Would You Be Offended If Your So/dh

[dancinstallion]

Said to you " the only reason I am still with you is because of your pretty face and your good cooch."

Or would you take it as a compliment?

 

[fluffyforever]

Said to you " the only reason I am still with you is because of your pretty face and your good cooch."

Or would you take it as a compliment?

In what way is that a compliment? DH would be ex DH in short order if that wasn't said as a loving joke.

 

[ItsMeLilLucky]

Um, I would be offended as hayle.

 

[Rastafarai]

Said to you " the only reason I am still with you is because of your pretty face and your good cooch."

Or would you take it as a compliment?

I would take it as a sign that I am only worthy of his time for my physical appearance. Remove all of that and he would leave me.

It won't fly by me because I would want a man who can love and care for me beyond the physical attraction. I would want a man who can care for me if I cannot care for myself. If a man relayed the above, I would not walk, but run in the opposite direction.

 

[qchelle]

Woman. What?!

 

[Dee-Licious]

I'd be offended as hell.
I want DH to be physically attracted to me, but NOT ONLY physically attracted to me.

 

[Black Ambrosia]

I'm hoping this was a gutter type joke. OP what's the backstory?

 

[Thump]

He would be cancelled on the spot, no need for a discussion.

 

[Fine 4s]

There's plenty of those combos outcha so I'd be nervous.

 

[LovelyRo]

Wow! Very offended!

 

[MissNina]

I'd laugh I wouldn't take that to heart, but it took Cleopatra far in life, so w/e.

 

[sarumoki]

I'm on the fence, because my bf and I joke like this sometimes. But there's a time and a place for jokes, and a time and a place to keep your mouth shut.

 

[Bad&Bougee]

I'm on the fence, because my bf and I joke like this sometimes. But there's a time and a place for jokes, and a time and a place to keep your mouth shut.

Yep. Many couples joke about this and I agree with all that you said. However, I can't lie. I know it can be a struggle being married to me because I am a bit much so I am thankful to have something he likes. On the occasion I act all the way up, it's comforting to know he will be at home when I get back .

 

[dancinstallion]

I'm hoping this was a gutter type joke. OP what's the backstory?

Husband was joking around with friends, when asked about how he had being married so long, that was his response. Husband repeats the joke to his wife. She laughed then said she was offended.

 

[dancinstallion]

I'm crazy and barely cook and clean, so if Dh said that to me, I would know why he was still around.
While singing I got that good good.

But if I were a good wife like back in the day then I would be offended.

 

[caribeandiva]

Said to you " the only reason I am still with you is because of your pretty face and your good cooch."

Or would you take it as a compliment?

I don't see any part of that statement as a compliment.

 

[caribeandiva]

I know it can be a struggle being married to me because I am a bit much so I am thankful to have something he likes

Umm.. what?

 

[kblc06]

Was it said in a joking sort of way or during an argument? The context would determine my interpretation as Well as how our relationship had been recently. Because I could see myself messing around as a joke and saying something like this, but only if we were on good terms (I'm not playful or amicable at all if I'm pissed with you).

Said to you " the only reason I am still with you is because of your pretty face and your good cooch."

Or would you take it as a compliment?

 

[Evolving78]

I'm hoping this was a gutter type joke. OP what's the backstory?

That's disguised as a joke.. if that was said out loud, that should be taken as face value. You(general) basically don't serve too much of a purpose and there is always somebody that is going to be younger, prettier, and have better snapper than you. At least at first. You will get replaced.

 

[Evolving78]

That's why folks better get a real clue about why a man is marrying you..

 

[intellectualuva]

My current SO....nah...I wouldn't like it.

If I were a "professional girlfriend" my first thought would be that's cool I'm only with you for your money. In which case, I should be sure to stack my coins while I can before he finds some other pretty and good P woman to replace me with.

 

[Thump]

So my SO and I talked about this last night and I told him what my response was here on the board. He said I tell that you got good stuff damn near every day so what is the problem with saying that? I asked him if that is why he deals with me and he said, nope, it's not even in the top 5 reasons. Then he said ahhhhhhh, I get it now why that would be offensive to someone.

 

[Evolving78]

So my SO and I talked about this last night and I told him what my response was here on the board. He said I tell that you got good stuff damn near every day so what is the problem with saying that? I asked him if that is why he deals with me and he said, nope, it's not even in the top 5 reasons. Then he said ahhhhhhh, I get it now why that would be offensive to someone.

Lol! Right! It sounds cute at first, until you really think about it!
And what if something goes wrong with your looks, or your vagina? Then what?

 

[Fine 4s]

I don't know if you'd get an honest response as an SO though. Sounds worse to me coming from a husband/wife.
It touches upon what @shortdub78 said which was WHY did he marry you and why did you marry him? (some women wanna be married so badly and waiting for the guy to ask that they forget to ask them self why they even want the guy). Some might truly be surprise to find out it's not for the reason they thought! That was pretty deep and scary.
Some people think that with marriage it's all good when it's merely a set up for the beginning of the worse phase of your life.

 

[Fine 4s]

Lol! Right! It sounds cute at first, until you really think about it!
And what if something goes wrong with your looks, or your vagina? Then what?

I know married folks who are clear about should any physical changes occur, they are out. I'm not sure I'm mad at that thinking either. Then again that's what they're saying NOW.....

 

[RocStar]

There is no context in which that would be a compliment.

 

[Bad&Bougee]

Umm.. what?

Yes. I would have left me years ago!!

I'm not saying that is why he stays, I made the statement jokingly. I don't care how good the boom-boom is or how good a person looks, if you get on my nerves to the point that I want to leave then I'm out. No one stays with a person ONLY for that so why would I be offended? After 21 years, that statement would not be the one that hurts my feelings.

 

[Mai Tai]

My husband and I joke like that sometimes IN PRIVATE. Like if I'm slightly annoyed by him but not enough to really make a big deal of it I'll say something like "You're lucky you're handsome." or something more vulgar.

I can not fathom him "joking" like that with other people. I'd be 100% offended and would start putting together an exit plan because looks fade and puss, just like peen, grows on trees.