larry3344
Well-Known Member
Hey ladies,
I was a lurker for like ever when I finally subscribed I didn't spend as much time as I thought. Anyway I thought this is the perfect time to contribute. I have a friend who relaxes and we were talking about having children and taking care of their hair (now I did my BC at the end of August). She tells me that she was relaxed at the age of 3 and I tell her that is way too young to relax hair and then she say she will do the same for her kids. At this point I am in state of shock and I ask why. She tells me that nobody wants to have nappy nappy hair. I was annoyed but being that she was my friend I just replied: "Well that's the hair growing out of their heads!" I know many of you women have had similar experiences but I didn't grow up this way and the mentality took me by surprise. I remember I had to beg for a relaxer at age 6, now I wish my mother had not given it to me. Hence this whole journey of BCing that I see most women go through on this forum. She even tells me that she does not know how to deal with her natural texture and I am just thinking to myself well if only you had not gotten a relaxer so early. Then she tells me that my hair would be so nice if I texturize it. Now I take pride in my crown and for her to tell me that is such a slap in the face. I even asked her what's wrong with the way it is now. I know these type of stories have been told so many times. This is so new to me, it's very different reading about these situations than actually encoutering them. I never hated my hair I just wanted the relaxer so I wouldn't have to get my hair done 'cause I hated combing it! So what do you guys think when is the right time to relax?
I was a lurker for like ever when I finally subscribed I didn't spend as much time as I thought. Anyway I thought this is the perfect time to contribute. I have a friend who relaxes and we were talking about having children and taking care of their hair (now I did my BC at the end of August). She tells me that she was relaxed at the age of 3 and I tell her that is way too young to relax hair and then she say she will do the same for her kids. At this point I am in state of shock and I ask why. She tells me that nobody wants to have nappy nappy hair. I was annoyed but being that she was my friend I just replied: "Well that's the hair growing out of their heads!" I know many of you women have had similar experiences but I didn't grow up this way and the mentality took me by surprise. I remember I had to beg for a relaxer at age 6, now I wish my mother had not given it to me. Hence this whole journey of BCing that I see most women go through on this forum. She even tells me that she does not know how to deal with her natural texture and I am just thinking to myself well if only you had not gotten a relaxer so early. Then she tells me that my hair would be so nice if I texturize it. Now I take pride in my crown and for her to tell me that is such a slap in the face. I even asked her what's wrong with the way it is now. I know these type of stories have been told so many times. This is so new to me, it's very different reading about these situations than actually encoutering them. I never hated my hair I just wanted the relaxer so I wouldn't have to get my hair done 'cause I hated combing it! So what do you guys think when is the right time to relax?