Don't be discouraged, my hair used to be 4B and is now 4C since I entered my 30s. This is how I usually rock my hair, since cutting it:
Sometimes I do twist outs:
Sometimes I straighten it:
And compared to how my hair used to look, when I was 4B, I feel that my hair is more pin straight now, when I use a flat iron. Here's a comparison pic from way back when:
Before I cut my hair I also tried my hand at finger coils:
Right after I cut my hair, I wore my hair like this:
So1913 who used to be a member here, once said something that stood out to me: "I do what my hair tells me to do and we get along just fine."
Once you stop fighting your hair, the hairstyles will come easily. It's difficult with our hair type, because it's usually looked down upon. But I've come to realize that it's mind over matter
. Here's the hairstyle I'm planning for my b-day: