I think this was a very useful, thought-provoking resource, and the strategies they suggest are ones that I have practiced in my own life as I've grappled with prolonged singleness. However, I do often have a problem with these kinds of things that make women feel guilty because they feel sad about being single. Or, they are made to feel that they should focus on other things that make them happy while in their single state. What they don't address enough are the millions of single women who have done EXACTLY that: we have spent years and years making ourselves happy in our singleness. For me, I know exactly what I want. I've done things as a single like travel, join book discussion groups, run marathons, earned my Ph.D., bought a home, have an excellent career, etc.
Just because I want a man in my life doesn't mean that I'm desperate or that I don't know how to find happiness being single. I think that way of thinking is very unfair to women who have done everything right and simply now are searching for happiness in loving relationships. While I do understand what these counselors are trying to do, I'm tired of being made to feel guilty for wanting a relationship; or make us feel that we can't pursue two goals at the same time--success and love. They seem to assert that we can only focus on one thing at a time but not both. Yes, I'm happy being single. Yes, I love myself and am doing things to make my life full...
And yes, in addition to these things, I also seek a relationship with a man who is loving, kind and wants to share his life with me.