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There are some things that I am going to say about long hair...
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Blossssom said:Yes, I DO have until midnight but it will be early evening, so the east coasters should still be up
I have a few errands to run this afternoon and after that, I'm all yours.
Seems a "tiff" broke out on this thread, though... I can't believe the fervor. Later...
UGGGHHHH!!!!!!! I thought you posted the big secret.
chocolatejalapeno
New Member
Blossssom said:How'd you get those bullets in there? LOL!
Laughing at LadyLibra, too!'
Funny, I was watching E! True Hollywood Story yesterday, and they were discussing "Blossom".
I used to love that show back in the 90s... Thus, my screen name
I just wanted to say that I loved that show as well and also had a screen name with blossom in it. I wonder if they are going to have that show on dvd any time soon. Thank you for reminding me off that show.
Divine Inspiration
Well-Known Member
Before Blossom gets on the mic, I just wanted to say that I thoroughly enjoyed reading everyone's commentary. I really liked what hopeful and meia had to say, and it appears that everyone has given thought to why they're on the long hair journey or why they're pumping the brakes. These kinds of things are healthy as long as everyone is considerate and mindful of context.
MzTami, I really liked what you said as well. I got grief like that for bein a honey color and having long hair all the way through school and even now that I'm an adult. I can relate to that, and I appreciate you being courageous enough to acknowledge that the way you did, and bare your soul momentarily.
NOW...Blosssom, can I get a specific time? I think we're both on Pacific time so I need to know what time to start poppin the popcorn and pourin the ginger ale!!
MzTami, I really liked what you said as well. I got grief like that for bein a honey color and having long hair all the way through school and even now that I'm an adult. I can relate to that, and I appreciate you being courageous enough to acknowledge that the way you did, and bare your soul momentarily.
NOW...Blosssom, can I get a specific time? I think we're both on Pacific time so I need to know what time to start poppin the popcorn and pourin the ginger ale!!
BLOSSOM.....please get in here and spill the beans!!!!
Spidergul
Well-Known Member
If you asked me, by just reading some of the comments already made has been an eye opener for a lot of us. I too have put the brakes on the hair stuff. I am back to basics. I don't need and can ill afford all the products that are supposed to make my hair grow fast-the last product I purchased was MTG-it worked for a little bit-but it faded too. I no longer use it-that was last month.
I was going tp go ahead and try and finish what I had left-it was too stinky and too oily-so I put it in the cabinet with all the other hair stuff. But the monistat was the last straw. That stuff already cost a fortune for what it is made for-I sure will not be buying it and putting it my head.
my 2 and 1/2 cents.
I was going tp go ahead and try and finish what I had left-it was too stinky and too oily-so I put it in the cabinet with all the other hair stuff. But the monistat was the last straw. That stuff already cost a fortune for what it is made for-I sure will not be buying it and putting it my head.
my 2 and 1/2 cents.
brownhaired_bonanza
New Member
Awww man! Ain't it Wendsday already?? This is like Chinese water torture.
JamericanGurl
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Only 40 dollars a jar.
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JamericanGurl
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Gurl, I'm only doing mail order. But, I plan on launching my line soon. Maybe we can partnerKoffie said:Where can this be found????
Your Monkey Ball remedy sounds great! 
Don' take my word for it! Ask her!
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patient1
Guest
Instead of waiting why don't we continue to share our thoughts about long hair?
I know that the Monistat thread initially made me feel as if we could be a bit impatient. However, once some other members shared I saw a different perspective. Some of us have a sense of urgency.
I'm gonna go out on a limb and talk about me: When I was relaxed hair growth wasn't a problem. My hair grew fast and thick and relaxed easily. I didn't sweat any rare breakage because my hair snapped back fast.
When I was in college I started encountering a lot of folks with varied natural hairstyles. This intersected with my growing political awareness and relaxing just didn't make sense anymore. So I chopped all of my hair off one day. From past shoulder length relaxed to a short do. I went about my life with my kinks minus curl definition UNTIL my boyfriends sister turned me out on some Nexxus stuff. My curls were on POP!! but don't touch em our you might scratch yourself or something. It never dawned on me to let my hair grow.
Grew out of that phase into two strand twists, learning to corn row again, and just love my fluffy fro.
Enter my beloved nappy website (where I'm moonchild). . .hmmm, I started to think. Maybe I should just let it grow which also led me here my loved whatever hair site. And yes, it became a focal point for a while because it's something I've never done: deliberately work towards healthy hair growth. Everyone has a vice: a slight obsession with natural hair and all that entails is one of mine.
I look best bald to be honest. All my features really come to life when I have no hair but man! It's been a long time with the low cuts. I grow a year or so, get a nice big bush and then cut because my heart breaks or I need a cleanse or I don't like the health of my hair.
That's where I am now....again....
~sigh~
but not really cause my hair is doing what it does. And I do get impatient sometimes (despite the screenname) but mostly I am patient. And I think in the end, most of us are. Only HERE in this space we can be obsessed and impatient and be co-dependent and crazy together.
When I leave this site, life goes on. I moisturize cause it makes sense, but I don't have rulers. HOWEVER, I don't knock those who do. I get it, I'm just lazy and not that committed.
So yeah, Black women and hair? It's a big sociopolitical, cultural, psychological thing because in GENERAL, many of us grew up staring at the long pigtails on the girl in front of us and watching the hair of OTHERS blow in the wind. I tell my baby girl that her hair reaches for heaven. My big girl sprouts the hair I envied when I grew up. And we wall exist together.
I want to eventually grow a big behind head of natural hair. I want the ease of buns. I want hair that a man's hands can get lost in while we make love. I want a braid that hangs low. I want MY hair to keep on reaching for heaven. I want to oil it and braid it then tuck it up like I watched Amina Baraka do when I was in college.
I've done short hair for over a decade. I've worn it kojak clean, I've done everything but loc it up. I've had a big fro, puffed it etc. I've never allowed it to grow long enough to put it into a ponytail or a bun. I'd like to do that but it's gonna take discipline and focus cause I cut in a minute.(Swore I'd never cut again when I went kojak last July but here I am back to a pinch of hair. AND I LOVE It!)
So that's my story. And yeah, the little girl who longed for long thick ponytails lives in me somewhere. Nothing Ever Really Dies, right? But she doesn't rule me and she lives alongside the woman who loves kinky, coil hair. And a girl can't rule a woman.
I get all of you. I understand the urge. I don't know you though. Only you know whether or not you're being ruled and who's ruling you inside. And whether your perm or not, cut or not, color or not. . .it would be my prayer for ALL what I pray for my daughters:
That you're happy. That you feel good inside. That you're at peace.
Said mine,
P1
I know that the Monistat thread initially made me feel as if we could be a bit impatient. However, once some other members shared I saw a different perspective. Some of us have a sense of urgency.
I'm gonna go out on a limb and talk about me: When I was relaxed hair growth wasn't a problem. My hair grew fast and thick and relaxed easily. I didn't sweat any rare breakage because my hair snapped back fast.
When I was in college I started encountering a lot of folks with varied natural hairstyles. This intersected with my growing political awareness and relaxing just didn't make sense anymore. So I chopped all of my hair off one day. From past shoulder length relaxed to a short do. I went about my life with my kinks minus curl definition UNTIL my boyfriends sister turned me out on some Nexxus stuff. My curls were on POP!! but don't touch em our you might scratch yourself or something. It never dawned on me to let my hair grow.
Grew out of that phase into two strand twists, learning to corn row again, and just love my fluffy fro.
Enter my beloved nappy website (where I'm moonchild). . .hmmm, I started to think. Maybe I should just let it grow which also led me here my loved whatever hair site. And yes, it became a focal point for a while because it's something I've never done: deliberately work towards healthy hair growth. Everyone has a vice: a slight obsession with natural hair and all that entails is one of mine.
I look best bald to be honest. All my features really come to life when I have no hair but man! It's been a long time with the low cuts. I grow a year or so, get a nice big bush and then cut because my heart breaks or I need a cleanse or I don't like the health of my hair.
That's where I am now....again....
~sigh~
but not really cause my hair is doing what it does. And I do get impatient sometimes (despite the screenname) but mostly I am patient. And I think in the end, most of us are. Only HERE in this space we can be obsessed and impatient and be co-dependent and crazy together.
When I leave this site, life goes on. I moisturize cause it makes sense, but I don't have rulers. HOWEVER, I don't knock those who do. I get it, I'm just lazy and not that committed.
So yeah, Black women and hair? It's a big sociopolitical, cultural, psychological thing because in GENERAL, many of us grew up staring at the long pigtails on the girl in front of us and watching the hair of OTHERS blow in the wind. I tell my baby girl that her hair reaches for heaven. My big girl sprouts the hair I envied when I grew up. And we wall exist together.
I want to eventually grow a big behind head of natural hair. I want the ease of buns. I want hair that a man's hands can get lost in while we make love. I want a braid that hangs low. I want MY hair to keep on reaching for heaven. I want to oil it and braid it then tuck it up like I watched Amina Baraka do when I was in college.
I've done short hair for over a decade. I've worn it kojak clean, I've done everything but loc it up. I've had a big fro, puffed it etc. I've never allowed it to grow long enough to put it into a ponytail or a bun. I'd like to do that but it's gonna take discipline and focus cause I cut in a minute.(Swore I'd never cut again when I went kojak last July but here I am back to a pinch of hair. AND I LOVE It!)
So that's my story. And yeah, the little girl who longed for long thick ponytails lives in me somewhere. Nothing Ever Really Dies, right? But she doesn't rule me and she lives alongside the woman who loves kinky, coil hair. And a girl can't rule a woman.
I get all of you. I understand the urge. I don't know you though. Only you know whether or not you're being ruled and who's ruling you inside. And whether your perm or not, cut or not, color or not. . .it would be my prayer for ALL what I pray for my daughters:
That you're happy. That you feel good inside. That you're at peace.
Said mine,
P1
hopeful
Well-Known Member
Nice patient1, thanks for sharing. One of the first lessons I learned here was patience, to be delicate and kind to my hair. It was a sweet lesson. Craving and trying to encourage growth is not fun (to me anyway). Loving me and my hair feels good. Being nice to my hair feels good. Being judgemental of my hair is not right, too critical is wrong. So back to basics, back to gratitude, conditioner washers, moisture, gentle handling. Trying to not watch the kettle, waiting impatiently for the whistle to blow, trying to force another inch. If I am patient and kind my dreams will come eventually. So for me, the Lenzi's Request goes in the trash, I will never order MTG, no monistat for my sensitive scalp. All I need is water, conditioner, a little leave in, some good oils, a wide tooth comb...and patience.
Country gal
Well-Known Member
hopeful said:
Patience is very important. Also loving your hair no matter what stage it is in. I remember before joining the board I was completely obsessed with growing my hair long because I thought that would make me more beautiful. I don't feel that way anymore. Who would of thought I would be sporting a fro? So this board has helped me to evolve from hair shallowness to hair conciousness and health.
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patient1
Guest
Thanks for "listening" ladies (cyber ears and all. lol!!)
I like what you said hopeful. Yep, with time and gentle care our dreams will eventually come true. I'm there with ya. I cut off over a year's worth of growth. I went from a kojak to shoulder length naps in the back. I can do it again. I want my hair to be healthy and I've learned a lot about that here (and elsewhere).
(I'm just mindful of not issuing cyberbeatings to those who are actively watching the pot.)
P1
I like what you said hopeful. Yep, with time and gentle care our dreams will eventually come true. I'm there with ya. I cut off over a year's worth of growth. I went from a kojak to shoulder length naps in the back. I can do it again. I want my hair to be healthy and I've learned a lot about that here (and elsewhere).
(I'm just mindful of not issuing cyberbeatings to those who are actively watching the pot.)
P1
tryn2growmyhair
New Member
OK?!!! Blossssom, over 13,000 views?! WTF? What havoc have you wreaked in her girl?! :nikki1971 said:
You better come in here and splain your self and FINALLY let us know what you were going to say. I have not read all the posts, but I have looked at all of your posts and you still havent said what you said you were going to say!! 
Impresaria
I'm your huckleberry.
Thank you. From my heart...thank you. I have a sense of urgency, I will admit it. Urgency to have a head of healthy hair, not long, just healthy, before it all falls to the floor. Rather relaxed or natural, I really do not care at this point. But that urgency does not equal desperation or obsession. Before I was trying this and that, I had a beautiful head of shiny hair. It wasn't long...but it was so pretty to me. I came to the hair boards not for myself, I came because my sister put a relaxer on my four-year-old daughter's hair and I had no clue how to stop the breakage. I started doing things that I had never done before, and I swear my hair is in worse condition than it has ever been. The things that work for some people like CO washes, protien treatments, stretching relaxers has NEVER worked for me. It seems to me that when I relaxed every four weeks, and washed once a week, and flat-ironed, colored, wrapped and blow-dried...that I had a healthier head of hair. When I didn't know all of the "wrong" stuff, it was the right stuff. And it worked. I truly believe that the STRESS of dealing with my hair is contributing to my scalp condition and general well-being. My DH has told me countless times..."Baby just cut it short, wear it natural like you had it when I met you"...and I had become convinced that he was a "hair enemy" secretly out to thwart my attempts so I wouldn't become TOO CUTE. But you know what? I think I need to listen to my husband.
patient1 said:
Blossssom
New Member
tryn2growmyhair said:OK?!!! Blossssom, over 13,000 views?! WTF? What havoc have you wreaked in her girl?! :
Oh you're back, huh? LOL!
I was thinking about you the other day, Tryn... Hadn't seen you in a while.
I am going to finally "speak", but it will be at Off Topic. I feel it's a more appropriate forum.
I'll be front and centerstage in about 15 minutes, as I have until midnight to hit the Post Message button
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