Menina Preta
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I follow Demetria Lucas (Belle in Brooklyn blogger and Blood, Sweat and Heels reality personality) on Facebook. She posted this yesterday:
Question: "If you've been in a relationship for 5 years, should you have to give an ultimatum for your man to propose? Talked about marriage thru the years, he keeps saying he isn't ready yet."
Answer (Demetria): "No. He either wants to marry you or he doesn't. You don't want a husband you have to force to marry you. You want someone who considers himself ready and is willing, not under duress. You want an actual marriage that lasts, not just dope wedding pictures. If you're tired of waiting, you always have the option to leave?"
Do you agree? I scanned the comments and saw another popular 30+ Black woman blogger (from the book "B**** is the New Black") ask if this technique has ever worked for them and some women chimed in...I don't think telling a man that he must do XYZ or else is helpful, but I do think a woman should be clear with what they will and will not tolerate and not wait for him to figure it out on his own. What say you? Like when does it turn from stating your expectations to giving ultimatums?
Question: "If you've been in a relationship for 5 years, should you have to give an ultimatum for your man to propose? Talked about marriage thru the years, he keeps saying he isn't ready yet."
Answer (Demetria): "No. He either wants to marry you or he doesn't. You don't want a husband you have to force to marry you. You want someone who considers himself ready and is willing, not under duress. You want an actual marriage that lasts, not just dope wedding pictures. If you're tired of waiting, you always have the option to leave?"
Do you agree? I scanned the comments and saw another popular 30+ Black woman blogger (from the book "B**** is the New Black") ask if this technique has ever worked for them and some women chimed in...I don't think telling a man that he must do XYZ or else is helpful, but I do think a woman should be clear with what they will and will not tolerate and not wait for him to figure it out on his own. What say you? Like when does it turn from stating your expectations to giving ultimatums?