Would you allow a man who's a virgin ...
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tiara76
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pretty bathtub and bathroom i need to save that for my vision board..I love bathtubs 
I wouldn't be against it if i liked him...esp if he was open to experiencing and learning things
my first love was dang near a virgin at 19 when we started dating ...he had sex with one girl,one time that was pretty awkward for him....we had a blast and he turned out to be a beast when he got the hang of things
I wouldn't be against it if i liked him...esp if he was open to experiencing and learning things
my first love was dang near a virgin at 19 when we started dating ...he had sex with one girl,one time that was pretty awkward for him....we had a blast and he turned out to be a beast when he got the hang of things
Bunny77
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Why would one be expecting the other person to be good if he or she is a virgin? Do you only plan to sleep with this person one time or something?
song_of_serenity
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I'm a virgin and it would be nice to also experience that with someone also experiencing it for the first time...
However, I don't know...two awkward people trying to do who and what now.
LOL. If I married him, of course.
However, I don't know...two awkward people trying to do who and what now.
LOL. If I married him, of course.
LoveLiLi
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Yes. In some ways I'd feel better about being with a virgin because there are so many man-whores running around. 
It would probably be fun to be with a man who hadn't hopped in and out of countless beds (because some men like to act like they can't remember how many women they've been with) ...someone I could teach and didn't have to ask 50-11 questions about HIV/STD tests and grill about their sexual history.
You could mold him into the perfect man - sexually at least.
It would probably be fun to be with a man who hadn't hopped in and out of countless beds (because some men like to act like they can't remember how many women they've been with) ...someone I could teach and didn't have to ask 50-11 questions about HIV/STD tests and grill about their sexual history.
You could mold him into the perfect man - sexually at least.
Iammoney
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no i dont plan on sleeping with him. my best friend's husband was a virgin and she was not and she said he's not really good in bed. he's an awesome husband but she gets urges to cheat.
prettynatural
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My ex-fiance was and we were together about 3 years. I taught him about about safe sex and things of that nature so he could be informed ( he was from a foreign country). He turned out to be pretty good after a couple of years. I think he thinks that we are not together because of that but for me, sex is not that important. He is a great guy and will make a WONDERFUL husband someday. We are best friends now and his family in his home country still ask about me and his sister has my number in although she cannot speak English. So, our connection was greater than sex but initially, it was terrible and many women would have left but I stayed there with him because I loved him and still do.
cutiepiebabygirl
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No....tis all
Bunny77
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no i dont plan on sleeping with him. my best friend's husband was a virgin and she was not and she said he's not really good in bed. he's an awesome husband but she gets urges to cheat.
Did they wait until marriage and then this is when she found out?
Does she communicate with him about her needs and wants? Or is he stubborn and refuses to improve?
tiara76
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no i dont plan on sleeping with him. my best friend's husband was a virgin and she was not and she said he's not really good in bed. he's an awesome husband but she gets urges to cheat.
maybe they are not sexually compatiable
Iammoney
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they had sex prior to getting married but she thought he would get better. they dont even have oral sex. they have sex maybe twice a month. she says he's romantic and everything but the sex is awful.
her husband and i are really cool. and he told me that she refuses him and he says he thinks its her fault. i think they need therapy. they're a bunch of loonies. they love each other but i think they have cheated on each other. i doubt she'll tell me but i suspect it
*~*Afrolicious*~*
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THAT'S the problem. Before I dated my wonderful co-virginal SO, I dated a guys that were MUCH more experienced, thus more smoother & suave in their approach (again, no sex of any kind LOL). With my SO its a nice experience messing around b/c we are in love, but it can be REALLY awkward at times.
quasimodi
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Yikes!
That's why it's so important to communicate about things like this BEFORE you get married. "What excites you?"
"How do you feel about oral sex?"
"How do you like to be touched and where?"
"Are you freak? Why do you think so?"
"Would you have sex with me in public? If so, where?"
"Sexually, what do you like most about me?"
Things of that nature.
Put it ALL on the table and if there are too many incompatible answers then you should consider moving on. I'm not saying that sex is the end all of marriage, but it's an important part, particularly when you're younger...say under seventy-five.
Wasn't your friend physically attracted to her then boyfriend-now husband? If not, that should have been the first sign to start running.
Oh, and to answer your initial question. I would have sex with a virgin...if he was my husband. I'm waiting until I get married to have sex.
growth2come
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NOPE!!! and NO again...It turned out that I was my first's first....I would have prefered if atleast one of us had done the deed before rather than 30 seconds of awkwardness....
antisocial
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I've done it...can't say I would do it again 
Bachelorette
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exactly. never understood the virgin man phobia. Like they're aliens.
. Better learning thing together than dealing with baby mamas or whoring or Stds.My ex told me how he lost his to some older chick when he had just turned 17 and when he told her he was a virgin, she laughed for like an hr. It's like when the hell was he supposed to lose it? 12?
Bachelorette
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Yikes!
"What excites you?"
"How do you feel about oral sex?"
"How do you like to be touched and where?"
"Are you freak? Why do you think so?"
"Would you have sex with me in public? If so, where?"
"Sexually, what do you like most about me?"
Things of that nature.
Put it ALL on the table and if there are too many incompatible answers then you should consider moving on. I'm not saying that sex is the end all of marriage, but it's an important part, particularly when you're younger...say under seventy-five.
Wasn't your friend physically attracted to her then boyfriend-now husband? If not, that should have been the first sign to start running.
Oh, and to answer your initial question. I would have sex with a virgin...if he was my husband. I'm waiting until I get married to have sex.
exactly. People avoid the importance things (questions/discussions) then after the fact, they start whining about things being all wrong
skegeesmb
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I had a good experience. He learned very quickly, I told him what I liked and he obliged. He was eager to please, and the fact that he was so comfortable with me and I didn't make him feel like a fool the sex was great! I hadn't been with a lot of men but the few I had been with before I got married had much more experience, and were much more set in their ways of what they thought women wanted, and they didn't want to change. So. I guess I lucked out.
I mean we had plenty of practice, we had intercourse just about everyday unless AF was here. But then again this was when I was 20 years old.
I mean we had plenty of practice, we had intercourse just about everyday unless AF was here. But then again this was when I was 20 years old.
Bunny77
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exactly. never understood the virgin man phobia. Like they're aliens.
My ex told me how he lost his to some older chick when he had just turned 17 and when he told her he was a virgin, she laughed for like an hr. It's like when the hell was he supposed to lose it? 12?
Yeah, I'm like, weren't we all virgins once?
I mean, I can see if we're talking about a 35-year-old woman who's not a virgin with a 35-year-old man who's a virgin, but it's kinda off to me when you've got younger folks (say, teens to early 20s) all like, "Eww, he/she's a virgin! They're not gonna know anything! Eww, I don't have time for that!"
Yeah, like you were the bomb in bed on your first time.
Good point. This has happened to me... dude might have been with some other woman for three years and knew what she liked and didn't like, so then when he was with me, instead of trying to learn about me, he just wanted to do what he was used to and it was ME with the issue when I tried to tell him otherwise.
Yeah, whatever man.
To answer the question, if I cared about this man and we were in a relationship, I don't see why not. And I don't see the virgin man necessarily being worse in bed for the rest of his life just because he's a virgin. I'm looking at long-term here, not just a one-night stand.
And if there happens to be a problem with sexual compatibility, that won't be JUST because he was a virgin when we met.
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