Girl, I'm not on the hair side much...anymore. I reached WL when I was relaxed, but this natural thing has not been the easiest to figure out, especially since I have hair unlike most people.
I have lots of definition on the ends of my hair and in the back (this area is mainly 4a), my crown and top are a bit looser closer to 3c but frizzy as all get out, no root definition, but the ends curl.
I mainly protective-style, my hair thrives when left alone. Trying to find products that work and SSKs have been killing me.
My hair hates coconut oil and it seems like every natural raves about it. I can prepoo with it, but that's it.
My hair likes avocado oil, Oyin hair dew, APB refresher sprays,Camille Rose Twisting Butter, CurlMaker, and Qhemet Burdock Root Butter cream.
I can do some-of the Shea Moisture DCs , but none of the stylers, cowashes, or gels. Hair likes protein, so I keep that in rotation.
The weird thing about my hair is that because it's so dense, I have to use a heavier oil to seal, but I can't go too heavy, because my fine strands will get weighed down. Finding that balance is cumbersome.
I find that if I mix my oil ( JBCO is my oil of choice to seal) with my cream and apply it at the same time, it's doesn't get as weighed down.