Would You Be Ok With Your So Making You A Beneficiary Of A Policy?

[FemmeFatale]

You two aren't married, have no children together, and you don't live together. He has no children, is the youngest in his family with one surviving parent that lives outside the country.

He's in love and wants to make sure you're taken care of if he were to pass away. He also wants to open up a joint account.

Would you be ok with this?

 

[Maynard]

If we get married, its no problem. Go to the court house if its that urgent.

 

[FemmeFatale]

If we get married, its no problem. Go to the court house if its that urgent.

But you're not married and you (the gf) aren't there yet.

 

[PretteePlease]

Am I ok, is cashmere soft, does a flawless diamond sparkle,

I'm ok with being a signer on his account but not an owner.

I'm also ok with being the beneficiary on the policy.

Is he in failing health?

 

[Ogoma]

I would be okay with it. As long as it makes him happy, I can deal with it .

 

[LiftedUp]

Yes he can if he wants to. However, I hope he's not expecting me to reciprocate. I'm not making a boyfriend/fiancé a beneficiary on anything.

 

[sounbeweavable]

Yes he can if he wants to. However, I hope he's not expecting me to reciprocate. I'm not making a boyfriend/fiancé a beneficiary on anything.

That would be my concern too. I'd also wonder why he wants to take that big of a step without being married. I'm not a fan of skipping steps.

 

[FemmeFatale]

Yes he can if he wants to. However, I hope he's not expecting me to reciprocate. I'm not making a boyfriend/fiancé a beneficiary on anything.

No expectation on your end to do anything.

 

[SelahOco]

I'm all for a man taking care of the woman in his life. I'd take it as a loving gesture.

 

[Kiowa]

I watch too much IDTv...
I'd be thinking he wants me to reciprocate, and then later I would end up in a starring role on an episode of "Disappeared' or something...

 

[nathansgirl1908]

In general, why would a woman be opposed to this? Is this one of those "hypothetical" threads meant to be a slick way to brag about something a SO is doing?

 

[LovelyNaps26]

In general, why would a woman be opposed to this? Is this one of those "hypothetical" threads meant to be a slick way to brag about something a SO is doing?

aww c'mon don't be that way sometimes it's a friend or relative of the OP's or something

 

[BEAUTYU2U]

Yes, what's the downside exactly? If I didn't have family, I'd make my bestie the beneficiary. So a significant other is understandable.

 

[Charlie555]

I have an aunt who was beneficiary on her boyfriends life policy. He died & she collected. I see nothing wrong as it was his idea.

 

[FemmeFatale]

In general, why would a woman be opposed to this? Is this one of those "hypothetical" threads meant to be a slick way to brag about something a SO is doing?

No it's a question, quit being a cynic.

 

[sounbeweavable]

Maybe he's planning on faking his own death and framing you.

j/k I've been watching too many Lifetime movies.

 

[BEAUTYU2U]

Maybe he's planning on faking his own death and framing you.

j/k I've been watching too many Lifetime movies.

Lmao! Now there's a loophole.

 

[Kalani]

Maybe he's planning on faking his own death and framing you.

j/k I've been watching too many Lifetime movies.

This is the first thing I thought of!!

 

[jeanghrey]

I watch too much IDTv...
I'd be thinking he wants me to reciprocate, and then later I would end up in a starring role on an episode of "Disappeared' or something...

U and me are --->here<-----, I'd be paranoid as hayle about eating anything he cooked or taking any trips together lol

 

[InsertCleverNameHere]

Yes, what's the downside exactly? If I didn't have family, I'd make my bestie the beneficiary. So a significant other is understandable.

I used to be a beneficiary on a friend's policy when she was estranged from her family and had not yet started a family herself. I was under no obligation to reciprocate as I did have family.

So yes, I would be okay with it.

 

[FemmeFatale]

Ok let's say it's not completely random (you're not being set up) as he was just hospitalized and had surgery.

 

[LaBelleLL]

meh why not? i will say tho that personally, that would make me nervous due to my past experiences with boyfriends that have come on very strong or have acted in a way to show me we are on two different pages.

eta: and i'm more family oriented so it would actually bother me a bit that he didn't have anyone in his life to be the first beneficiary. idk - i def take note of stuff like that.

i'd say ok but i would def read into it.

 

[lonelysky]

If I wasn't expected to reciprocate I would do it. I would take it to mean that he cared about me and would want me to have something if he were to pass unexpectedly...that's saying that we had been together for a couple of years.

If there was a current circumstance like a surgery or illness prompting this, I would tell him to make one if his parents the primary beneficiary and me a secondary.

 

[nathansgirl1908]

No it's a question, quit being a cynic.

Sure.

 

[SelahOco]

This does mean you need to pay for his funeral though.

 

[Mortons]

Absolutely.

ETA: I dont want their family knowing because I dont want any folk tying me up in litigation if something happens to them. I can see how that would go already

 

[Enyo]

Nope. I just don't fully trust people. Not even the ones I'm dating.

 

[Maynard]

Absolutely.

ETA: I dont want their family knowing because I dont want any folk tying me up in litigation if something happens to them. I can see how that would go already

This is why I wouldnt be too keen on the idea. Ive seen this happen. Familes after death are out for blood...especially when you arent their blood. Unt uhhh...

 

[silverbuttons]

He can't leave some to a charity? He's leaving it all to me and were not even married?

 

[FemmeFatale]

He can't leave some to a charity? He's leaving it all to me and were not even married?

No not all, just one.