What's Going On Right Now in Your Life that Troubles You --Don't Be Afraid...

[JudithO]

@JudithO...

Father God, in the Name of Jesus, I bow my heart before you in prayer, lifting this beautiful family before you to bless, to nurture, to pour upon them your abundant supply for each of their needs and for their dreams come true.

For Judith's husband, there is no loss, but gain. A gain in faith, a gain in trust, a gain of growing closer to you. Father they are not under the negative stigma of those who know you not, nor of those who chose other gods than you. Instead, they are full of heart, yielding unto you, every heart's cry and desire allowing you to provide for their every need, in Jesus' Name.

Father, they are Man and Wife and they have a child. If for no other reason than that, bless them far above than they could ever ask or think with your healing presence in their lives and finances and their home in Jesus' Name.

Father let every debt be paid in full. They will not suffer any loss of home, vehicles or property, or opportunities to prosper and to flourish in full life and abundance in this earth. Their love shall grow deeper for and with one another; their Marriage shall not suffer, nor shall it deflate from the pressures that were before them. Increase their love and devotion towards each other and even more towards you. Let them never be afraid to trust you and to believe you and to know beyond any thought, that you are indeed the Lord of their lives, their hearts, their true salvation is in you.

Father protect their baby's health, growth and development. This child is dedicated unto you and will grow and be a testimony of life and all of it's goodness, for surely it is you, 'Goodness and Mercy' which shall cover, protect and follow them all the days of their lives.

In Jesus' Name, it is done and can never be undone, for your Word is pure and true, solid and sovereign forevermore.

Amen and Amen.

@JudithO.... I apologize for missing a response to your post. One thing is certain, God never missed it. He has heard and has answered your prayers long before you asked....



Be encouraged. Give your baby a great big hug. Tell Hubby, it is well, and do not give up on his faith. He is still a good man and well able to take care of his family. He has not failed.

In Jesus' Name, Amen. :Rose:

AMEN!

Thank you Shimmie

 

[milaydy31]

Milaydy...

You are not alone You will not be single forever. Don't second guess or doubt it. Just step out of your thoughts of being unhappy. It's just a 'moment' that you are in. It is not 'forever'.

A few months ago, I stepped into a pair of jeans that were just way too tight. Now of course I wanted them to fit me in comfort. They are a nice pair of jeans. However... I had to step right back out of those things as they were cutting off my circulation.

Now, how did I get from praying for you above to a pair of too tight jeans?

:Rose: Milaydy... Step out of those sad thoughts.

Dear One... Step Out! Step out and keep on stepping.

They are too tight for your heart and they are cutting off the circulation for the Joy of the Lord to overflow in your heart in His full abundance. They are constricting your faith. Whenever you are feeling sad, your faith is being constricted, choked out, by thoughts that are not healthy.



I had to make sure that you know that this message is full of big hugs, it is not a lecture. Just encouragement. Okay?

Read the book of Esther and do what she did. She allowed herself to be prepared for Marriage. She spent her time and thoughts on being prepared to be presented to her husband, the King. The King who loved her so much that he was willing to give her up to half of his Kingdom. He was quite generous and didn't hide it.

Baby, don't get settled into the sad thoughts...get rid of them. Do you want to meet your future husband looking sad. Hair undone, toenails not painted, hands in dire need of a manicure. This is girl talk here and it's for real.

When 'we' as women get discouraged about being single, we begin to let ourselves 'go'. We stop exercising, we let go of our hair care routine, our nails become ragged and our clothes become wrinkled and the colors are all faded... We give up and we stop caring. The inside begins to show on the outside and it's harder to recapture ourselves than it is to take care of / preserve ourselves.

Let this mind be in you... (this is scripture) which is also in Christ Jesus ...

Take care of yourself. Prepare yourself to meet your future husband. Otherwise you'll find yourself hiding from him when he comes.

Then what?

Get your circulation back. Get rid of those constricting thoughts. Kick them to the curb they do not belong in you.

Read the book of Esther and prepare yourself to meet your King.

:blowkiss:

Thank you for your support.

I know that it's not okay to feel like that and I really try not to focus too much on my singleness but sometime I just feel lonly and with no hope to be better.
I hope I will feel better soon, maybe I'm just going through a bad/harsh time and then I'll feel better.

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[BEAUTYU2U]

Shimmie - IDK if you did a quick prayer for me but repairs have been getting done the last two days! Thanks for giving us all a place to vent.

ETA: What would be a good prayer when moving into a home? Some people burn sage, etc. but I'd like a prayer.

 

[Shimmie]

Shimmie - IDK if you did a quick prayer for me but repairs have been getting done the last two days! Thanks for giving us all a place to vent.

ETA: What would be a good prayer when moving into a home? Some people burn sage, etc. but I'd like a prayer.

Indeed, I've been praying for you all along beginning with the post below.

And you have many other members praying for you as well. You are loved by many on this forum.

You and I are in a similar situation, as I too recently moved and it's been like this for me...

So indeed you have been in my prayers.

Yaayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!

that your repairs are being made.

God is so awesome and faithful to our needs and prayers. Isn't He? God loves you, BEAUTYU2U and there is nothing that He wants to hold back from you. Only the things that could bring harm or alter your destiny does God withhold.

As for a 'New Home Prayer'. There are multiple prayers that God places into one's heart with His Word to confirm them.

The very first prayer is to Dedicate your new home unto the Lord. To welcome His presence in your home. By doing so you are casting out all things evil that once was or could be neighboring nearby.

Even if a home is newly built, where no one has lived in before, prayer is needed to invite the presence of God to rule and take over and protect you and your new home.

Each new home should be based upon this scripture from Joshua 24:15

"As for me and my House, we will serve the Lord"...

For you, BEAUTYU2U: New Home Prayer...

Father God, in the Name of Jesus, I bow my heart with thanksgiving for this, 'our' new home. Here we dedicate this home unto you. This home where you shall dwell and always be present with your Holy Spirit, who lives and dwells and rules our hearts and homes.

Thank you that you allow no evil thing to come nigh our dwelling, no harm to come near us, no disorder shall cross this border of the home you have given us... in Jesus' Name.

Powders of incense, sage and myrrh may be fragrant, yet neither can take the place of you, nor the blessings that you have placed upon our home and loved ones who dwell therein. It is your Holy Spirit, the presence of you that takes the place and rule above all.

Sickness and disease does not dwell here; thieves and robbers enter not; your Word promises in Job 5, that we can leave our 'tents' (our homes) and upon our return, we will find nothing amiss (nothing missing or harmed). You have, with your power, and your love for us, rebuked the devourer for our sakes and for your sake alone, letting it be known to all that you are our God and the Lord and Master over our hearts and over our dwelling places.

Therefore, with hearts yielded in reverence unto you, we dedicate this place unto you forevermore. For you have blessed us and you shall keep us and protect us, wherever we are, in Jesus' Name...forever. Amen

God's Promise in Return:

My people will abide in a peaceful habitation, in secure dwellings, and in quiet resting places. Isaiah 32:18




Beauty, this is from the previous post of prayers for you.

BEAUTYU2U...

Beauty, I am praying for you to get through this. You new home and the rest that you need to just 'finish' it ALL and to just be finally able to relax and enjoy it. In Jesus' Name.


Look at this scripture for both of you from Psalm 16... You'll love it.

Keep me safe, O God,

for I have come to you for refuge.
I said to the Lord, “You are my Master!
Every good thing I have comes from you.”

Lord, you alone are my inheritance, my cup of blessing.
You guard all that is mine.

The land you have given me is a pleasant land.
]What a wonderful inheritance!

Mena and Beauty...

You have both been given every good thing that comes from God's Heart above. AND throughout every trial and challenge in your lives, God has preserved it all. "He guards all that is yours" .

In your new homes, God has given you pleasant lands ... what a wonderful inheritance. An inheritance that is all totally yours and no one can ever take from you.

Love and blessings to you both.

Oh' and if you don't see me online. I'll be either still unpacking or hiding in my space, sitting on the white faux fur rug.

 

[Shimmie]

Thank you for your support.

I know that it's not okay to feel like that and I really try not to focus too much on my singleness but sometime I just feel lonly and with no hope to be better.

I hope I will feel better soon, maybe I'm just going through a bad/harsh time and then I'll feel better.

Sent from my iPhone using LHCF

You're gonna be okay, milaydy31... I promise you. You are going to be okay. God made Eve for Adam and you can be certain that God has created the perfect husband for you and he is coming. So be ready with your beautiful smile and new style... be ready to be 'you'...

Each day think of one thing that makes you happy and dwell upon that. Add something to it the next day and the next.

Re-focus your focus.

Add to this, your favorite scripture and allow the smiles in your heart (which are there) to surface to the smiles upon your face and eyes.

God makes all things new and He's going to do this for you....Yes.. He is.

 

[BEAUTYU2U]

Thank you!!!

I hope your new home becomes settled too!

 

[Shimmie]

Thank you!!!

I hope your new home becomes settled too!

Thanks BEAUTYU2U...

You are more than welcome and please feel free to ask for prayer and to vent here anytime. All of us are here for you.

 

[Shimmie]

To those reading

God loves you. All of the prayers that you've read here are 'fresh and new', meaning that they are not 'canned' responses. These are not prayers that have been reprinted from another source. (If so, a link will be provided).

God is pouring upon each of you, 'Fresh Oil'. A new Word for a New Season in your lives. It is not humanly possible for me or anyone to do this without the love of God flowing among us.

For where two or three are gathered together, there God is in the midst of us, hearing and answering our heartfelt prayers.

I read the scripture the other day and I just have to share it with you:

... if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not easily broken.
Eccl 4:12

Nothing can separate you from God and His love for you. There are more that are with you than be against you. And this three fold cord of strength cannot be destroyed or broken. You are umbilically connected to God forever and to His Promises to you.

You are not alone. No one reading this message is alone. You are not forsaken and you are not in this life, here upon this earth.

Please... JUST BELIEVE THIS! Please --- just believe it.

We have a right to choose what we believe. Joshua said, 'Choose you this day' whom you will serve; as for me and my House we will serve the Lord.

Choose what you will think about, choose what you will believe. You are not being unrealistic, neither irrational nor are you delusional. Choose what God wants you to believe.

If God says, that it is not good that 'Man' should be alone and then created a Help Meet (Mate) suitable for him, than Bless God, He is still in the 'Mate-Joining' business.

Forget about the statistics...it's media speaking, not God. Be open to what God's promises are and put God in remembrance of them.

Don't be alone in your thoughts. Stay away from the 'alone' mentality. Stay away from the 'Aloners'.... don't absorb their thoughts.

Make room for the One that God is bringing into your life. Don't grieve anymore about your futures. Joy of Life is ahead for you. Believe it. Receive it. Don't 'Grieve it'.

You are not alone. You are in preparation and you can choose where you want to be in your faith.

Paul said, "I believe God". In the very midst of a storm, in an open boat, with no inflatable vest or Bell Towers to alert the Coast Guard... Yet Still, Paul said: "I Believe God'.

God told Paul what his itinerary was. Paul was directed towards the other side of the ocean. In the midst of the Storm which isolated him y from the view of God's promise, Paul still said: "I Believe God".

Please don't cry anymore... Please don't be sad. God isn't angry with you and this message is to assure you that all of the hurt that you've been feeling is no longer the ruler of your soul.

From this moment on....

"I Believe God"


Ooooooooooooooooo I have another scripture to share with you. I love this one.

For those of you who have been 'beaten' so low and crying out, "I just cannot take another 'hit' like this. I cannot take another blow to my heart; look what God is saying to you:

A bruised reed he will not break, and a smoldering wick (a flickering candle) he will not snuff out, till he has brought justice through to victory. (Matthew 12:20)


Did you 'hear' that? Oh... My Goodness! Oh, Oh, OH... My Goodness!

You have been hurt, you have been bruised enough. Your 'fire' feels that it has been 'snuffed' out.. your light is but a 'flicker' and it's lost it's bright shine in the dark. You feel kicked and punched and stomped upon. You cannot take another day or moment of this pain...

And God in all of His loving care and open arms, is lifting you up saying:

You've been bruised and used enough. Let me hold you close to my heart and let me heal you through all of this pain. Your light once bright, shall be brilliant again. I will not hurt you, I will not let this destroy you, I am your Healer, Provider, Protector... I have healing your broken heart...setting you free.

Now, Beloved Ones... you can choose to say what has always been true:

"I Believe God"

In Jesus' Name, Amen....

 

[sweetvi]

Shimmie


Thank you!!!!!!!!

 

[Nice & Wavy]

Shimmie,

Your ministry is wonderful...what a sweet savour in this thread of love and peace!

May the Lord continue to use you mightily in the lives of women...you have been called by the Lord to be a cutting edge woman in His Kingdom!!!

Love ya!

N&W

 

[Shimmie]

Shimmie,

Your ministry is wonderful...what a sweet savour in this thread of love and peace!

May the Lord continue to use you mightily in the lives of women...you have been called by the Lord to be a cutting edge woman in His Kingdom!!!

Love ya!

N&W

Thank you Precious Wavy... I cannot thank you enough for all of your encouragement which keeps me going, here and off from the 'forum'.

Iron Sharpens iron....

 

[Nice & Wavy]

Thank you Precious Wavy... I cannot thank you enough for all of your encouragement which keeps me going, here and off from the 'forum'.

Iron Sharpens iron....

 

[Shimmie]

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Right back at you, Sis. Right back at you.


I'm almost finished with the unpacking...

Almost there... I can see the walls and the living room carpet now...

 

[Nice & Wavy]

]

Right back at you, Sis. Right back at you.


I'm almost finished with the unpacking...

Almost there... I can see the walls and the living room carpet now...

I know you are excited about that...

 

[mensa]

My sister is battling cancer. She finished chemo, now she must have surgery and then radiation.

This world is so dangerous that I worry and become frantic about the safety of my husband and my children. I know it is a sin to worry but I do need to be delivered from this horrible thing.

I worry that my husband and children will not make it to heaven. They say that they are saved and act like it, but I still worry about the safety of their souls.

Please pray that God will set me free from fear and worry. I know that he can because he has set me free from so many other things.

Thank you for letting me vent because everyone I know thinks that I am this strong Christian who never worries and always has it together. But, they don't know that so many times I am trembling with fear.

 

[Shimmie]

My sister is battling cancer. She finished chemo, now she must have surgery and then radiation.

This world is so dangerous that I worry and become frantic about the safety of my husband and my children. I know it is a sin to worry but I do need to be delivered from this horrible thing.

I worry that my husband and children will not make it to heaven. They say that they are saved and act like it, but I still worry about the safety of their souls.

Please pray that God will set me free from fear and worry. I know that he can because he has set me free from so many other things.

Thank you for letting me vent because everyone I know thinks that I am this strong Christian who never worries and always has it together. But, they don't know that so many times I am trembling with fear.

mensa...

I can only imagine how you are feeling right now. There's a huge dark 'mountain' in front of you. With all of you faith and knowledge of God's Word and the power that you have within you, this mountain, is just not what you care to be 'feelin' at this moment.

Darling One, you don't have to push this mountain anywhere. It's there to protect you and your loved ones. It's God's way of shielding from any further harsh elements.

Please take this time to heal and just continue to be who you are ... the One who loves and bears all things for her family and loved ones.

God is going to take care of all that matters to you and you will see your sister revived and given a new view of life and a stronger commitment to God. She's at that place in her heart where she is ready to surrender totally and fully all.

Rest, Dear Mensa... just rest. You've give life and family beyond your best and now it's your time to rest upon this mountain and just rest. This meaning, you don't have to 'push' to make this go away. God is taking care of all of this for you.

Rest...

We will be praying for you... Be sure of it. You and your family are surrounded in many, many prayers of God's family who loves you and live to love you and others.

 

[AnjelLuvs]

Struggling heavily with self worth/self acceptance, like where do I begin... You live your life for others, making them happy and now when you ask self What makes YOU/ME happy? you sit blank... so you just do things that will take attention away from you focusing on you not loving you, or even knowing where to begin... Like reading daily devo's and sermons result in nothing, just more confusion and procrastination and just awaiting the casket, there is already so much death around me, why me, I know this too shall pass or will it... gotta stay hopeful... no one to talk to, no mother no father no siblings, I mean they exist, but not really and in this impaired/ sort of depressed state you start to push friends out of life, because you feel like you dont have any, or that they are not there for you like you are there for them... they should do the things I do, as isnt that what the good book says, treat others how you want to be treated... maybe they dont read the same book... or maybe they do, but only treat you good because they need something... ummm they are not your true friends you think...

ok now I am rambling, *breathes*

 

[Renewed1]

Welp! What concerns me at this moment is the weather in Illinois.

I am motivated right now to go and buy me a home with a basement. (But after I get a job).

 

[mensa]

Ms. Shimmie, I felt so much peace when I read your post to me. I will not forget what you told me. You really know how to encourage people and I am so glad to get to know you in this forum.

God bless you and your family.

 

[Kalani]

I'm in a very bad financial place. Have been for a while but things are getting really scary now. I know the economy isn't the best but with the number of applications I've put in and the various temp agencies I'm with it makes no sense to be going this long with no work.

 

[Shimmie]

Struggling heavily with self worth/self acceptance, like where do I begin... You live your life for others, making them happy and now when you ask self What makes YOU/ME happy? you sit blank... so you just do things that will take attention away from you focusing on you not loving you, or even knowing where to begin... Like reading daily devo's and sermons result in nothing, just more confusion and procrastination and just awaiting the casket, there is already so much death around me, why me,

I know this too shall pass or will it... gotta stay hopeful... no one to talk to, no mother no father no siblings, I mean they exist, but not really and in this impaired/ sort of depressed state you start to push friends out of life, because you feel like you dont have any, or that they are not there for you like you are there for them... they should do the things I do, as isnt that what the good book says, treat others how you want to be treated... maybe they dont read the same book... or maybe they do, but only treat you good because they need something... ummm they are not your true friends you think...

ok now I am rambling, *breathes*

AnjelLuvsUBabe

This is what God says about you Angel...

The Lord appeared to us from afar saying:

“I have loved you with an everlasting love;
I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.

I will build you up again,
and you.....will be rebuilt." (Jeremiah 31:3-4)

Angel, you are not worthless...God only puts together those whom He cannot bear to lose.

Humans will fail us everyday.... Hey... they're just that.... Humans. Yet God will never fail in loving you and treating you right. God will never fail in respecting and in appreciating you and all that you do.

Humans, on the other hand... are just so pre-occupied with day to night exhaustions and they just end up failing one another, and often without meaning to do so. They just cannot be anything other than human...human with limitations and failures... for none of us are God, who never slumbers nor sleeps, for He the true God who watches over Israel, watches over us.

God is rebuilding you , Angel. Yes, He is God is rebuilding you and filling in the gaps that were left unfilled by those you've loved. But hey, they are forgiven and they are still loved. And you will always love loving them, no matter what they do to fail you.

Why? Because you are Humanly Love inside out and doing what you love to do and that is one who loves to love.

You are not a failure, Angel. And you are worth far more than diamonds and rubies and pearls, and all of the silver and the gold. Now, that's worth, true worth, you truly are and always will be.

:blowkiss:

 

[Shimmie]

Welp! What concerns me at this moment is the weather in Illinois.

I am motivated right now to go and buy me a home with a basement. (But after I get a job).

You are 'Safe'

In the loving arms of God the Father...

You are Safe.

 

[Shimmie]

I'm in a very bad financial place. Have been for a while but things are getting really scary now. I know the economy isn't the best but with the number of applications I've put in and the various temp agencies I'm with it makes no sense to be going this long with no work.

dtachi...



Dear Father... Dtachi is so dear and near to your heart. Please provide her with your peace and with an abundance of assurance that you are taking care of her entire life.

More than money, you are blessing her with safe keeping. Providing every source of provision beyond her every need. Thank you for giving her the right job with exceptional income and with several perks and benefits to enable her to save more of her income than spending it upon bills and other essentials.

She will not be in debt to anyone. Her home will be secure and your provision for travel and transportation will be covered in full.

Father nothing is too hard for you. Bless her with favour and good understanding with all employers. Let her shine among all others applying for the same positions.

Father, if the position that she has applied for has been filled by another, then Father promote her. Place her in a higher level of work and remove all intimidation from her heart and replace it with full confidence in her skills to supercede all expectations of the work she is assigned.

To each of her employers, let her work blow their minds. You did this for Joseph, you made him 2nd in command to Pharoah; for Joseph was placed there for your glory and so shall you place dtachi... in a position of great importance and she will forever succeed.

Thank you Father for blessing her finances and her help and restore her joy in place of worry and sorrow... Thank you for fulfilling each and every need.

Thank you for the rich and rare gifts you have given her. Dtachi is rare and gifted with skills and talents which rise her above many others. She will always be a winner wherever you place her.

In Jesus, Name... we bow in loving appreciation for your promises fulfilled her life...

Amen and Amen.


A gift opens doors for the one who gives it and brings him into the presence of great people. (Proverbs 18:16)

If you fully obey the Lord your God and carefully follow all his commands I give you today, the Lord your God will set you high above all the nations on earth. (Deuteromony 28:1)


Everything is going to work out for you dtachi. It's going to be okay. It really is. Get some rest. You have tons of blessings and answered prayers coming your way and you need the energy to enjoy them.

:blowkiss:

 

[Kalani]

Shimmie, thank you so much for that incredible prayer! So powerful and edifying and there were things you stated that were obvious God is speaking through you. Just one little example is your reference to me being a "winner". The negative thought (likely the enemy) that has been permeating my mind is "loser". Of course I always try to battle those lies with truths that agree with the Word of God but the "loser" word has haunted me for some reason.

You have wonderful ministry gifts. This board is so blessed to have you!

 

[Shimmie]

Shimmie, thank you so much for that incredible prayer! So powerful and edifying and there were things you stated that were obvious God is speaking through you. Just one little example is your reference to me being a "winner". The negative thought (likely the enemy) that has been permeating my mind is "loser". Of course I always try to battle those lies with truths that agree with the Word of God but the "loser" word has haunted me for some reason.

You have wonderful ministry gifts. This board is so blessed to have you!

Precious and Loved dtachi...

God is 'de-taching' that lie of 'loser' away from your mind. For Jesus already
"detached" it from your life when He was upon the Cross.

God says it right here:

"For you have been made MORE THAN Conquerors through Jesus Christ our Lord" ....

You are 'More' than a Conqueror... "More"... Much More!

Something else: Don't be afraid to say 'Yes' to the next job offer. You can handle it... God, your Jehovah Shammah, has already gone before you and has prepared the way and has made your way perfect.

Do not be intimidated by the new responsibilities. You have a gift, a natural gift that you flow with beyond that of the ones you will be replacing. Ignore the stares and the glares.... for it is only your Bright and Shining Light that is reflecting in their eyes. Just do you job and flow; ask questions and just flow. You will 'capture' the good attention of those around you and you will not fail in your new position.

Take the higher position and allow God to have His glory in what He has called you to. You have been applying for positions which are below your true skills. Take the step above which you have been applying for. You can handle it. Yes, you can and you will.

:blowkiss:

 

[Shimmie]

HWAY...

God's Banner Over You is LOVE

You are surrounded by God's Love and Blessings

There is nothing too hard for the Lord, and nothing He will withhold from you that will bless you and bring you joy.


HWAY... God's Banner Over You is Love...

There are no black clouds allowed to hover over you...

 

[HWAY]

Thank you Shimmie. I absolutely love this thread. Your ministry of encouragement and building up other women is an example of love in action and how a Christian woman should relate to others. Don't stop doing what you are doing.

 

[proudofmynaps]

I feel comfortable coming here confessing.

I stepped out on my boyfriend of 5 years and I cant forgive myself. As a result of that I met an awesome men who treat me like a queen. The boyfriend of 5 years was very verbally abusive. I wrestle with the how all these came about. Why would God bless me with this wonderful man? I got down on my knees and prayed for forgiveness however I cant forgive myself from my wrong doing.

 

[JudithO]

proudofmynaps
I'm really sorry... I know EXACTLY how you feel.. and the guilt... Be rest assured that God has forgiven you if you ask... please ask God to help you forgive yourself too. I advice that you do whatever it takes to give you peace.... I would personally come clean with my boyfriend knowing fully well it may cost the relationship but I tell you, telling the truth and asking for forgiveness... is the most liberating feeling. All that weightt lifted off your shoulders will do a world of good for your sanity.... If you lose your relationship... Oh well, it's the physical consequence of your action... take it as a lesson learned and move on.

OT: If your man is very verbally abusive, then maybe you shouldnt be with him in the first place? Life is too short to be with an abusive man IMO...

 

[proudofmynaps]

proudofmynaps
I'm really sorry... I know EXACTLY how you feel.. and the guilt... Be rest assured that God has forgiven you if you ask... please ask God to help you forgive yourself too. I advice that you do whatever it takes to give you peace.... I would personally come clean with my boyfriend knowing fully well it may cost the relationship but I tell you, telling the truth and asking for forgiveness... is the most liberating feeling. All that weightt lifted off your shoulders will do a world of good for your sanity.... If you lose your relationship... Oh well, it's the physical consequence of your action... take it as a lesson learned and move on.

OT: If your man is very verbally abusive, then maybe you shouldnt be with him in the first place? Life is too short to be with an abusive man IMO...

JudithO

I confessed to him right away when it happened. However, I can't forgive myself. I prayed about it tonight and feel a little bit better but the guilt won't go away. I don't want to make excuses for my actions. Would God put another man in my life to let me know I could do better is my question. Since meeting him all the things I have asked for I'm being bless with. New job, moving back home to be with family, and started my spiritual journey again.