IMHO, as long as the idea of a trophy wife is a "White woman" or some other "Exoctic looking" from the blackman's perspective , I think this will be difficult. I find it hard to engage them on this directly without them, squirming, or trying to gaslight me into behaving like the ABW. Honestly, my belief is that it will take proper modeling ideal behaviors (by older men) to change the behaviors of the younger generations. If they are taught to see us raised seeing us as valuable assets instead of discardable assests; then perhaps they'd treat us as such
Because "we" often are the one's that raised them, sometimes w/o the help of their bio-fathers in the house; they seem to have developed an ... I want something other than the BW that raised me... ideation.
Also, ....and to my face I was told this (in the 90's)....the YT woman can open doors for them that a BW can't.
I had to walk away from the latter person least I behaved like the ABW that we can be accused of being.
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