DKO
Active Member
Here is my holiday gift to all the single ladies out there. I'm going to share some male secrets that they do NOT want you to know. I have gotten all of this info from Dh and his friends (all are now married and some used to be players or cheaters so believe me - this is coming straight from the horses mouth). Hopefully this will clear up some of the misconceptions about men, dating and relationships. Here goes:
1. IT DOES NOT take long for a man to decide if he wants to marry you. All the men said the same thing. They know by the end of 1 year if they want to marry you or not. They laugh and said that women make themselves look desperate and are fooling themselves when they stick around especially if they told the women they are not ready for marriage.
Now to break down the whole well why is he still with me but won't buy me a ring etc... Or for those of you who have been in a relationship for 5,6,7, etc... years. He doesn't REALLY want to marry you but he is keeping you there until something better comes along. Now if nothing better comes along then he may decide to settle down. Even if you have children with him, he may have a side chick and is with you for the same reason.
2. If a man REALLY wants to be with you or marry you -- he will do whatever it takes to get you. Men LOVE the thrill of the chase. And a man that finds a quality women he feels he could settle down with will make the effort REGARDLESS of where he lives, what's going on his life, his finances etc... He will work to make it happen. All you have to do is let him take the lead. The serious guy will follow through and do what he says, work around your schedule and go out of his way for you.
3. A man WILL stay in a non-fulfilling relationship for a number of reasons.
- He's bored with you but you are always there so he figures why rock the boat and if something better comes along, he's gone & he may cheat on you here and there for excitement.
- You support him so he doesn't want to mess up his situation. He may have a chick on the side though.
- You look good but you have no substance so he can only deal with you for so long and then he's out. He may get tired of you after a while and is probably seeing other women.
- He feels all women represent drama anyway so he might as well stay in his current relationship (it's easier and he is comfortable with the situation) but he may dip out on the side here and there.
- You are cool but there is that 1 thing that he is not sure about (could be your finances, bad habit, weight, baby mama drama etc...) that keeps him from asking you for your hand in marriage. He'll stay around until something better comes along.
4. Men will tell you in more than one way that he isn't REALLY that into you. Here are examples: Men who don't make an effort to spend quality time with you. Doesn't involve you in all aspects of his life (one of the guys said he had a b-day party and didn't invite his 4 yr. girlfriend - hint hint). If he hangs with the boys more than with you. Doesn't follow through with what he says. Says upfront he's not trying to be in a relationship but will sleep with you. All of these things indicate that you are not a priority in his life. You are something to do when he doesn't have anything else to do.
5. Men are really simple. There are a few men who are scared of commitment for various reasons. But the majority of men at some point want to settle down with a women and get married. Once a man hits that point, he will make it known to you upfront that he is interested in a relationship that could possibly lead to marriage. If you are dating a man and 6 months rolls around with no mention of where the relationship is going - you are in one of those situations where he more than likely will not ask you to marry him.
6. They feel most women have low self-esteem and can pick up on it right away. The finest women they say have some of the lowest self-esteem. It's really a turnoff for men. They will date you or just sleep with you but won't be too serious about you. They want a confident women who likes who she is and can just be herself. The video looking chicks may get more attention at the club, but at the end of the day she isn't getting marriage proposals either.
Ladies, it's a man's job to chase you, court you and propose. All you have to do is decide if you want to marry him or not. Let the man do the work-don't make it soooo easy. If he REALLY likes you...he'll man up and accept the chase. I hope this information can help you make smart choices in who you choose to date in the future.
1. IT DOES NOT take long for a man to decide if he wants to marry you. All the men said the same thing. They know by the end of 1 year if they want to marry you or not. They laugh and said that women make themselves look desperate and are fooling themselves when they stick around especially if they told the women they are not ready for marriage.
Now to break down the whole well why is he still with me but won't buy me a ring etc... Or for those of you who have been in a relationship for 5,6,7, etc... years. He doesn't REALLY want to marry you but he is keeping you there until something better comes along. Now if nothing better comes along then he may decide to settle down. Even if you have children with him, he may have a side chick and is with you for the same reason.
2. If a man REALLY wants to be with you or marry you -- he will do whatever it takes to get you. Men LOVE the thrill of the chase. And a man that finds a quality women he feels he could settle down with will make the effort REGARDLESS of where he lives, what's going on his life, his finances etc... He will work to make it happen. All you have to do is let him take the lead. The serious guy will follow through and do what he says, work around your schedule and go out of his way for you.
3. A man WILL stay in a non-fulfilling relationship for a number of reasons.
- He's bored with you but you are always there so he figures why rock the boat and if something better comes along, he's gone & he may cheat on you here and there for excitement.
- You support him so he doesn't want to mess up his situation. He may have a chick on the side though.
- You look good but you have no substance so he can only deal with you for so long and then he's out. He may get tired of you after a while and is probably seeing other women.
- He feels all women represent drama anyway so he might as well stay in his current relationship (it's easier and he is comfortable with the situation) but he may dip out on the side here and there.
- You are cool but there is that 1 thing that he is not sure about (could be your finances, bad habit, weight, baby mama drama etc...) that keeps him from asking you for your hand in marriage. He'll stay around until something better comes along.
4. Men will tell you in more than one way that he isn't REALLY that into you. Here are examples: Men who don't make an effort to spend quality time with you. Doesn't involve you in all aspects of his life (one of the guys said he had a b-day party and didn't invite his 4 yr. girlfriend - hint hint). If he hangs with the boys more than with you. Doesn't follow through with what he says. Says upfront he's not trying to be in a relationship but will sleep with you. All of these things indicate that you are not a priority in his life. You are something to do when he doesn't have anything else to do.
5. Men are really simple. There are a few men who are scared of commitment for various reasons. But the majority of men at some point want to settle down with a women and get married. Once a man hits that point, he will make it known to you upfront that he is interested in a relationship that could possibly lead to marriage. If you are dating a man and 6 months rolls around with no mention of where the relationship is going - you are in one of those situations where he more than likely will not ask you to marry him.
6. They feel most women have low self-esteem and can pick up on it right away. The finest women they say have some of the lowest self-esteem. It's really a turnoff for men. They will date you or just sleep with you but won't be too serious about you. They want a confident women who likes who she is and can just be herself. The video looking chicks may get more attention at the club, but at the end of the day she isn't getting marriage proposals either.
Ladies, it's a man's job to chase you, court you and propose. All you have to do is decide if you want to marry him or not. Let the man do the work-don't make it soooo easy. If he REALLY likes you...he'll man up and accept the chase. I hope this information can help you make smart choices in who you choose to date in the future.