classoohfive
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Same here. The last relationship that I was in was intense. The relationship wasn't exactly like the video (no drug use), but I never thought that I'd find myself in a relationship like that at all. I was young and completely in love...totally unequally yoked...and blind. When we broke up the first time, I thought that I was going to die...seriously. My body ached, I didn't want to sleep...nothing. Got over that break up by getting back together again. The whole relationship was a vicious cycle.
I knew the relationship wasn't right in the beginning, but I had no idea that it would continue for so long. I honestly think that I just didn't have much self-esteem...kind of ironic b/c few people would've ever thunk it. I finally ended up moving from OH to TX and cutting off all communication...although he tries to contact me via text messages.
I don't ever want to be involved in anything like that ever again in my life...and I won't. I know my worth. Thank God he got me outta that mess.
@justicefighter1913 I'm very glad you're out of that situation.
The bolded is very similar to what I experienced but I didn't want to share because I don't see what I experienced as good at all and I don't miss it. It was "intense" but in a bad way. The passion and all that "love" only felt more intense because he was a horrible person. If someone treats you bad and then gives you even the smallest ounce of niceness, it makes that ounce of niceness seem like a pound when reality it's not much at all. The worse he got, the more "intense" the love got. I was just blind to it and when someone has that type of hold over you it makes it so hard to leave (and in my case, sometimes there was fear that kept me from leaving), so I got over the break-ups by getting back together. I also felt crazy but that was part of his manipulation. He felt crazy, each time he realized he could not control me and then he called his actions "love" and "caring too much". It was going to DV support groups and working on my self-esteem that helped push me out of the cycle and know my worth, and while I'm still healing (physically and mentally) I at least know I'm worth more than that and I'm not in denial about what it really was. I don't ever want to experience anything like that again.
And I haven't watched the video so I'm just going based on comments here, so sorry if I missed something. I refuse to watch it because I'm still healing and I don't want to be triggered, that's why it took me so long to even post this (I think this thread only had 3 posts the first time I read it) and I left out like 95% of the details.