What information do you feel you NEED to know...

[Lindy]

Plus I'm wondering how many of these same ladies who are asking for medical history have slept with a man without having that information. And could it happen again??

I know its the thing to do (and say) but are folks really doing it, or are we just saying it...

I don't know anyone who actually walks around with their STD test results at hand, OR who would be willing to visit the doctor to be tested just because a potential buck fuddy asked for them... And if you're using condoms, can't you skip the STD conversation?? Lastly, if someone asked you if you had ever had an STD, and you had (at some time in the past), would you tell them?? Honestly now, think about it... It's a scary world out there. Makes me wanna stay home and take up knitting. erplexed

 

[firecracker]

(Please take it easy on me with the lecturing about marriage and committed relationships, etc... I am a 25 year old STRESSED out medical school student who hasn't had any in 10 months so you know whats up)

Well gon head on and get yo freak on since we can't tell your horny toed butt nothing or give you a sermon bout no committment.

I did hear sexing was a great stress reliever and anger management tool? So is God but you ain't heard that from this sinning hefafa

 

[tocktick]

I don't know anyone who actually walks around with their STD test results at hand, OR who would be willing to visit the doctor to be tested just because a potential buck fuddy asked for them... And if you're using condoms, can't you skip the STD conversation?? Lastly, if someone asked you if you had ever had an STD, and you had (at some time in the past), would you tell them?? Honestly now, think about it... It's a scary world out there. Makes me wanna stay home and take up knitting. erplexed

if that person has genital warts then a condom will not protect you. so unless you're down there inspecting his package before things get started, you're at risk. additionally, what if the condom breaks? if he does have an std then you've probably just caught it. just hope that it's not aids/hiv...

anyway, i do agree with you for the most part. who is really going to ask their fwb to take a test? also, when engaging in casual people tend to rush into sex instead of waiting for the results of some test because, imo, it's the last thing on their minds. i also don't think anybody who had a previous std would admit to having had one when asked. let's be real.

the things i need to know are what i'd ask a boyfriend not a potential fwb. i'd also be requiring that test and i'd be willing to take one with him. in fact, i expect him to ask me to take on also. if we are in a relationship then it's a fair thing to ask. one night stands etc tend to be spur of the moment things that you are never fully planned for.

 

[firecracker]

I don't know anyone who actually walks around with their STD test results at hand,

**** I do or its in another purse I changed up. I get paided a pretty penny annually for wellness check ups/full physicals w/aids testing, mammogram, pap etc so I knows whats up and have always demanded the same disclosure but thats so far and in between so maybe I don't count. I wish I could give my ole coogie up without a real relationship.

 

[NewYorkgyrl]

Well gon head on and get yo freak on since we can't tell your horny toed butt nothing or give you a sermon bout no committment.

I did hear sexing was a great stress reliever and anger management tool? So is God but you ain't heard that from this sinning hefafa

LOL I must have been really frustrated when I started this thread. School is stressing me out.

I HIGHLY doubt I will even do anything with anyone. It might be awhile before I even feel that comfortable with anyone. Plus I would want for it to be going somewhere. I have never been into the casual sex thing. But your right I heard it is a stress reliever.

 

[sky_blu]

Everything.