I called my married brofriend a HYPOCRITE because of my singleness angst....
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discobiscuits
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This may be one of the reasons why they teach us in our church that married and unmarried people should not fellowship because it will breed discontentment (on one or both sides) or cause some other issue(s). It is a 'type of' unequal yoke because the married and unmarried people are on different footing and in different situations.
Love this ^^^^^
Appreciate the dialogue here.... a statement of clarification:
this exchange began as part of a larger conversation between a group of my friends (some married, some unmarried, some divorced and remarried). This particular exchange occurred when he emailed me privately about where the exchange was going. So I wasn't pouring my heart out to him randomly but I did and do own what I said. And it's even more clear as to where to place this email exchange: different marital status, different perspective.
Valerie's PM to me reaffirmed the need to focus on me and my stuff (for lack of a better word) and to avoid unproductive conversations. And as I was praying this morning, I thought about how one's pain can be someone else's deliverance...or at least a way to help someone else AVOID such pitfalls so for that, no regrets in sharing this here.
What also has come to mind is the way that the body of Christ presents singleness in the church and maybe one day, a dialogue will begin where singleness will be celebrated and not tolerated by all, regardless of marital status.
Be well.
this exchange began as part of a larger conversation between a group of my friends (some married, some unmarried, some divorced and remarried). This particular exchange occurred when he emailed me privately about where the exchange was going. So I wasn't pouring my heart out to him randomly but I did and do own what I said. And it's even more clear as to where to place this email exchange: different marital status, different perspective.
Valerie's PM to me reaffirmed the need to focus on me and my stuff (for lack of a better word) and to avoid unproductive conversations. And as I was praying this morning, I thought about how one's pain can be someone else's deliverance...or at least a way to help someone else AVOID such pitfalls so for that, no regrets in sharing this here.
What also has come to mind is the way that the body of Christ presents singleness in the church and maybe one day, a dialogue will begin where singleness will be celebrated and not tolerated by all, regardless of marital status.
Be well.
discobiscuits
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some people learn lessons from personal experience, some learn from others' experience(s). I prefer the latter - a lot easier LOL. 
Poohbear
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I think the only thing he said somewhat wrong was this in bold:
No one necessarily needs sex, but it's great that he is having and wanting sex with his wife within a marriage committment.
Other than that, I didn't see anything else out of line. He didn't say you were "unworthy, deficient, disabled" just because a man does not want to marry you. You said that, not him.
I believe when he said "it is wise for you to be found", he may be thinking of this Bible verse:
Proverbs 18:22
22 He who finds a wife finds what is good
and receives favor from the LORD.
Check out this link on Bible verses which talk about resting in the Lord and waiting patiently for Him: http://www.topical-bible-studies.org/05-0006.htm
No one necessarily needs sex, but it's great that he is having and wanting sex with his wife within a marriage committment.
Other than that, I didn't see anything else out of line. He didn't say you were "unworthy, deficient, disabled" just because a man does not want to marry you. You said that, not him.
I believe when he said "it is wise for you to be found", he may be thinking of this Bible verse:
Proverbs 18:22
22 He who finds a wife finds what is good
and receives favor from the LORD.
Check out this link on Bible verses which talk about resting in the Lord and waiting patiently for Him: http://www.topical-bible-studies.org/05-0006.htm
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