sweetcashew said:So I'm standing in BSS today and this woman comes up to me and starts stroking my hair. She asks me what I use, looks down and sees the silicon mix in my hand and gasps, " You shoudn't use that in your hair. Someone told me that's it's no good!"
I say to her " Well, I like it. I've used it and it's restoring my hair to it's natural resiliency. I've had no adverse side effects.
She's like " Well it's not good. It doesn't do anything for the hair. It doesn't condition it at all."
So I fling my hair over my shoulder (it's all bouncy and stuff) and said, " Well I'm the one who's hair you're stroking, maybe you should listen to me instead" (my sis said that was kinda mean and rude)
Mind you, her hair is short and broken up and severely damaged. Was I too rude in saying what I said?
sweetcashew said:So I'm standing in BSS today and this woman comes up to me and starts stroking my hair. She asks me what I use, looks down and sees the silicon mix in my hand and gasps, " You shoudn't use that in your hair. Someone told me that's it's no good!"
I say to her " Well, I like it. I've used it and it's restoring my hair to it's natural resiliency. I've had no adverse side effects.
She's like " Well it's not good. It doesn't do anything for the hair. It doesn't condition it at all."
So I fling my hair over my shoulder (it's all bouncy and stuff) and said, " Well I'm the one who's hair you're stroking, maybe you should listen to me instead" (my sis said that was kinda mean and rude)
Mind you, her hair is short and broken up and severely damaged. Was I too rude in saying what I said?
ITA Especially from a christrian approach. I would scold her in a diplomatic manner regarding touching my hair without asking.1Specialk said:Yes. She was only trying to be helpful and didn't want your beautiful hair damaged. Maybe you should have asked her what she heard, then explain to her how it has helped your hair. And then recommend this board and possible products that could help her hair.
1Specialk said:Yes. She was only trying to be helpful and didn't want your beautiful hair damaged. Maybe you should have asked her what she heard, then explain to her how it has helped your hair. And then recommend this board and possible products that could help her hair.
bklynwildheart said:How was sweetcashew being rude??!
This complete idiot stranger is feelin' on her head and asks her what she uses. She's given an answer (nicely), and after all of that, she's telling SC that the product isn't good--while her own hair is a hot mess?
As someone else mentioned, this woman was definitely a hater of the worst proportions...
ETA: I betcha this chick would've dismissed SC's advice and recommendations of products/hair boards...
HoneyLemonDrop said:Not rude at all. She had NO business touching your hair first of all and she had no place insisting that cilicone was bad for YOUR hair. Instead what she could have said was, "wow, I was told that cilicone was bad for the hair, but obviously it is doing good things for yours...maybe it simply didnt work for the person who told me" IF she had to say anything...
bklynwildheart said:How was sweetcashew being rude??!
This complete idiot stranger is feelin' on her head and asks her what she uses. She's given an answer (nicely), and after all of that, she's telling SC that the product isn't good--while her own hair is a hot mess?
As someone else mentioned, this woman was definitely a hater of the worst proportions...
ETA: I betcha this chick would've dismissed SC's advice and recommendations of products/hair boards...
Alli77 said:I just noticed that it may be a regional thing too, I noticed that most of us NYers/Tri-state area girls and Mermaid think that she wasn't being rude. IDK maybe living in a largely metro area can change your views but I agree with Mermaid, there are a lot of freaks out there especially in the tri-state area...you have to be ever so careful.
@ Mermaid that's crazy! Slashing off 6 inches of hair like that ! I remember one time some random dude licked my hair ...ewww gross, maybe that's why I'm aprehensive about letting people touch my hair, I would have responded the same way, sorry that's just how I feel. She had no right touching your hair, you are not a CHIA PET!
HairPhoenix said:A regional thing? Possibly...
I agree that it's not right when someone touches any part of you without permission. And people ARE CRAZY no matter where you live!! There are people who need to understand and respect other people's boundaries. What that woman did was no different than if a man had walked up to SC and grabbed her behind!!! Now THAT is rude no matter where you live. But in some places a woman will keep quiet and say nothing to a man about that. If you don't say something to those kind of people they will think what they are doing is okay. I bet that woman will think twice before she puts her hands in someone else's hair without asking again.
HairPhoenix said:A regional thing? Possibly...
I agree that it's not right when someone touches any part of you without permission. And people ARE CRAZY no matter where you live!! There are people who need to understand and respect other people's boundaries. What that woman did was no different than if a man had walked up to SC and grabbed her behind!!! Now THAT is rude no matter where you live. But in some places a woman will keep quiet and say nothing to a man about that. If you don't say something to those kind of people they will think what they are doing is okay. I bet that woman will think twice before she puts her hands in someone else's hair without asking again.
Alli77 said:ITA! But when I say regional I mean there are certain forms of behaviors that are accepted in some regions that are not accepted in others. Having traveled throughout most of the East Coast and Mid-Western States I know that their are certain things one can and cannot do. In NYC/NJ for instance one cannot be up in people space...that's just a big no-no ...Especially in NYC! And for this woman to come up and touch her hair was completely wrong. Now I may be biased for saying this but I know that down south people are more friendly/caring...not saying that NYers & NJersyians aren't but...we are just more reserved round these parts that's why I mentioned region. That's just common knowledge, at least to me anyways that you don't touch people's hair.
Suri said:It bothers me that she kept pressing the issue. I mean it's your business what you buy. I think you were actually polite. I wonder what her response would have been to say..."what are you using to keep your hair so dry, do you think I should try some of what you use...tell me what you use...because I want dry, lifeless, mangled hair like yours"
Now that was rude.
Hair Peace said:Cosign!
I'm from the NYC and still have ceratin "NYC tendencies" even though I'm in the Midwest now. I don't think it was rude at all. She had no business touching your hair and then arguing with you about what works for you!
HairPhoenix said:A regional thing? Possibly...
There are people who need to understand and respect other people's boundaries. What that woman did was no different than if a man had walked up to SC and grabbed her behind!!! Now THAT is rude no matter where you live. But in some places a woman will keep quiet and say nothing to a man about that. If you don't say something to those kind of people they will think what they are doing is okay.
Alli77 said:ITA! But when I say regional I mean there are certain forms of behaviors that are accepted in some regions that are not accepted in others. Having traveled throughout most of the East Coast and Mid-Western States I know that their are certain things one can and cannot do. In NYC/NJ for instance one cannot be up in people space...that's just a big no-no ...Especially in NYC! And for this woman to come up and touch her hair was completely wrong. Now I may be biased for saying this but I know that down south people are more friendly/caring...not saying that NYers & NJersyians aren't but...we are just more reserved round these parts that's why I mentioned region. That's just common knowledge, at least to me anyways that you don't touch people's hair.
Exactly I totally agree...people in new york are so wrapped up in their own lives...a simple piece of long hair wouldn't be an issue to them...What that female did was downright rude...this goes to show that she had a lack of home training...I don't think what you said was rude...maybe the flippin' of the hair was a tad bit too much...but that chick had it coming.Alli77 said:ITA! But when I say regional I mean there are certain forms of behaviors that are accepted in some regions that are not accepted in others. Having traveled throughout most of the East Coast and Mid-Western States I know that their are certain things one can and cannot do. In NYC/NJ for instance one cannot be up in people space...that's just a big no-no ...Especially in NYC! And for this woman to come up and touch her hair was completely wrong. Now I may be biased for saying this but I know that down south people are more friendly/caring...not saying that NYers & NJersyians aren't but...we are just more reserved round these parts that's why I mentioned region. That's just common knowledge, at least to me anyways that you don't touch people's hair.
LovelyZ said:I was trying to imagine myself in a situation where someone benevolently approaches me and strokes my hair in admiration. I would definately feel that they crossed my personal space boundary, and I would want to say "thank you for the compliment but please refrain from touching the hair of someone you don't know" but I probably would just not say anything at all. I think a lot of the time the person really isn't trying to offend, they are just admiring.
Geez up ....hoes down!Alli77 said:[/b]
Laughing at the highlighted comment. So true! I feel when I get my hair "done" I have to have my pimp hand ready!
THAT'S WHAT I'M talking about...people you KNOW!!!! My MOTHER does it, and SHE'S SOOO rough when she does...it's like OK...CUT IT OUT!!! AND HER HAIR IS LONGER THAN MINE!!!!!!!!!Candy_C said:she was feisty but u know, truthful.
i'm sick of people i KNOW pulling my hair, thinking its funny. fully fist grabbing. and i feel helpless cos they dont understand why i dont like it . they say "its real isn't it? whats the big deal not likes its gonna come out" -
so yes she stroked it, but imagine she could've pulled it too, she had the power b4 u cud see her, i dont blame u for being pissed
CinnaMocha said:IMO she had that coming. She kept pushing the issue and stepped overboard. Apparantly it does work if your hair is healthy and has the ability to be tossed over your shoulder. Maybe she will think twice before she reaches out that touches someone else's hair.