sunshine91496
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Ok so I've been out with this guy a few times over the last several months, we work in the same company and have become good friends I think. THere was a strong attraction initially, lots of eye contact, playful touching, him making excuses to talk with me or text me, etc. He came over a few times, we had great time, but nothing happened. It's about six months later, and we still hang out most at or after leaving work about 3-4 days a week. Still have great conversation, and all that, he pays for our lunch and drinks at least a few times per month, I made lunch for about a month for the both of us, but that got people talking at the company, so he squelched that one, took me out on my birthday and really is just a solid person in my life. He also does most of the gentleman thing, holding doors, paying for parking (we work in the city), doesn't stare or flirt with other women when he's with me (though he does do the phone thing a lot- but he will usually tell me what it was about when he gets of), has confided a lot of personal details abouthis life and past with me, etc. He did once ask me if I think of him like a girlfirend, I was perplexed of course and told him no, apologized if he thought so, and I guess, I started trying more without trying to make sure he knew I was interested.
All this to say, is that we did have some "close" moments in the past, but I always just figured it was best to let the guy make the move. I've never really made a move on a guy before. The most I've ever done with this guy is I gave him a massage a couple times, he seemed to enjoy it, but usually something happened to interrupt the moment. Plus I just don't know really how to make a move, I think he would have been cool with it if I did, but I really just wanted him to initiate. I don't know if its because we work in the same company, or if I should just think "he's just that into me" My cousin who is a single guy said, he probably could be interested, but just sees me as wife material, and he still wants to play around. In one sense I can understand this because I don't sleep around, its not that I am opposed to it per se, just that I really need to feel something happening before I go to that level, but I still think he would try something.
Anyway like I said its been six months and now where in this sort of limbo.. we still do the same stuff every week. I understand if he just wants to be friends, but unless he's stupid, and he's not, he's got to know that I like him.. I just don't get it. I do like this person as a friend and we could be BFFs, but how do I bring this up, or do I just become unavailable. I'm sorry for the silly questions, but I just don't know what to do.
All this to say, is that we did have some "close" moments in the past, but I always just figured it was best to let the guy make the move. I've never really made a move on a guy before. The most I've ever done with this guy is I gave him a massage a couple times, he seemed to enjoy it, but usually something happened to interrupt the moment. Plus I just don't know really how to make a move, I think he would have been cool with it if I did, but I really just wanted him to initiate. I don't know if its because we work in the same company, or if I should just think "he's just that into me" My cousin who is a single guy said, he probably could be interested, but just sees me as wife material, and he still wants to play around. In one sense I can understand this because I don't sleep around, its not that I am opposed to it per se, just that I really need to feel something happening before I go to that level, but I still think he would try something.
Anyway like I said its been six months and now where in this sort of limbo.. we still do the same stuff every week. I understand if he just wants to be friends, but unless he's stupid, and he's not, he's got to know that I like him.. I just don't get it. I do like this person as a friend and we could be BFFs, but how do I bring this up, or do I just become unavailable. I'm sorry for the silly questions, but I just don't know what to do.