Tonight....

[Kamilah]

...I was supposed to get married. It was supposed to be a weekend-long wedding event. Instead, I'm sitting home at my parents house (moved back for grad school) and almost got arrested for a suspended license this morning on the way to pay my fine (YIKES! atleast I got off for that!). Last night I dreamed that he still married today- just to someone else. Oooooh my life. I'm almost 28 and considering starting to lie about my age to buy myself some time. Marriage has always been so important to me, but I just don't think it's going to happen for me. I've been saving myself, and for what? It's never going to happen. Hell, I think the plumbing may be broken from lack of use....ugh.

This is a depressing rant, but I just wanted to vent. Sorry.

 

[jwhitley6]

Sometimes we need to vent.

 

[Mimi22]

Life can kick you up the arse sometimes, but if your soul isnt ready, it jus isnt.

Sorry about ur day. Depression can be a real b.i.t.c.h.

 

[KEWLKAT103]

(((HUG)))
You may not want to hear this, but things really do happen for a reason.
It just wasn't in the cards for you to marry this weekend. maybe there's something better on the horizon. Your 28, not 58 and even if you were, it's still alright.

Do something fun this weekend, so your not sitting around thinking about what could have been.
Or do something for someone else. It will help you get out of your head and count your blessings.
HTH!

 

[Essensual]

Breathe.

This too shall pass. Heavenly Father loves you. You're family loves you. 28 is not too late or too old. Trust me...the plumbing will work when the time comes. (Congratulations on this too. I applaud you.)

I know you are feel disheartened, and I DO understand. But I am honest enough to say that if I could do it again, I would have waited to marry (age 24) to avoid the heartache experienced over the last 11 yrs by marrying someone who was not ready for marriage. If I had to wait longer to avoid the pain and fallout, I would wait.

My 3 DCs are my sole consolation...about them, I have no regrets.

 

[growth2come]

((hugs)) sorry about you day. I am 28 too and proud!!...You are still very young. I have learned that sometimes its best not to force things. Especially marriage....its one of those things you cannot/shouldnt rush into. Do something else to get your mind of this. I am sure God has the perfect wedding instore for you someday soon. So dont rush him....it will happen. Chin up. God bless

 

[hurricane]

God knows best. This person could have been an axe murderer deep down inside, he may come out on the dl later on. You just don't know. I get disgusted everyonce in awhile but that's life.

 

[naturalmanenyc]

I understand that you need to vent....but 28 is still very young! Most people these days marry in their 30's (after college & grad school).

My parents (divorced decades ago) both got married again in their 50's.

 

[BrooklynSouth]

Cheer up pretty one. Life is ahead of you..do not despair.

 

[song_of_serenity]

My wedding was to be March 7th...13 days ago. Instead, I stayed home. Thank God I didn't mourn HIM because God KNOWS I dodged a GIANT, GIANT curveball, but I did lament a bit on the future.
The same mother in the church who told me about how things would go before I even wanted to hear it (God revealed a lot to her) told me not too long ago "God will bring someone into your life soon, and you'll look and think "I never knew love could be like this."

And I believe God. And you should too. A blessing that was...28 is not old...at all. Your time will come. *HUGS*
~*Janelle~*

 

[Filmatic]

Take it as a blessing. You are not marrying someone who is not for you and you will not have to go through the heartbreak of dealing witht hat.

 

[Kamilah]

Thanks Ladies. I have good days here and there, but I think the part that sucks is that he has taken away my belief in love. I second guess my judgment now- which I have never done, and now I dont. I never thought I would be lonely, but here I am. I've always been alone, even when I had lots of "friends", and I would be so content building a life for myself (working, starting my own business) and having a family. But I don't believe in love anymore. And it hurts. Because I never saw myself living without it. I'm not psycho needy or anything, just the opposite really, but I'm sooooooooooo sooooo alone. I hate it and it's playing a number on my self-esteem.

 

[MzTami]

Thanks Ladies. I have good days here and there, but I think the part that sucks is that he has taken away my belief in love. I second guess my judgment now- which I have never done, and now I dont. I never thought I would be lonely, but here I am. I've always been alone, even when I had lots of "friends", and I would be so content building a life for myself (working, starting my own business) and having a family. But I don't believe in love anymore. And it hurts. Because I never saw myself living without it. I'm not psycho needy or anything, just the opposite really, but I'm sooooooooooo sooooo alone. I hate it and it's playing a number on my self-esteem.

Kamilah,

If that's you in your avatar, you are very pretty, and I'm sure you won't be single for long. In the meantime, if I were you, I would take the time to build self-esteem and love yourself.

You not being a married woman tonight could be a blessing in disquise. Please, don't give up on love because of one man. He's not worth it. Keep your head up, pray, and you will find your king.

Good luck to you and I'm sorry this happened.

 

[juju]

Love will come your way the ony MAN God has planned to be in your life.

 

[Spongie Bloom]

Sweetie I know it is hard to feel good right now...but i promise you things will get better, just hold on. From here the only way is up and sometimes the best decisions we make can be so heart wrenching but the pain will get better, I remember your thread a while ago about your situation. Trust me it will happen for you just give it time but now just focus on feeling better (((HUGS)))