Julessy
Well-Known Member
Hey Ladies,
Not sure if a thread on this topic exists already but what are your thoughts on having children out of wedlock? Just curious...
I am engaged, not married yet, and we have a 6 month-old son. Long story short, we got engaged last June and at that time we had been together for 6 years. We found out not long thereafter that we were pregnant. My parents were not bothered by this but did put a little pressure on us to get married before the baby arrived (you know how parents are!). Anyway, with being pregnant and tired all the time, I did not have time to plan a wedding and I certainly did not want to just go to the courthouse so I ended up having the baby without us being married. Here we are 6 months later and we're still not married yet. Reason: I want to plan a small yet elegant ceremony, 50 guests tops, but the baby is taking much of my time and men are HORRIBLE at these kinds of things ohwell:...
I'm still at the planning stage and will try to push for December of this year but in the meantime people are constantly asking us for a wedding date and it's driving me nuts! I know that the baby is suppose to come after marriage in traditional talk but I truly feel that having a baby out of wedlock doesn't change who we are... it's just taking us a little longer to get things settled.
WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS??
((Not knocking those who wed before they had their children, just wanna see the consensus))
Not sure if a thread on this topic exists already but what are your thoughts on having children out of wedlock? Just curious...
I am engaged, not married yet, and we have a 6 month-old son. Long story short, we got engaged last June and at that time we had been together for 6 years. We found out not long thereafter that we were pregnant. My parents were not bothered by this but did put a little pressure on us to get married before the baby arrived (you know how parents are!). Anyway, with being pregnant and tired all the time, I did not have time to plan a wedding and I certainly did not want to just go to the courthouse so I ended up having the baby without us being married. Here we are 6 months later and we're still not married yet. Reason: I want to plan a small yet elegant ceremony, 50 guests tops, but the baby is taking much of my time and men are HORRIBLE at these kinds of things ohwell:...
I'm still at the planning stage and will try to push for December of this year but in the meantime people are constantly asking us for a wedding date and it's driving me nuts! I know that the baby is suppose to come after marriage in traditional talk but I truly feel that having a baby out of wedlock doesn't change who we are... it's just taking us a little longer to get things settled.
WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS??
((Not knocking those who wed before they had their children, just wanna see the consensus))
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