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So, what would YOU do in this situation...
You and your friend (she's not a best friend or anything, but the two of you get along well, and trying to develop a friendship) meet a guy while you're out. At first, it seems pretty obvious that he's interested in your friend - he's talking with her the whole night. But, he seems to be a gentleman and includes you in the conversation.
At the end of the night, he asks for both of your numbers. He tells your friend it's because he has a friend that he thinks might be a good match for you.
Fast forward to a couple of days later, he invites both of you out to a night out with a big group of his friends. Your friend arrives towards the end of dinner, and dude doesn't really say all that much to her. But he's chatted with you quite a bit. Your friend is upset about this and mentions it to you. You tell her not to worry about it too much.
Throughout the night, he talks to her a bit more and spends a bit more time with her. But he's still talking to you quite a bit. Again your girl is a bit bothered by this - she feels like he's paying more attention to you than to her and that seems odd.
At the end of the night, he leaves with your friend (which is what you expected because you thought he was interested in her). So, there ya go.
But then...dude calls you up and asks you out on a date. You think he's attractive and very interesting, and under any other circumstances, you'd definitely go out with him. But you KNOW dude was straight up trying to sleep with your friend. Not only that, but your friend tells you that she actually asked him whether or not he was interested in you as well, and he said no...do you still meet up with him?
My feeling is HELLS NAH. Dude has shown he's a player and that he's also disrespectful. But one of my friends is actually mulling this over. What do you all think?
Personally
You and your friend (she's not a best friend or anything, but the two of you get along well, and trying to develop a friendship) meet a guy while you're out. At first, it seems pretty obvious that he's interested in your friend - he's talking with her the whole night. But, he seems to be a gentleman and includes you in the conversation.
At the end of the night, he asks for both of your numbers. He tells your friend it's because he has a friend that he thinks might be a good match for you.
Fast forward to a couple of days later, he invites both of you out to a night out with a big group of his friends. Your friend arrives towards the end of dinner, and dude doesn't really say all that much to her. But he's chatted with you quite a bit. Your friend is upset about this and mentions it to you. You tell her not to worry about it too much.
Throughout the night, he talks to her a bit more and spends a bit more time with her. But he's still talking to you quite a bit. Again your girl is a bit bothered by this - she feels like he's paying more attention to you than to her and that seems odd.
At the end of the night, he leaves with your friend (which is what you expected because you thought he was interested in her). So, there ya go.
But then...dude calls you up and asks you out on a date. You think he's attractive and very interesting, and under any other circumstances, you'd definitely go out with him. But you KNOW dude was straight up trying to sleep with your friend. Not only that, but your friend tells you that she actually asked him whether or not he was interested in you as well, and he said no...do you still meet up with him?
My feeling is HELLS NAH. Dude has shown he's a player and that he's also disrespectful. But one of my friends is actually mulling this over. What do you all think?
Personally
I've seen male friends do this back when I was in college. Women are so thirsty that they fall for it. Your friend should ignore his calls or tell him to lose her number. He's trying to see who he can get in bed first. Point blank. Of course men are always on the hunt and seeking to date other women until they settle into a relationship. But the fact that he's blatantly trying to talk to both of them and they're aware of it/know each other is a sign of disrespect on his part. They fell for it, but they need to put a stop to it, because he won't until he hooks up with one of them.
It's weird, because I don't have an issue with dating a casual friends ex, nor do I have an issue with dating/talking to multiple people at the same time - but this whole situation screams "SHADY!!!!!!" to me. 
