Transitioning without BC'ing Support Thread

I'll be 9 months post next month. Never thought I would have made it! No plans on BCing anytime soon. What has really gotten me through is AVJ for sure. It has really helped with detangling. I'm about to invest in some phony ponies to put over my bun. I think this will be my protective style for the winter.
 
This is my first time checking in on this thread, but I'm about 23 weeks post. I was planning on waiting until next year to start my transition, but after weeks of work-related craziness prevented me from getting a touch up, I asked myself what I was waiting for.

I usually just roller set and switch between wearing my hair out and up-dos. Hoping to hold out at least a year before I cut.
 
I'm so glad I found this thread, cuz I'm gonna need some support in a few months :) This is my 2nd time transitioning. The 1st time I lasted for 9 months, but then I broke down and relaxed this past May. Disaster!!!! My WL hair fell out so bad (clumps at a time) I was literally crying and screaming in the shower. From that day forward, I vowed that I would NEVER put another relaxer in my head ever again.
 
I'm a newbie and SOOOO in on this challenge. I'll have all necessities in by the deadline. Thanks 4this forum & I look 4ward 2 taking this journey with u all!!!

Sent from my iPhone, HHG~
 
Gosh--I'm a baby here: 2 months post, just recently made the firm decision to go back to natural after having relaxers (& heat) wreak havoc on my hair for the past 4+ years.

I'm tex-laxed, 4a mostly, hair recently cut to APL (from near-BSL--too much damage).

I became a member here about 8 years ago, managed to grow (and maintain) my hair longer than I thought possible as a result (from my usual APL to MBL stretched), then I started 'showing off' and neglecting it, lol! Now, after constant damage from my self-relaxers etc., tired of chewed up hair (including some chemical "bangs"), I want to take it all the way to WL, and my hair seems to thrive better in its natural state (thicker, stronger). Plus, I like the versatility.

I'm not even thinking about BC-ing anytime soon--will probably s-l-o-w-l-y cut the tex-laxed hair off.
Hello fellow transitioners!
 
well ive made 5 months! this month i bought more hair products, aubrey organis GPB and HSR, Giovanni smooth as silk and Aussie moist. Ive also boat some perm rods and flexi rods and have deided to wear my hair in that style with updo's, buns and twist outs for the remainder 2 years im aiming for. Everyhing going fine so far, Hopefully i will hit my goal of MBL stretched by its time for me to BC. The best of wishes to all of you on this journey. I've just started and im learning new stuff everyday. Its a long, sometimes complicated feat but imo its worth it!
 
Im 19 months post relaxer for the most part. i did tamper a bit with a little section in the back. Also bleach and bkt killed a lot of my curls in the front. As much as I want to go natural, I still fear not coming to terms with my hair. I cant decide whether I should accept what my natural hair can and can not do or get the hair I truly want. i prefer loose curls like 3c to 3b that can easily be worn in wash n goes and have silkiness and shine. Naturally im not going to have that. Until I can figure that out, I will be transitioning and wearing my hair straight.
 
Last relaxer was sometime in June. I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. I want to bc but I can't. I guess I'll just continue transitioning. My hair is thick, coarse, and curly. I have a very definate curl pattern. Oh, my new found love is my Denman. I couldn't make this journey without it. What works for me. Eliminating the need to use shampoo so much. I shampoo every 14 days. I might cut that day to every 30 days. I don't really need shampoo. I cowash 1 - 2 x per week. I dc 2 x per week. I cannot detangle unless my hair is coated dripping running with conditioner. I hate set back but they are lessons so you have to take the good with the terrible. I thank God constantly.
 
41wks as of 11/6.

I know it's in my bestest interest to co-wash everyother day or something like that. But lately I've just been doing it once a week. Wearing a co-wash ponytail, I don't even braid it at night...most nights. I just spritz (condish/water solution) seal with oil shake and slap it into a ponytail.

Happy hair transitioning ladies!!!!
 
I've officially decided to transition, but am unsure if i want to long-term transition or BC. I set a "draft goal" of BCing at 20 weeks post, but if I'm still going strong then with dealing with two textures, I may postpone.

I've never transitioned in the past, so this is new for me. When I first went from relaxed to natural in '96, I just bc'd and wore a short 'do for years. I relaxed for the first time since then last October and I miss my natural hair. Plus I think I figured out how to remedy the problems that I was having with natural hair.

So here I go!
 
Meloe18 that is it what im debating about. Im not even at a point were I can just texlax and wear my hair in a looser curly form. Maybe in another year or so i can cut off a good bit of these stringy ends that have no curl. They use to be texlaxed but bkt killed them and killed them badly.

If i were to go textlaxed, i would have to give up bkt for sure. i would probably also slow down the heat use. Im a wash, blowdry and flat iron once a week girl. This wouldnt even be an issue if my hair was curly all over cuz i would just wear it that way. Since it currently is not, I have to have something that looks neat and is easy to deal with. Twist out and braid out dont dry in time and sometimes my ends start breaking off. I prefer rod set/straw sets but they take to long to do.

here is what my hair currently looks like after trying to do the tightly curly method wash and go about 3 days ago. its not pretty and I hate my ends but im not cutting them off just yet. I have come to like my length now and refuse to go back to short hair.
 
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I haven't been on here in a while but I'm still hanging in there. 17 months and counting. I did a mini chop back in July. I went from APL to NL. The back half of my hair is all natural but the front and top still have relaxed ends. Trying not to cut the rest completely off until I'm 24 months.
Before mini chop
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After mini chop
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10/15/11
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I'm just 6 months post relaxer. I'm gunning for 36 months (3 years) before I BC. In the meantime, I'll trim a little more frequently than usual - just enough that I'm still retaining sizable length.
 
Hi Again,
Last Relaxer: 12/9/2010
Current PS: cornrows up into a bun, phony pony on top of my bun
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To keep from cutting in 2012 I plan to PS w/ tree braids & cornrows. But I tell y'all these straggly relaxed ends are NOT wutz hot
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Sent from my iPhone, HHG~
 
Meloe18 said:
well ive made 5 months! this month i bought more hair products, aubrey organis GPB and HSR, Giovanni smooth as silk and Aussie moist. Ive also boat some perm rods and flexi rods and have deided to wear my hair in that style with updo's, buns and twist outs for the remainder 2 years im aiming for. Everyhing going fine so far, Hopefully i will hit my goal of MBL stretched by its time for me to BC. The best of wishes to all of you on this journey. I've just started and im learning new stuff everyday. Its a long, sometimes complicated feat but imo its worth it!
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How are u liking the Aubrey & Giovanni products? I have 3b/3c mix, my daughter is 4a & I would luv 2find products that work on both our hair types. Any info would be a great help~

Sent from my iPhone, HHG~
 
I haven't chimed in since expressing that I was thinking about transitioning back in June. Alas, it's official! I'm transitioning, though I've only been relaxed for a year. I love my relaxed hair and it solved a lot of my hair woes. But, truth be told, I miss my natural hair-- its texture, it's versatility, it's uniqueness. This past year (and this website) has taught me tons of healthy hair practices, especially how to maintain regularly moisturized hair, so I think I'm ready to be natural again (I was previously natural for 14 years!!).

I never transitioned before. Back when I went natural in '96, I just wore braids for a few months then cut everything off. This time, I want to maintain as much length as possible so I'm attempting to be a long term transitioner. I want to do 20 weeks bare minimum, would be pleased if I can do 6 months or a year, but 24 months would be ideal.

So far, I've been doing roller sets and did one blow out at the salon.

Let's see how this goes!!!!
 
Hanging in there at 13 months post, I chopped 3-4 inches off out of detangling and product waste frustration and I just got a blow out and I am sad :( about my length, LOL...but it is so much easier to detangle at APL versus BSL or MBL or wherever I was and my ends were raggedy so that didn't help, trucking on until my birthday in 2013 Lord willing.
 
Dang I feel like the months are flying by! I'm at 13 months post :)
I'm still doing ok with my transition but there is so much going on with me right now that i have gotten inconsistent with my regimen. Gotta get my focus back. Tired of having a dry brillo pad on my head lol
 
Time is flying, isn't it? I'm almost 19 months in and I'm loving it. I would like to get my hair straightened. Finding someone to do it is another story, lol. I can't believe I'll be in my twenties soon!!!
 
Wow, you ladies are doing great. Keeping it movin at 10 months post. I wear my hair now in updos. Out of site. Out of mind.
 
buddhas_mom said:
I haven't been on here in a while but I'm still hanging in there. 17 months and counting. I did a mini chop back in July. I went from APL to NL. The back half of my hair is all natural but the front and top still have relaxed ends. Trying not to cut the rest completely off until I'm 24 months.
Before mini chop
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After mini chop
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10/15/11
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You mostly wear your hair straight? How do you avoid heat damage? How often do you use heat?
 
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