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tinkat thank you so much, it means a lot to me to hear that
I also know people like the ones you described. I'm related to quite a few, however, I'm always mindful that it's not necessarily always ONE person.
Sometimes everyone in the situation needs to make changes. Takes two to tango. It's funny that people love LOA and the Secret, yet sometimes in their relationships they forget that like usually attracts like......hurt people, hurt people and attract other hurt people, IME.....
As applied to myself, Of course I still have a lot of things to fix and I struggle with my temperament and things like empathetic listening & awareness I frequently feel that I'm backsliding because I'm such a reactive person but I really do try my best to be mindful on a daily basis. I try not to be a blaming person and try to take responsibility for my life and many of the things that happen in it. That said, I want to get married and have children (possibly lol) some day, if I don't make changes now or other innocent people will be paying for it later. I don't want that at all.....