Yes it is sad. You'd think men would be happy to have a nice woman but know they want a B---- that will kick their butts and take their money. I went out with a guy and paid for dinner once, he looked at me all cross eyed and shook his head. He then had the nerve to say "You're a rare find". I was thinking in my head well then seize the opportunity shoot..lol.
DON'T EVER PAY FOR DINNER FOR A MAN UNLESS HE IS YOUR MAN AND Y'ALL ARE IN A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP AND EVEN THEN, MAYBE YOU SHOULDN'T!!!
Honestly, I gotta say this... GOOD men don't want a b---h (and I'm talking b---h in the bad sense of the word) that takes their money. The men who seem to go for these types simply like drama.
Then again, I've been out with men who had $$$ and paid for every dinner we ate over a three-month period, which I'm sure cost them hundreds of dollars in total. I was not "taking" their money -- a man who has something and knows how to court a woman will willingly open his wallet for her and not think otherwise about it. Please don't try to be the girl who "won't take his money" -- while that girl is being nice and sweet and paying for stuff or going for the cheap restaurant or the Blockbuster movie date, he WILL shell out the cash for some other chick and take her out, believe that.
Men don't like overly nice chicks who do everything for them either. Men are natural hunters and they want to hunt. If you show up on their doorstep already killed and prepared for mounting, there's no satisfaction in that. They wanna know that they hunted you down, snagged you and dragged you home, even if you wanted them to do that all along.
So Mr. Dinner guy ate his free meal, said you were a rare find and then threw you into the friend category. There was no opportunity to seize because you offered no challenge.
As much as some men get on my nerves, I don't think it's good to fall into the "men play mind games" trap. Yeah, some do, but really, they're acting according to script. They want to chase, they want to "win" you and they want to earn you... and THEN when they get you, they can say what a nice girlfriend/wife they have!