As a person who has\had weight issues, she has to want to do it herself. She has to be sick and tired of being sick and tired. If you harp on her about her weight she will start to avoid you. Love your friend, be her friend, but she knows that she is obese and doesn't need you to tell her.
ETA: I hate Captain Save a Fat Chick's. Stay in your lane.
Hairsnob Your only interactions are food related??? You don't go to the movies together? Church? Children activities? (if you have kids) Is she your only friend? I have a vareity for friends to do a variety of activities with.This is all helpful advice. Every single one of your posts sound familiar. It's hard to do some of the things like go walking or something because she'll just say she doesn't want to go. When we go to the mall now it's like she's ready to just grab something and go. She will only go to the mall with me now if she knows we are going to a restaurant afterwards.
I do think we can still go grocery shopping together. But even then, she will expect to go to a restaurant afterwards. I'm going to try bringing up healthier eating for myself more if she doesn't cut the convo short like she always does. Half the times I'm honestly not even bringing it up for her good, I"m just mentioning what I plan to do myself. She cuts me short thinking it's not interesting to her.
So to avoid being a Captain Save-a-fat-chick ( ThickHair ) LOL, it's like saying we won't be friends anymore because we don't do things in common anymore. I'm not worried about telling her she's fat, she says it herself and asks me if I agree. We're very honest with each other but it's hard watching someone become that way.
@Hairsnob Your only interactions are food related??? You don't go to the movies together? Church? Children activities? (if you have kids) Is she your only friend? I have a vareity for friends to do a variety of activities with.
Maybe she can be a phone or text friend. No need to change up your routine because she can't do certain things.
This may be one of those things that tests your friendship esp since you don't do things in common anymore. I was about to say once you start working on you and she sees your progress maybe it'll prompt her to do something or it can go another way.
Hairsnob nothing wrong with doing things alone. You can't be miserable keeping her from being miserable. Why would you want to do that? Honestly it is her weight and her issue, still no reason not to love her. I can tell you care deeply for her, but at this point in time, she doesn't want "it".ThickHair Both of our kids are grown. She's not my only friend but unfortunately, she was my only friend I was able to shop with. I have one phone only friend, one club/concert only friend and then her. We're very close where we can shop, do a concert or movie and talk on the phone. Lately it's just been the phone because she knows I'm not crazy about going to a restaurant after every outing. I honestly do miss having someone to shop with sometimes though.
@Hairsnob nothing wrong with doing things alone. You can't be miserable keeping her from being miserable. Why would you want to do that? Honestly it is her weight and her issue, still no reason not to love her. I can tell you care deeply for her, but at this point in time, she doesn't want "it".