TinyBlu
Well-Known Member
I have come to realize that some people just aren't cut out for dating...like me.
To be clear, I am not the type of woman who meets a man and starts picking out baby names within ten minutes, but I am relationship oriented.
Maybe I have had just a few too many bad dates, butI hate the whole pretentious, weed out the BS, game of it all. Seriously.... why does it have to be a game at all?
So after officially getting over a December 2009 break up, I have decided that I am ready to "really" get back out there. I have also realized that I may have been a little rigid in the past and have been trying to be more open in my choices.
OK... I had a brief encounter with a man who I normally wouldn't have given a second look (another race, short, younger) and realized I was better off single, and at the beginning of this year, quite out of the blue, someone I had known a while (considerably younger) asked me out, and we had the most amazing first date.
So after our first date, I got the usual "Had a good time" texts and we had a couple of good phone conversations. Then I went on vacation (alone), and we communicated over text the entire week I was gone. Things seemed to be going fine. The day I flew home, he sent me a text checking to see if I got home safely, then NOTHING!!!!!!!!
Never being a stalker chick, I decided he was probably busy and would catch up with me in a few days. After 4 days and still nothing, I sent him a "How was your week" text and he gave me the "been busy" response. Since then, nothing.
It was my hope to see him when I returned from vacation (I even bought him a corny souvenir!!!). So what happened this time? Is there a hole that men just drop into that I don't know about?
This is reminiscent of the guy who dumped me in 2009 and the guy before him. They all just stop calling!!!! What am I doing wrong? How can a man go from a great first date and regular contact (that HE inititates) to just disappearing? Why do I keep attracting Houdini's??
I am not desparate or needy.... quite the contrary. I am a successful, attractive, independent woman. I am not walking around with a chip on my shoulder like "I don't need no man". I am more of the school of thought that having a good man in my life would be a good thing, but feel like I may have to resolve myself to a life alone if this keeps happening.
Sorry to vent... it just doesn't feel good to be at home... alone.... again...
To be clear, I am not the type of woman who meets a man and starts picking out baby names within ten minutes, but I am relationship oriented.
Maybe I have had just a few too many bad dates, butI hate the whole pretentious, weed out the BS, game of it all. Seriously.... why does it have to be a game at all?
So after officially getting over a December 2009 break up, I have decided that I am ready to "really" get back out there. I have also realized that I may have been a little rigid in the past and have been trying to be more open in my choices.
OK... I had a brief encounter with a man who I normally wouldn't have given a second look (another race, short, younger) and realized I was better off single, and at the beginning of this year, quite out of the blue, someone I had known a while (considerably younger) asked me out, and we had the most amazing first date.
So after our first date, I got the usual "Had a good time" texts and we had a couple of good phone conversations. Then I went on vacation (alone), and we communicated over text the entire week I was gone. Things seemed to be going fine. The day I flew home, he sent me a text checking to see if I got home safely, then NOTHING!!!!!!!!
Never being a stalker chick, I decided he was probably busy and would catch up with me in a few days. After 4 days and still nothing, I sent him a "How was your week" text and he gave me the "been busy" response. Since then, nothing.
It was my hope to see him when I returned from vacation (I even bought him a corny souvenir!!!). So what happened this time? Is there a hole that men just drop into that I don't know about?
This is reminiscent of the guy who dumped me in 2009 and the guy before him. They all just stop calling!!!! What am I doing wrong? How can a man go from a great first date and regular contact (that HE inititates) to just disappearing? Why do I keep attracting Houdini's??
I am not desparate or needy.... quite the contrary. I am a successful, attractive, independent woman. I am not walking around with a chip on my shoulder like "I don't need no man". I am more of the school of thought that having a good man in my life would be a good thing, but feel like I may have to resolve myself to a life alone if this keeps happening.
Sorry to vent... it just doesn't feel good to be at home... alone.... again...