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To remind myself how dedicated I am to this I did my first trim. About 3 inches my cut a lil more tomorrow I really miss having shoulder length braid outs. Besides my ends look good now. Being on the growth train I see I shoukdve been cutting more.
 
Almost 2years post! Hang in there ladies...it gets better :) I never BC'd just ver small trims here and there...my permed ends mostly snapped off from improper handling in the beginning of my transition. I couldn't be happier with my hair as it is now and I do it all myself now...I was a true and faithful salon head from about age 5 to 35 ;)
 
EnExitStageLeft yes I'm SUPPOSED to wash tomorrow but I'm seriously rethinking it. And you've got some good growth if you do a lot of trimming. I've been following you and you've cone a very long way this year.
 
freckledface

yeah I'm a trim-a-holic lol. I've cut maybe 2-3 inches within the last month and a half alone lol. Thank you for the kind words though. Hopefully I can have the same results this year.
 
How many years months weeks would it take for my hair to get this long (she looks to have a blowout)? I would feel comfortable with an Afro this bi once I'm done transitioning.

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I'm debating chopping my hair around my birthday if I have 4 inches of growth. That would put me at neck length
 
naija24 said:
How many years months weeks would it take for my hair to get this long (she looks to have a blowout)? I would feel comfortable with an Afro this bi once I'm done transitioning.

I'm debating chopping my hair around my birthday if I have 4 inches of growth. That would put me at neck length
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If that's a blow out, I'd say 1-2 years. Not that long at all!
 
OMG you don't think she has long hair?? I think her hair is crazy long. I am not sure Id even want hair an inch more than that
 
naija24 said:
sharifeh, how long are you planning to transition?

I can't wait to be five months in March. If I can get to that, then I think it'll be smooth sailing after that.
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naija24
I don't have a specific time goal but I don't want super short hair so it's gonna be awhile...

I'm gonna try to grow some hair, I'm flirting with the idea of ordering hairfinity
 
It will be a year for me March 9th. I have the itch ...to cut these strings off!! Anyone else planning on bc'ing within the next 3-6 months?
 
sharifeh said:
@Britt

Your hair is so pretty! You seem to have such a good handle on your hair!!
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@shrarifeh Really? Thank you! Trust me, it's a lot of trial and error and I take it day by day. I've been using a good amount of heat and I somewhat fear heat damage at this stage, I notice I have a straightish piece in my bang area I think. Tmrw I will find a way to pin up my stale braid out, and tmrw I will def have to rebraid so my hair won't have a matted look. I'm trying to balance using heat and not using it.. Not using it will mean I have to rebraid/retwist nightly or at least every other night.
 
Pinned back my hair this morning. Will rebraid tonight.

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Uh I regret my decision to wash my hair I should've gone to the salon, I was about to cry my new growth is insane :(
I'm DCing right now with sitrinillah and macadamia nut mask and cocasta shikakai oil
I need it I hope it's easier to comb after this jeez
Pray for me ladies
 
sharifeh said:
Uh I regret my decision to wash my hair I should've gone to the salon, I was about to cry my new growth is insane :(
I'm DCing right now with sitrinillah and macadamia nut mask and cocasta shikakai oil
I need it I hope it's easier to comb after this jeez
Pray for me ladies
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Did u detangle before washing? if u didnt, start incorporating that tactic into your routine. As ur new growth gets longer you are goin to have to do that.

Oil your roots before you detangle and use your fingers first.

Also, apply some leave in heavily to the ends of your hair that is still relaxed to weight it down. I discovered this makes it easier to detangle.

Next time do these steps Before you wash.

Let me know how it turns out and good luck. ;)
 
havilland said:
Did u detangle before washing? if u didnt, start incorporating that tactic into your routine. As ur new growth gets longer you are goin to have to do that.

Oil your roots before you detangle and use your fingers first.

Also, apply some leave in heavily to the ends of your hair that is still relaxed to weight it down. I discovered this makes it easier to detangle.

Next time do these steps Before you wash.

Let me know how it turns out and good luck. ;)
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I didnt really detangle before washing but luckily was pressed by a stylist two weeks prior so it was really straight and not super tangled. I think that was my saving grace. I did a very preliminary sloppy pre-poo for a few minutes, I'll try to pre-poo for longer next time and I'll comb through a little bit like you said.
The DC really saved me. My hair I think was easier to comb after. I lost a lot of hair but I also hadnt washed in two weeks. It took me forever to rollerset but it didn't come out totally terrible . Roots are poofy but oddly enough my rollerset got a lot of compliments the next day. :lol: Unfortunately for most of this transition I think I should rely on a stylist to press my hair out. It's easiest to maintain but I also want to know that I can handle it on my own if I need to.

I hadn't washed my hair on my own since I was 3-4 months post ( because of salon blow outs/flatiron) so I just panicked when I got into the shower and I saw this big afro connected to straight stringy hair, ahhh it was crazy, I wanted to scream and cry :lachen: :nono: My hair is so dense it takes forever to detangle and style too smh

thanks for looking out havilland :bighug:
I really want to be like you guys and not be overwhelmed by own hair, you guys are soo good!! especially ya'll EnExitStageLeft Britt
 
sharifeh said:
I didnt really detangle before washing but luckily was pressed by a stylist two weeks prior so it was really straight and not super tangled. I think that was my saving grace. I did a very preliminary sloppy pre-poo for a few minutes, I'll try to pre-poo for longer next time and I'll comb through a little bit like you said.
The DC really saved me. My hair I think was easier to comb after. I lost a lot of hair but I also hadnt washed in two weeks. It took me forever to rollerset but it didn't come out totally terrible . Roots are poofy but oddly enough my rollerset got a lot of compliments the next day. :lol: Unfortunately for most of this transition I think I should rely on a stylist to press my hair out. It's easiest to maintain but I also want to know that I can handle it on my own if I need to.

I hadn't washed my hair on my own since I was 3-4 months post ( because of salon blow outs/flatiron) so I just panicked when I got into the shower and I saw this big afro connected to straight stringy hair, ahhh it was crazy, I wanted to scream and cry :lachen: :nono: My hair is so dense it takes forever to detangle and style too smh

thanks for looking out havilland :bighug:
I really want to be like you guys and not be overwhelmed by own hair, you guys are soo good!! especially ya'll EnExitStageLeft Britt
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I'm not gonna put you in time out this time! But as the "big momma" up in here i Def should! LOL

However please Know that you ALWAYS have to detangle before wetting your hair. That is not a step to be skipped! EVER. You are transitioning cus u want to keep your hair. The quickest way to land in big chop land is to skip a detangle and wet some two week hair.

Rant over......

I'm glad ur hair is ok. Truly. ;)

I am attaching a chunk of hair that I lost the time I decided to do what u did......as inspiration for u and a good luck charm. Carry it with u like a magical fairy loc. ;) lol!
 

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sharifeh, don't be discouraged, trust me-- I know it's hard. Honestly, the hardest part so far for me has been months 5,6,7 -- basically up until the time I got the treatment. I'm sure the treatment has worn off my hair but for the past 8 weeks I've been alternating between blow drying at home and getting my roots blown at the salon. Now I'm 10.5 months post and plan to lay off the heat for a while which means I'll be wearing textured styles. I'm dci'ing my hair now at 10.5 months post and honestly my hair feels much easier to deal with and less bothersome than it did earlier on. Keep on pressing on :yep: . Use this time to learn your hair, learn what products you like, what styles work for you.

When I was earlier on in my transition I was miserable honestly. Damn miserable. My new growth felt dry, unbearable, just miserable honestly. I was wearing my hair in the same style everyday -- my hair slicked back into a ponytail. Now I realize that when I wash my hair, I either have to do a braid out/twist out, or I have the option of blow drying it. If I do a braid out, I know that I will have to be rebraiding it during the week. At first that idea sounded annoying to me, but I'm realizing that I have to treat my hair differently than when it was fully relaxed, my transitioning/natural hair might take some more time.

Play with your hair, and get to know it, everyone has different hair and only you know what products work, styling, etc will work for you. Use this time to become familiar with your hair. Do you have staple products that work for you? Also, have you tried washing in sections? It takes much longer but it makes things easier. I'm honestly learning as I go along. I'm learning to balance my heat usage, learning to style my hair. This didn't come so easy to me as it may seem. I looked at my bangs, I noticed I have straight pieces there -- that could be from me blow drying my hair or getting my roots blow. Either way -- that let me know that right now I need a rest from heat. Trial and error. Trial and error.

Be encouraged and keep pushing through. Find some staple products, section your when you style it, detangle from the bottom going up, start doing some braid outs and learn how to style those. If you have a stylist that's reliable, get your hair flat ironed once in a while.

I'd spend tons of time reading curly nikki, natural hair blogs, scouring the net for help with transitioning and what helped me mostly is just trying to learn my hair and deal with it as I go along. When I'm fully natural I'll be learning too -- learning how to style it, learning what styles work for me, what products yield best twist out/braid out. Learning how long my hair will take to dry, etc.

For ex, I've always been a proponent of poo'ing my hair. Well, after doing braidouts this whole week and using moisturizer and product in my hair, I couldn't wait to shampoo my hair this morning! I don't think I could be a cowash person. I use more product on my hair now that I'm transitioning and therefore need to lather up my hair.
 
Britt


U aint neva lied! Months 2-7 are a beast. At ten months u know what u r doing and it gets easier. At least it did for me. Months 10-19/20 were nice!
 
havilland said:
@Britt


U aint neva lied! Months 2-7 are a beast. At ten months u know what u r doing and it gets easier. At least it did for me. Months 10-19/20 were nice!
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Yesssss! As crazy as it sounds, my hair feels less strenuous to deal with now. Earlier on in my transition was more difficult for me. I have staple dc's and leave ins, I have something to smooth my edges. My challenge lies more in styling my hair.
 
havilland

Ok lesson learned :(
I Don't want to put myself through that stress again so next time I wash my hair at home I will section , pre poo and comb it
I do wanna hold onto my ends for as long as possible chopping scares me

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Britt

Thanks for your post! One thing I realized from the wash day from hell is that my new growth does NOT like a lot of my products . That was also panicking me, I'm gonna have to find some conditioner for my new growth! It's not too find of what I have . But yeah I've heard everywhere that the in between stage is the hardest so I'm gonna try my hardest to hold on until May and see how I feel then

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sharifeh

This is the mantra' I live by concerning my hair.

"Work with it, not against it"

If my hair wants to be detangled daily....I DO IT!

If my hair desires to be steamed......I DO IT!

If my hair desires to trimmed....I DO IT!

If I find I'm being overwhelmed I take breaks. I'll straighten or blow dry and just leave it that way until I'm ready to wash again......Works every time.

Also, DO WHAT WORKS FOR YOU!

Research EVERYTHING! Britt gave you excellent advice. Get into reading blogs, google different techniques, PM people w/ pretty hair (I KILLS THIS! Ask havilland about me lol)

Also, if you prefer your hair straighter try looking into alternatives. Like banding, curlformers, etc.

I'm only 9 months post, so I'm relatively new to this. But I plan to grow with my hair. Its a learning process. Don't let it consume you.
 
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sharifeh said:
@Britt

Thanks for your post! One thing I realized from the wash day from hell is that my new growth does NOT like a lot of my products . That was also panicking me, I'm gonna have to find some conditioner for my new growth! It's not too find of what I have . But yeah I've heard everywhere that the in between stage is the hardest so I'm gonna try my hardest to hold on until May and see how I feel then

Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
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I understand. You'll realize as your hair grows out what it needs more of. Do you have staple dc's and products that work for you? Keep trying out some new conditioners. You'll get excited when you find ones that work for your hair :yep:

At this stage now that getting up in there in my transition, I have more anxiety about what my hair will look like when it's fully natural, how will my styles turn out, I'll have to learn to style my braid outs/twist outs. Eventually I'd like to branch out in flexi rods as my natural hair gets longer.
 
Also real quick ladies...I don't know if it's been posted here already because I haven't kept up with this thread, BUT if you are having problems with dryness and getting your waves and curls to pop, then try the new formula S Curl no drip spray bottle moisturizer that contains argan oil. That stuff changed the game for me and made it a piece of cake. I buy it by the gallon now, lol. Give it a try
 
Britt said:
I understand. You'll realize as your hair grows out what it needs more of. Do you have staple dc's and products that work for you? Keep trying out some new conditioners. You'll get excited when you find ones that work for your hair :yep:

At this stage now that getting up in there in my transition, I have more anxiety about what my hair will look like when it's fully natural, how will my styles turn out, I'll have to learn to style my braid outs/twist outs. Eventually I'd like to branch out in flexi rods as my natural hair gets longer.
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well sitrinillah seems to work pretty well for both textures, so does the macadmia nut mask
there are so many others that i haven't tried yet , i'm gonna research conditioners that ladies with super coily tightly packed dense hair use
 
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