When a man in a marriage says we have grown apart and not on the same page do you throw in the towel or work on it?
My friend and her hubby have been going through it lately. She says, he seems to constantly complain and pick arguments over the silliest things. She said it got to the point, she felt she was walking on egg shells in her home. He would have these bouts of depression and when asked why he couldn't produce an answer. She said, it got to the point, you never know what kind of day it's going to be when he's around. He was constantly hot and cold.
So yesterday, they got into a argument that ended being a blow up with him saying they have grown apart and not on the same page. She's thinking how did the argument go from this small thing to the whole grown apart comment. That's not the kind of thing one just blurts out. She says, she was kind of relieved to hear him say those words. She got tired of feeling as if something was off with her and trying to figure him out. She says, it explained a lot about his actions. So she tells him, if he's not happy he doesn't have to be there. She wouldn't want to live her life with someone around her who isn't happy within the marriage. Her cousin, tells her she just basically gave up on her marriage.
My friend and her hubby have been going through it lately. She says, he seems to constantly complain and pick arguments over the silliest things. She said it got to the point, she felt she was walking on egg shells in her home. He would have these bouts of depression and when asked why he couldn't produce an answer. She said, it got to the point, you never know what kind of day it's going to be when he's around. He was constantly hot and cold.
So yesterday, they got into a argument that ended being a blow up with him saying they have grown apart and not on the same page. She's thinking how did the argument go from this small thing to the whole grown apart comment. That's not the kind of thing one just blurts out. She says, she was kind of relieved to hear him say those words. She got tired of feeling as if something was off with her and trying to figure him out. She says, it explained a lot about his actions. So she tells him, if he's not happy he doesn't have to be there. She wouldn't want to live her life with someone around her who isn't happy within the marriage. Her cousin, tells her she just basically gave up on her marriage.