What is it that let's a man know, "oh she's serious"!

[*5+5]

After 4 days of silent treatment and watching him be mad I decided to confront my SO in attempt to work it out and get passed it. (he was mad at me for confronting him over something his mom & sister told me)

So much for trying, dude was still mad at me as if the argument had just happened. He said he wasn't talking to me b/c he wasn't feeling me a the moment.
Little did he know he caught me at the wrong time and I wasn't for this tantrum.

I told him, “you know what I respect how you feel but I'm not the girl for u if this is going to be your response when we have an issue". Also, I think we should take time apart b/c I don't want to have you this upset over matters that IMO could be worst. (at this point I was frustrated b/c in actuallity I should've been the one with the attitude)

Well low and behold the clouds open up, the sun starts shining and dude begins back-peddling like a mug.

I might have said something close to that before but didn't get the same reaction. How is it that they just know you ain't playin'?

These last few days I've received beginner's dating treatment, dude has been going major hard, pulling out all the stops! Thing is I didn't need all of that b/c I know it's out of fear, I just wanted him to be able to communicate with me and not go into reclusion when I confront him with something.

Well in the meantime I'll enjoy making him sweat, but how is that they just know?

Is it the sterness in our stare, the position of the hip, the firmness in our words or what?

 

[**SaSSy**]

It's just something that a man knows when he has a strong sista stepping to him on some "Look here N, I'm not playing" look. It's like the fear of god, and their mother they see in you.

 

[DarkHair]

I think its the physical attitude and the tone/volume of voice.

 

[ThickHair]

IMHO sounds like you really know how to manipulate him. Just leave him alone and when he get's over the "issue" he will return.

What helped me figure that out was reading Men are From Mars and Women are from Venus. The original book. It mentions about men being in their caves and about them being rubberbands and all. I know the book series seems corny, but there are a lot of chunks of knowledge.

 

[SHEANITPRO]

Men are so used to emotional responses from women. When we go hard, it punks them!

You took the "high road" and let him see you are not afraid to be without him....

This is female "kryptonite"!

 

[AstroQueen77]

After 4 days of silent treatment and watching him be mad I decided to confront my SO in attempt to work it out and get passed it. (he was mad at me for confronting him over something his mom & sister told me)

So much for trying, dude was still mad at me as if the argument had just happened. He said he wasn't talking to me b/c he wasn't feeling me a the moment.
Little did he know he caught me at the wrong time and I wasn't for this tantrum.

I told him, “you know what I respect how you feel but I'm not the girl for u if this is going to be your response when we have an issue". Also, I think we should take time apart b/c I don't want to have you this upset over matters that IMO could be worst. (at this point I was frustrated b/c in actuallity I should've been the one with the attitude)

Well low and behold the clouds open up, the sun starts shining and dude begins back-peddling like a mug.

I might have said something close to that before but didn't get the same reaction. How is it that they just know you ain't playin'?

These last few days I've received beginner's dating treatment, dude has been going major hard, pulling out all the stops! Thing is I didn't need all of that b/c I know it's out of fear, I just wanted him to be able to communicate with me and not go into reclusion when I confront him with something.

Well in the meantime I'll enjoy making him sweat, but how is that they just know?

Is it the sterness in our stare, the position of the hip, the firmness in our words or what?

As sad as it is, guys sometimes need to feel that "fear of God" to act right. As clueless as they try to act, they know when you mean business if your communication is sincere. Empty ultimatums feel weak, and they don't take those seriously.

 

[*5+5]

Men are so used to emotional responses from women. When we go hard, it punks them!

You took the "high road" and let him see you are not afraid to be without him....

This is female "kryptonite"!

So true! I guess it's that "go hard" that comes from the heart that they can seperate from the typical 'whining'.

IMHO sounds like you really know how to manipulate him. Just leave him alone and when he get's over the "issue" he will return.

What helped me figure that out was reading Men are From Mars and Women are from Venus. The original book. It mentions about men being in their caves and about them being rubberbands and all. I know the book series seems corny, but there are a lot of chunks of knowledge.

I'm actually horrible with manipulation. I'm a light weight pushover and on any normal day would've retreated as soon as I saw that he was still mad.

I'm the peace keeper and would in a heartbeat push something under the rug for the sake of peace but I think I'm at my breaking point with that.

 

[Kerryann]

Its the millitant attitude you gave the last couple of days that says double Onegro i aint playing

 

[BeautifulFlower]

Are you from the DC area?

 

[*5+5]

Are you from the DC area?

I live here but I'm from NC.

 

[aribell]

...may repost later...

 

[tiara76]

people know when they are overreacting, esp dudes and will try to make it seem as if u did something wrong...when you know you are not in the wrong (ur situation was a valid concern to come up and be discussed if you are in a relationship with somebody) and let somebody know that this is petty and let them know that you aren't goin for it (esp a dude...man up and act like u got some sense or stay on *****mode and im out)
they str8n up if they want u around...usually their attitudes are forms of emotional manipulation and work to get people to be like

ooo im so sorry, please don't be mad at me, what can i do for you to make u not mad at me etc

you have to be for real about letting somebody know that you can step away if its this serious they have to resort to acting immature about it and u will do them a favor so they dont have to be this upset in life

 

[Spiffy]

IMHO, the top motivation for guys to start moving their feet is fear. Not to say fear is what sustains their motivation overtime, but I do think fear gets their gears going. His fear of losing you made it click for him that this is no joke.

That's just in my book though, but I don't have a publisher, lol.

 

[Bmack]

IMHO, the top motivation for guys to start moving their feet is fear. Not to say fear is what sustains their motivation overtime, but I do think fear gets their gears going. His fear of losing you made it click for him that this is no joke.

That's just in my book though, but I don't have a publisher, lol.

Yes, what you said is true.