To fall in love with anyone do this: The 36 questions that lead to love
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CaraWalker
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i remember this. i learned about this in social psychology in undergrad. just get a dude in the car with you and pretend to ram it towards a wall or something 
i only skimmed the op but it looks like its leaving out the most important thing? the moral to that study was that people who connect during a state of elevated heartrate or homeostasis are drawn/attracted to each other where they otherwise might not be. did they mention that part? lemme scroll again
i only skimmed the op but it looks like its leaving out the most important thing? the moral to that study was that people who connect during a state of elevated heartrate or homeostasis are drawn/attracted to each other where they otherwise might not be. did they mention that part? lemme scroll again
metro_qt
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This study proves what I always thought: you can indeed "choose" who you fall in love with.
yes Honey Bee which is amazing because if you fall out of love with the one you're with this is proof that you can indeed fall back in love with them...you have choice in this matter...Instead of just watching relationships die.
metro_qt
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Awwwwwwww!!!! And that's what I aspire to have
Simply_elle
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This is interesting. I'm a chronic over sharer, and I don't mind uncomfortable questions (if I'm dating you). So is my BF, he and I had a random q&a on our first two dates. We talked about some uncomfortable topics, goals, dreams, ect. It was very nice/unsettling. I know he fell in love... He told me after two weeks he was falling for me, it was scary but it's what he wanted so he's going with it. Yeah.
There's a name to it. Lol. We had breakfast Sunday and pis*ed off our server talking two hours, same style. I fell, I had the urge to love and "keep" this man. I love staring at him, so I never really put the eye gazing together with infatuation. The dating books tell you NOT stare and not to show interest...
He later mentioned "that's stare" makes him melt (his bone structure is unreal), and he feels safe/comfortable with me. Only thing I can't remedy yet, is your rational mind screams, and you can't let go of past hurt. One bit of advice is if you're trying this make sure there's plenty of face time, because this f*cking sucks over text/ phone because you can't read into emotion... If that makes sense.
I now don't feel like s*it for loving my guy... lol I thought your girl had gone soft.
There's a name to it. Lol. We had breakfast Sunday and pis*ed off our server talking two hours, same style. I fell, I had the urge to love and "keep" this man. I love staring at him, so I never really put the eye gazing together with infatuation. The dating books tell you NOT stare and not to show interest...
He later mentioned "that's stare" makes him melt (his bone structure is unreal), and he feels safe/comfortable with me. Only thing I can't remedy yet, is your rational mind screams, and you can't let go of past hurt. One bit of advice is if you're trying this make sure there's plenty of face time, because this f*cking sucks over text/ phone because you can't read into emotion... If that makes sense.
I now don't feel like s*it for loving my guy... lol I thought your girl had gone soft.
giigii613
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I just wrote a long story and it only posted my hello let me try this again.
Please bare with me this is a long post. I had an interesting experience with this questionnaire. I have been flirting back and forth with a guy for about 2 months. We work in the same building. From the way he flirted he seemed to only be interested in me being his plaything so I wrote him off as not being a possible romantic interest.
Anyway, I explained to him the questionnaire didn't mention the love part just told him that he would need to willing to be honest when answering the questions. He agreed to be open and honest as did I then we went through the questionnaire. It took us 3 plus hours to complete mainly because he kept going off the deep end answering things that were not asked, especially with the mother questions. I tried to let him talk as much as possible because I didn't want to stifle his honest emotional purge but I also had to keep getting us back on track cause I wasn't bout to let the questionnaire take a full work day.
giigii613
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Jeez it did not post my whole comment.
After we completed the questionnaire I do not think it was love (that's for sure on my part) but something interesting did happen. A few hours after we completed the questions he called me and said "I was just thinking about you talking to my dad about you and I wanted to call and ask you out". This was interesting because he has had my number for weeks but has not used it and every other time he has asked me out it has been and invitation for him to cook me dinner at his place or him saying he can come over to my place. It is because of this that we have not been out. My belief is that being in the house is not a date especially a first date. The only difference between every other time he has asked me out (on a house date) and this time (on an actual date) is the questionnaire. So, my overall view of this experience is that while it may not result in love it does push people to expose themselves on an emotional level which can be difficult to do when you are putting on airs when you first start dating someone. You may not know the questions to ask to get closer or you may not want to have to share that part of yourself with someone you don't know like that. Im glad I did it as it was a good experience for me.
Ok, I hope this posts I'm going back to lurking
After we completed the questionnaire I do not think it was love (that's for sure on my part) but something interesting did happen. A few hours after we completed the questions he called me and said "I was just thinking about you talking to my dad about you and I wanted to call and ask you out". This was interesting because he has had my number for weeks but has not used it and every other time he has asked me out it has been and invitation for him to cook me dinner at his place or him saying he can come over to my place. It is because of this that we have not been out. My belief is that being in the house is not a date especially a first date. The only difference between every other time he has asked me out (on a house date) and this time (on an actual date) is the questionnaire. So, my overall view of this experience is that while it may not result in love it does push people to expose themselves on an emotional level which can be difficult to do when you are putting on airs when you first start dating someone. You may not know the questions to ask to get closer or you may not want to have to share that part of yourself with someone you don't know like that. Im glad I did it as it was a good experience for me.
Ok, I hope this posts I'm going back to lurking
metro_qt
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This was very honest of you both! Thank you for sharing...Jeez it did not post my whole comment.
After we completed the questionnaire I do not think it was love (that's for sure on my part) but something interesting did happen. A few hours after we completed the questions he called me and said "I was just thinking about you talking to my dad about you and I wanted to call and ask you out". This was interesting because he has had my number for weeks but has not used it and every other time he has asked me out it has been and invitation for him to cook me dinner at his place or him saying he can come over to my place. It is because of this that we have not been out. My belief is that being in the house is not a date especially a first date. The only difference between every other time he has asked me out (on a house date) and this time (on an actual date) is the questionnaire. So, my overall view of this experience is that while it may not result in love it does push people to expose themselves on an emotional level which can be difficult to do when you are putting on airs when you first start dating someone. You may not know the questions to ask to get closer or you may not want to have to share that part of yourself with someone you don't know like that. Im glad I did it as it was a good experience for me.
Ok, I hope this posts I'm going back to lurking
I can say the same experience for me, not love per se, but it definitely brought us closer, and showed us where our similarities and sometimes our differences are....I also learned some surprising things....
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