SeatownSista
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She should have walked away months ago. I would just stop returning his calls and start dating others. Him not being ready to make a commitment after dating for close to a year says a lot...
She is just handing him all the power. If he was crazy about her he woulda been locked her down. I'm sorry for her because it would easier if he was acting up, but the truth is that it seems he likes her but is not falling in love with her. She needs to get clear with what she wants and have the courage to reject someone who in essence is rejecting her. He is saying you are good enough to date, but not good enough to be my girlfriend or wife. I hope they are not being intimate. That would definitely send him the wrong message.
Thats what I would do. She doesnt owe him any explanations because he doesnt care about her enough to commit.So should she simply not return his calls/etc.?
Everybody has pretty much said everything I was thinking. I'm kinda with @prettyfaceANB on this one that she should have an "internal" time limit and if he's not committed to her by then, she should walk away. Best case scenario #1: he'll be distinctly (and painfully) reminded of what he lost with the first "love" and commit before she finds someone else. Best case scenario #2: she'll be free of someone who only saw her as an option and she wouldn't have wasted multiple years, only one, and she can move on with someone who will commit to her within a more acceptable period of time.
She is just handing him all the power. If he was crazy about her he woulda been locked her down. I'm sorry for her because it would easier if he was acting up, but the truth is that it seems he likes her but is not falling in love with her. She needs to get clear with what she wants and have the courage to reject someone who in essence is rejecting her. He is saying you are good enough to date, but not good enough to be my girlfriend or wife. I hope they are not being intimate. That would definitely send him the wrong message.
Sounds like he likes her, enjoys "dating" and knows how to behave, BUT he's just not THAT into her. Like she'll do until "the one" shows up. Not sure I'd tell her that though. But that's what I'm thinking.
So before they became intimate he never told her he was seeing other people???
(Not saying that he was sleeping with the others, however, that would have been nice to know beforehand, if in fact he didn't disclose)
Dang, that sucks for your friend erplexed.
This thread is right on time for me. I've been dating a guy since the end of March and he has never once mentioned anything about a commitment. We're a little bit past the three month mark so I asked him this weekend:
Me: how much do you like me?
Him: huh...lol, what kind of question is that?
Me: just answer the question, on a scale of 1 to 5
Him: lol..why? how much do u like me?
Me: I like you, if we stopped talking I would be a bit sad.
Him: I like you too, but I wouldn't be sad if we stopped talking. I mean, I would miss you but I wouldnt be sad about it.
Me:
Well obviously that was my answer right there but I found it comical that as I was reading this thread I glanced at my cell phone and my photo album had randomly opened itself and landed on a pic of him no less. I'm like "okay I get it, he's just not that into me"!
Anyway, on to the next one. Matter fact from now on dudes got a 3 month period to make moves or I am out! I aint getting no younger over here.