chocolat79
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First, let me preface this thread by saying that I DO feel some kind of way when people ask me, "Is that your real hair?" Black, white, or otherwise; male or female. But, this was one of those complex moments where I wanted to be annoyed, but it didn't quite go there.
I've also noticed that more white men that I've run into have expressed "interest" in my hair, real or fake. Here's the most recent example:
Today I was walking one of the patients, an older WM back to lobby. On the way back, he said, "Is that your real hair?"
(I wear a wig to work, not only for PS, but other reasons as well). I said no. He said, "Is your hair kinky?" 
huh: (I was kinda taken aback and amused at the same time). I said yes. He was like, "Why don't you wear your hair out?? You should wear it in an Afro. I don't see those much anymore. I think they're sooo sexy!" :blush3: I told him to come back in December and I'd have it out then. We both started laughing and he went on about his business. This was kinda interesting, as to look at this man, you'd never think he'd know anything about "kinky" hair. Older, affluent, white male...funny
Another example: An older white guy who worked for our company, but whom I didn't know that well, would always kind of look at me oddly when we'd greet each other. More of a perplexing look than anything. Anyway, I guess one day, after a few weeks of his curiosity KILLING him, he got up the nerve to ask me, "is that your real hair?" I said no and he seemed just as satisfied as he could be. (I was wearing a wig similar to Mona's hair in in Half & Half)
Last example: A white male patient was/is just enthralled with my hair (wig). Every time he comes in, he always makes a comment about my hair (wig). I didn't feel like explaining it was a wig AND he didn't ask, LOL, so I just let him think what he wanted. He was like, "where did you get all that pretty hair?" I was like, "My daddy"
which IS true; my daddy has nice hair, LOL.
Anyway, I'm curious to know if any of you ladies have had any stories where white men have expressed some interest in your hair. Is it a trend? Where you amused? Offended? Indifferent?
I'm more curious to know about random white men rather than ones you know, associate with regularly, or SO/DH/FH's etc.
I've also noticed that more white men that I've run into have expressed "interest" in my hair, real or fake. Here's the most recent example:
Today I was walking one of the patients, an older WM back to lobby. On the way back, he said, "Is that your real hair?"
(I wear a wig to work, not only for PS, but other reasons as well). I said no. He said, "Is your hair kinky?" huh: (I was kinda taken aback and amused at the same time). I said yes. He was like, "Why don't you wear your hair out?? You should wear it in an Afro. I don't see those much anymore. I think they're sooo sexy!" :blush3: I told him to come back in December and I'd have it out then. We both started laughing and he went on about his business. This was kinda interesting, as to look at this man, you'd never think he'd know anything about "kinky" hair. Older, affluent, white male...funnyAnother example: An older white guy who worked for our company, but whom I didn't know that well, would always kind of look at me oddly when we'd greet each other. More of a perplexing look than anything. Anyway, I guess one day, after a few weeks of his curiosity KILLING him, he got up the nerve to ask me, "is that your real hair?" I said no and he seemed just as satisfied as he could be. (I was wearing a wig similar to Mona's hair in in Half & Half)
Last example: A white male patient was/is just enthralled with my hair (wig). Every time he comes in, he always makes a comment about my hair (wig). I didn't feel like explaining it was a wig AND he didn't ask, LOL, so I just let him think what he wanted. He was like, "where did you get all that pretty hair?" I was like, "My daddy"
which IS true; my daddy has nice hair, LOL. Anyway, I'm curious to know if any of you ladies have had any stories where white men have expressed some interest in your hair. Is it a trend? Where you amused? Offended? Indifferent?
I'm more curious to know about random white men rather than ones you know, associate with regularly, or SO/DH/FH's etc.
or strategically bump into it, touch it whatever only to exclaim how soft it was.
and i told her yes then she said it was very pretty and she loved the curls. Lol i found it very funny cause she seemed so interested/surprised etc. I didn't take offense.
...After I went "Angry Black Woman" on them it didn't happen again
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Wearing my hair in protective styles (using fake hair) was what allowed me to go from an inch of hair to mid-back length in 3 years. I don't regret it at all. 
White men LOVE my big long curly braid-outs. Sometimes I feel a bit uncomfortable because they look at me like they are hypnotized by me, and I have no interest in them! It's especially bad sometimes because they see me with my kiddoes and can see I'm down with the swirl 
because of my little mixed babies. I can see the emotions playing out on their faces and they are sprung. I still get admiring looks when I wear my wig, but the 
factor is cut by at least half. 
) I don't tell them all of my business, I just thank them for the compliment and move on. It does let me know I'm not fooling anyone with 99% of my wigs though, because folks stop and do a double take, then 
all up in my scalp, and THEN compliment like crazy on the natural hair... nobody does that when I'm wearing a wig.
