blackbarbietea
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I think many women are unmarried and childless because of many different and sometimes unique reasons. However, there are some very universal reasons as to why some of us are single and can't find a man. I'm not saying everyone is like this. But there may be at least one thing you can grab from this.
1. Because they refuse to be open to other races. Which is a huge mistake. By opening yourself up to other races, you'll see that getting a man is so much more possible. You'll see opportunities where before you didn't see any. I love black men. LOVE THEM. But they aren't the only ones on the planet.
2. Because our expectations are wayyy too high. You only want a black man. But you turn 50% of them away because they're too short or not looking like denzel or something. Don't say this isn't true because I'm guilty of it. And I have many female aquaintances and friends that had discussions about doing the same thing online and in person. Nothing wrong with having expectations and standards. But are some of your expectations limiting the dating pool available to you?
3. A lot of us stay at home and expect God to give us the best man in the world. However, the best man in the world isn't at home. So you should be out and about doing fun things. Being seen. That way he can actually see you and the the opportunity to approach you. Not to say you need to be at the club. Jjust open yourself to new experiences. Go to the symphony orchestra. Go to the ballet. Hit up the singles events in your city and get involved in something. The men you want and feel you deserve are there. Not at the club getting drunk and taking home girls. Also your enviroment says a lot about you. Where do you live? Who do you hang out with? Where do you go for fun? Evaluate your enviroments and see what they say about you? If what it says seems not like you at all, then change it.
4. Don't be afraid to approach him first! Seriously. Do it. Most of the time you won't regret it. Not saying to come on strong but there's a beautiful balance between approaching and then leting him take control from there, and approaching and carrying the whole thing.
That's all I got for now. Lol.
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1. Because they refuse to be open to other races. Which is a huge mistake. By opening yourself up to other races, you'll see that getting a man is so much more possible. You'll see opportunities where before you didn't see any. I love black men. LOVE THEM. But they aren't the only ones on the planet.
2. Because our expectations are wayyy too high. You only want a black man. But you turn 50% of them away because they're too short or not looking like denzel or something. Don't say this isn't true because I'm guilty of it. And I have many female aquaintances and friends that had discussions about doing the same thing online and in person. Nothing wrong with having expectations and standards. But are some of your expectations limiting the dating pool available to you?
3. A lot of us stay at home and expect God to give us the best man in the world. However, the best man in the world isn't at home. So you should be out and about doing fun things. Being seen. That way he can actually see you and the the opportunity to approach you. Not to say you need to be at the club. Jjust open yourself to new experiences. Go to the symphony orchestra. Go to the ballet. Hit up the singles events in your city and get involved in something. The men you want and feel you deserve are there. Not at the club getting drunk and taking home girls. Also your enviroment says a lot about you. Where do you live? Who do you hang out with? Where do you go for fun? Evaluate your enviroments and see what they say about you? If what it says seems not like you at all, then change it.
4. Don't be afraid to approach him first! Seriously. Do it. Most of the time you won't regret it. Not saying to come on strong but there's a beautiful balance between approaching and then leting him take control from there, and approaching and carrying the whole thing.
That's all I got for now. Lol.
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The only men I see at theater events are either with their boo or working the valet or concession stands 
