kawista9
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I am dating this guy that I more than like. I have been with him about 3 months, but it seems like forever because we just really like each other and we mesh very well and plus I was really liking him before we actually hooked up so the feelings are pretty strong sooooo...
about 6 months ago, he broke up with his baby mama of about 7 years. Their relationship consisted of him taking care of her. They are from New Orleans. and they were breaking up around the time of Katrina because he caught her coming back from a date with some other guy. The only reason they got back together was because when the hurricane hit, he being a good loving person, wisped her and their son away to houston and for the time being they got back into the groove of their relationship, until she got so fed up with being in houston, she decided to pack up and leave him to go to new orleans to be with her mother and sister. So for about a year they were apart, he came back and started to go through a bunch of crap with her. She did not want to come home because she was with her family. Even though she had a son and practically a husband waiting at home for her. She took him for granted(he doted on her alot and took care of pretty much all the bills while she spent all her money on clothes; jewelry and accessories to make her look like she was rich,when she wasn't) He was actually in houston in school advancing his career and left it all to be with her and he comes back to somebody who just seemed to not want to be with him. He finally told her, "we are not in love, we just doing this to do it and we have a son, we need time apart" They broke up and she was okay with it at first, until she realized that living with her mom in the hood is not as nice as living in a all bills paid, furnished apartment in metairie. She has been trying to get back with him but he has turned her down several times and then we met and like I said we meshed very well, but Lord, I don't like baby mama drama, but I like him and am willing to go through it. At first, I told him to work it out with her because I feel bad about them being together for soo long, but I actually find that in so many ways my strong feelings for him are actually being returned. WOW. I would not stand in his way if he said he wanted to go back her, but everytime we break up for the "betterment" of the situation, he comes back and I ofcourse do not turn him down. He doesn't want to hurt me, but also is a loyal and committed person. He has always been there for her and to not be there for the mother of his child is foreign to him sooo he is stressed about strongly wanting to be with me, but still feeling like he should be with her because they have a child and her parents really can't help her, and she just does not seem willing to help herself. Yes, I hate the situation, but I actually care about him and like I said I would not stand in the way of him doing what he feels he needs to do about this situation even if that meant being with her, but when he comes back to me immediately after like 2 days of trying to keep himself away from me, I am glad they broke up and quite honestly I feel like I would be better for him because we are both self sufficient; mature and I would not cheat on him or have a problem coming home to man and child I love and I don't need a lavish lifestyle. I would not use him to pay my bills or take care of me, but I saw that she would. She is selfish.
That brings me to my question. She called him yesterday and said that there was a tropical depression in the gulf and she was fishing to see what he would be doing about it. It is clear that she is looking forward to a situation like Katrina to bring them back together because poor thing has no where else together and they have a kid together and he has always taken care of her. He was telling me about it and I got afraid. He said, I know I gotta get here out of here if something does happen and I said, "why?" and he said, "how is she going to get out of here?" i said "Drive!" and he said "Where?" I said "I don't know...we you can set her and her son up at a hotel outside of new orleans and even pay for it and she can drive there herself." and he did not say anything after that. I am a tad bit jealous.
If you were in that situation, what would you do? Am I being selfish? I know she would only use the situation to pull him in, but she really doesn't have anywhere else to go and she is not self sufficient (she should be...) I just see someone who does not care about anyone else but herself. When hurricane Katrina came her family all (sister; mom; brothers) all were in shelters, but her she was living it up with Derrick who went to houston, got a job and paid all their bills while they stayed in a wonderful apartment, only to up and leave when right when her sister and mother return to new orleans and fix up their houses. Mind you she does not help her mother pay any bills(she is currently living with her). If the lights go off, she doesn't help at all. I feel like people like that need to be put in hard situation so that they can become self sufficient, but I digress from my anger and see that they have a son and I would not want anyone even her to be placed in a shelter where anything can happen to her, when there is someone there who can alleviate that...DERRICK.
I just wish he would just tell me he wanted to be with her and I would just get over him but I know that we fit very well and I don't want to let him go when I know he wants the same thing I want. I will stop...
about 6 months ago, he broke up with his baby mama of about 7 years. Their relationship consisted of him taking care of her. They are from New Orleans. and they were breaking up around the time of Katrina because he caught her coming back from a date with some other guy. The only reason they got back together was because when the hurricane hit, he being a good loving person, wisped her and their son away to houston and for the time being they got back into the groove of their relationship, until she got so fed up with being in houston, she decided to pack up and leave him to go to new orleans to be with her mother and sister. So for about a year they were apart, he came back and started to go through a bunch of crap with her. She did not want to come home because she was with her family. Even though she had a son and practically a husband waiting at home for her. She took him for granted(he doted on her alot and took care of pretty much all the bills while she spent all her money on clothes; jewelry and accessories to make her look like she was rich,when she wasn't) He was actually in houston in school advancing his career and left it all to be with her and he comes back to somebody who just seemed to not want to be with him. He finally told her, "we are not in love, we just doing this to do it and we have a son, we need time apart" They broke up and she was okay with it at first, until she realized that living with her mom in the hood is not as nice as living in a all bills paid, furnished apartment in metairie. She has been trying to get back with him but he has turned her down several times and then we met and like I said we meshed very well, but Lord, I don't like baby mama drama, but I like him and am willing to go through it. At first, I told him to work it out with her because I feel bad about them being together for soo long, but I actually find that in so many ways my strong feelings for him are actually being returned. WOW. I would not stand in his way if he said he wanted to go back her, but everytime we break up for the "betterment" of the situation, he comes back and I ofcourse do not turn him down. He doesn't want to hurt me, but also is a loyal and committed person. He has always been there for her and to not be there for the mother of his child is foreign to him sooo he is stressed about strongly wanting to be with me, but still feeling like he should be with her because they have a child and her parents really can't help her, and she just does not seem willing to help herself. Yes, I hate the situation, but I actually care about him and like I said I would not stand in the way of him doing what he feels he needs to do about this situation even if that meant being with her, but when he comes back to me immediately after like 2 days of trying to keep himself away from me, I am glad they broke up and quite honestly I feel like I would be better for him because we are both self sufficient; mature and I would not cheat on him or have a problem coming home to man and child I love and I don't need a lavish lifestyle. I would not use him to pay my bills or take care of me, but I saw that she would. She is selfish.
That brings me to my question. She called him yesterday and said that there was a tropical depression in the gulf and she was fishing to see what he would be doing about it. It is clear that she is looking forward to a situation like Katrina to bring them back together because poor thing has no where else together and they have a kid together and he has always taken care of her. He was telling me about it and I got afraid. He said, I know I gotta get here out of here if something does happen and I said, "why?" and he said, "how is she going to get out of here?" i said "Drive!" and he said "Where?" I said "I don't know...we you can set her and her son up at a hotel outside of new orleans and even pay for it and she can drive there herself." and he did not say anything after that. I am a tad bit jealous.
If you were in that situation, what would you do? Am I being selfish? I know she would only use the situation to pull him in, but she really doesn't have anywhere else to go and she is not self sufficient (she should be...) I just see someone who does not care about anyone else but herself. When hurricane Katrina came her family all (sister; mom; brothers) all were in shelters, but her she was living it up with Derrick who went to houston, got a job and paid all their bills while they stayed in a wonderful apartment, only to up and leave when right when her sister and mother return to new orleans and fix up their houses. Mind you she does not help her mother pay any bills(she is currently living with her). If the lights go off, she doesn't help at all. I feel like people like that need to be put in hard situation so that they can become self sufficient, but I digress from my anger and see that they have a son and I would not want anyone even her to be placed in a shelter where anything can happen to her, when there is someone there who can alleviate that...DERRICK.
I just wish he would just tell me he wanted to be with her and I would just get over him but I know that we fit very well and I don't want to let him go when I know he wants the same thing I want. I will stop...
