .like HS/freshman yr college. . .until I started finding out that all those guys had crushes on me! So then when they came up to me and told me or whatever, it was like WTH. . .I must have "it". . .and I must be even badder than I already think I am :lachen: And there birthed my big ego :spinning:
 
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I wouldn't before, but that was my silly, immature self talking back then.
Now, I would do it in a heartbeat. You should too. :yep:
 
Thanks for all the input, I was about to throw in the towel because he did not talk to me at all since I had last met up with him, but he hit me up today :)
So I think being friends with him, will be best...and I would not approach it any other way if it were another guy :)
He's already making me want to be a better me lol
 
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