GreenEyedJen
Well-Known Member
Hi ladies!
I am in a situation that I am getting kind of antsy about and need some advice.
I am in a LDR. This is easily the most connected I've ever felt to someone. For example, I've had an ex that I could not get over. I thought he was the one that got away. We broke up in 2007, I've been in two serious relationships since that one (not counting my current one) and I never could get my ex out of my head. Within the first week of dating my SO, I thought that he could make me forget about my ex. And he has. We even put it on FB, which is a huge deal for me.
I'm very private and in the almost ten years I've been on FB I've never changed my relationship status.
Anyway, we live about seven hours driving distance from each other, but in the same state. He was born and raised here. I wasn't. I'm graduating law school this week and rent my house directly from the school, so I will either need to move out at the end of this month, or four days after the Bar Exam. Although I'm not a fan of this state I've decided to take the Bar here, mainly because I have yet to find a job anywhere.
He wants me to move in with him. I am going up there as a "test run" for a week. He has a very flexible job, but has just signed a lease for an apartment on the beach before we started talking about what I was going to do after school, plus as I already stated I have to move anyway. I've never been up there so it will be a new experience. I will be meeting his family for the first time. The closer it gets to the time for me to go up there, the more nervous I get. I am so used to my space (I've lived alone since 2007) and I'm scared about being dependent financially on a man. My parents are still married and my Dad paid all the bills their whole marriage, but my parents met in grad school and my mother has always had her own money. Both my parents have cautioned me to never depend on a man for money, and I agree. I don't know how long I'll be without a job, you know? At the very least, it will be until August, as I will be studying for the Bar and it's not advised to work while doing so.
My questions for you ladies:
1. If you moved for or in with a partner, what did you consider before doing so?
2. For LDR ladies: How much "uninterrupted" time had you spent with your partner before deciding you were comfortable with a move?
3. How long were you dating before moving?
4. Anything else I should consider?
I am in a situation that I am getting kind of antsy about and need some advice.
I am in a LDR. This is easily the most connected I've ever felt to someone. For example, I've had an ex that I could not get over. I thought he was the one that got away. We broke up in 2007, I've been in two serious relationships since that one (not counting my current one) and I never could get my ex out of my head. Within the first week of dating my SO, I thought that he could make me forget about my ex. And he has. We even put it on FB, which is a huge deal for me.
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Anyway, we live about seven hours driving distance from each other, but in the same state. He was born and raised here. I wasn't. I'm graduating law school this week and rent my house directly from the school, so I will either need to move out at the end of this month, or four days after the Bar Exam. Although I'm not a fan of this state I've decided to take the Bar here, mainly because I have yet to find a job anywhere.
He wants me to move in with him. I am going up there as a "test run" for a week. He has a very flexible job, but has just signed a lease for an apartment on the beach before we started talking about what I was going to do after school, plus as I already stated I have to move anyway. I've never been up there so it will be a new experience. I will be meeting his family for the first time. The closer it gets to the time for me to go up there, the more nervous I get. I am so used to my space (I've lived alone since 2007) and I'm scared about being dependent financially on a man. My parents are still married and my Dad paid all the bills their whole marriage, but my parents met in grad school and my mother has always had her own money. Both my parents have cautioned me to never depend on a man for money, and I agree. I don't know how long I'll be without a job, you know? At the very least, it will be until August, as I will be studying for the Bar and it's not advised to work while doing so.
My questions for you ladies:
1. If you moved for or in with a partner, what did you consider before doing so?
2. For LDR ladies: How much "uninterrupted" time had you spent with your partner before deciding you were comfortable with a move?
3. How long were you dating before moving?
4. Anything else I should consider?