There are some things that I am going to say about long hair...

[caligirl]

I don't think this board would be around if that were the case, Country gal. I can't even begin to count the number of times I've heard "long hair" on a guy's list of desirable features on a woman.

I say this all the time to describe women..."she's really pretty and she has long hair..."

 

[senimoni]

This guy at work was discussing women and he stated NO WOMAN looks good with short hair.....I just sat there looking at him like...damn I must be awfully ugly then huh!!

 

[CandiceC]

I say this all the time to describe women..."she's really pretty and she has long hair..."

Unfortunately some people think pretty= long hair. Umm no. They are not interchangeable.

Sometimes people use that phrase, but what to say if the woman is pretty with short hair? She's pretty, nice figure, pretty teeth... basically anything but the short hair part.

 

[CandiceC]

This guy at work was discussing women and he stated NO WOMAN looks good with short hair.....I just sat there looking at him like...damn I must be awfully ugly then huh!!

That guy is full of it. I know people have preferences, but who programs a lot of these men to prefer long hair on women? If you take a beautiful woman with long hair one day and give her a hair cut the next less men would pay attention to her? Even if that's the only thing that changed about her? Doesn't seem right to me. And she shouldn't be seen as less feminine because her hair is short. Women can be butch with long hair. Lol.

 

[Divine Inspiration]

on the next episode of BLOSSSOM & THE LHCF:

blosssom is on the scene! what will this sassy vixen say? what will she do? will lhcf forever be changed or remain the same? hold on to your weaves and thongs and stay tuned for wednesday's episode.

network: LHCF channel
star: miss blosssom
rating: who the hell knows
duration: who the hell knows
viewers: stay tuned and wait with bated breath...you will be schooled!

Can I guest star on As LHCF turns????

I agree that long hair shouldn't carry as much weight as it does with men, but it does, ESPECIALLY black men.

 

[Blossssom]

Can I guest star on As LHCF turns????

I agree that long hair shouldn't carry as much weight as it does with men, but it does, ESPECIALLY black men.

You know, Divine, I think once we truly get to talking about the long hair issue and how it affects us all as women, we are going to really gain some serious insight.

This will be my only purpose when I introduce this topic. Some of the women here already have some inkling as to what I have to say, and I believe they feel and see the same things that I do to some extent.

Hopefully, we can all "grow" a little after we start to talk about it and love and appreciate ourselves a little more. Whether we have long hair, short hair, no hair; be it 1a or 10f.

God is not a god of confusion... and I'm tired of being confused.

 

[Divine Inspiration]

You know, Divine, I think once we truly get to talking about the long hair issue and how it affects us all as women, we are going to really gain some serious insight.

This will be my only purpose when I introduce this topic. Some of the women here already have some inkling as to what I have to say, and I believe they feel and see the same things that I do to some extent.

Hopefully, we can all "grow" a little after we start to talk about it and love and appreciate ourselves a little more. Whether we have long hair, short hair, no hair; be it 1a or 10f.

God is not a god of confusion... and I'm tired of being confused.

I totally agree. Last year, I was dealing with myself on some different levels, and I felt that purging was necessary so I could get a better grip on myself. I cut my hair to above my shoulders after having armpit length almost my whole life. It was sobering, and I didn't like the shorter hair as much. But I realized that I would never have been able to draw that conclusion unless I had trusted myself enough to cut it. I had to understand what longer hair meant for me. I discovered that I can totally rock a shorter style, but longer hair is much lower maintenance in terms of ponytails etc. I seriously believe that many women want long hair "just because." There's no real rhyme or reason to it, and that ultimately is where the problem comes in, IMO.

I totally understand your reason for coming forward. I know that it will create friction, but as black women, we have so much more to offer the world than long hair so therfore, the quest for longer hair should not merely extend from a carbon copy video girl that's sold to us by the media.

I definitely think we'll grow from the discussion, and simply being able to air out some dirty laundry pertaining to societal norms and expectations. Every woman here has the ability to transcend such simple thinking. There is a wealth of intelligence & ambition on this board, and if each lady here took time to soul search and sort her hair journey out, many would probably be happy with their current situation. Boards tend to perpetuate the culture of aspiring to longer, thicker hair, and there's nothing wrong with that, but everything should be done in moderation and in perspective.

I also agree that God is not a god of confusion...but that's 4 more paragraphs so I'ma leave that one alone...

 

[Blossssom]

I also agree that God is not a god of confusion...but that's 4 more paragraphs so I'ma leave that one alone...

Amen, sister! We're going to hang on to it

Hugs!

 

[RainbowCurls]

I still can't believe so many people are interested in what I have to say.

I don't know about anyone else but I'm interested to hear what I think is going to be a vastly different view from the general view of the forum.

 

[MeccaMedinah]

Alright now Bloss, I'm waiting too. I generally agree with your point of view. If you're going where I think that you may be, we will be in agreement once again. And I see that you are preparing for stones to be thrown; and they will be. I'm still recovering from the MTG thing

 

[Phoenix]

I totally agree. Last year, I was dealing with myself on some different levels, and I felt that purging was necessary so I could get a better grip on myself. I cut my hair to above my shoulders after having armpit length almost my whole life. It was sobering, and I didn't like the shorter hair as much. But I realized that I would never have been able to draw that conclusion unless I had trusted myself enough to cut it. I had to understand what longer hair meant for me. I discovered that I can totally rock a shorter style, but longer hair is much lower maintenance in terms of ponytails etc. I seriously believe that many women want long hair "just because." There's no real rhyme or reason to it, and that ultimately is where the problem comes in, IMO.

ITA. When I first joined this board a couple of years ago I got waaaaaay too into my hair. It was consuming too much of my time and money. I also didn't like some of the comments I got. For example, my dad and a couple of my male friends said things to me like "don't ever cut your hair." I don't know why, but for some reason that left a bad taste in my mouth. Anyway, I decided to do the BC and pretty much shaved my head. For me, it was very freeing and people's reactions were VERY interesting. Needless to say, there were lots of people who didn't like it. Now I'm trying to grow my hair again, but atleast now I know who I am apart from my hair. I know that if (God forbid) I ever had to go through Chemo or something and lose my hair I won't be totally crushed. I know that I can feel just as attractive with almost no hair as I can with a headful.

 

[Robin41]

For me, it's more important to have a healthy head of hair than long hair. The condition of my hair is sooooo much better now than it was before I started visiting this board a couple of years ago. It has grown, but it's nowhere near bra strap length and I doubt if it will ever get there and that's OKAY!! I love my hair again and that's all that matters.

Blossssom, when you finally make your comments, can you please start a new thread so we won't have to sift through this one to find it?

 

[tweezer6]

Lawd Hav Mercy. I can't take it anymore. Is it Wednesday yet???????

 

[meia]

in my opinion and im thinking about blossoms posts and everyone elses and im guessing the breaking point was the monistat wasnt it?

thats the breaking point for me as well..i think that was the most ridiculous thing ive ever heard (not meaning to knock it for those who actually try it) i think we as women of all colors, races, and backgrounds, need to realize most importantly that we define ourselves. not other people. society makes us afraid of ourselves- of our big lips, our overly curvy bodies, our wavy hair, our skin color...we get scared. we dont want to be thought of as anything less than beautiful. we dont want to be considered outcasts because people dont understand our beauty.

i guess the breaking point for me was weave. ive never been a fan of it and ive asked men of all different races (for general consensus) and all of them agreed that theyd rather have a natural woman not afraid of her hair or her beauty than to have someone with synthetic beauty (once again not attempting to talk down at anyone just a personal experiment)...i think the first step of acceptance for us is to realize, acknowledge, and adore what you have. body- hair-- anything. a man may say he wants a women with long hair etc., but the thing is if they dont love you anyways, all that crap about having long hair didnt matter from the beginning.

i think the second step is to nuture yourself and your image. nuture the way you look. start taking pride in yourself for who you are. you may already be confident with relaxers, growth agents, etc., and thats fine if it works for you. but realize that doesnt make you who you are. and anyways, youre beautiful without it.

id rather be stuck with my nappy ass hair that wont ever grow than to be something im not- im not straight naturally...i dont even know if im meant to have long hair genetically. but instead of struggling to be happy with myself, i want to start now from the inside and then work my way out..

 

[asummertyme]

I found myself rebelling...@ first i grew out my hair b/c for yrs, and i all of my life i had short hair, and considerning i come from a mixed heratige and all of my sisters were the one's with long or longer "better" hair than mine( at least that is how i felt),i was the one with the hair that did not grow...i found these hair boards and i wanted to prove to everyone that my hair could be long..and it worked...everyone was amazed and shocked that MY hair could actually grow..my nappy *** whateva type hair....then..i rebelled again...i could not stand everyone talking about my hair..touching it in pure amazment..long hair this, and long hair that! i could not stand it..your hair is thin...my hair is thick..mines grows this way, yours grows that way...
i chopped that sucka off to chin length...i was like to hell with this crap..now i have a afro...and guess what..its still a struggle...i sometimes feel good that people are so interested in what's all goin on with my hair...but at the same time i feel like gimme a break and get over it..dont get me wrong, i love the fact that AA women now have places to go in order to learn on how to care and grow our hair healthy...its wonderful, for yrs we had no idea..but now that i am older and wiser and learning to embrass what i have..it does seem to get petty and pretty damn stupid at times!
some of the commentary we get from others is just the most annoying crap ever..

 

[asummertyme]

i also wanted to commend blossom on bringing this great thread to the table..its really a light bulb moment...even though i dont think she has let us in on her thoughts, but it has brought fourth some great food for thought..

 

[kedra70]

There are some things that I am going to say about long hair and black women......

1. Some of us go to GREAT lengths to achieve it
2. We (general term) get very catty with one another over it
3. I believe some would put monkey ball sweat on their heads to speed up the growth cycle.

Aw h*ll naw!!!! LMBAO!!!!

Kedra

 

[Koffie]

i also wanted to commend blossom on bringing this great thread to the table..its really a light bulb moment...even though i dont think she has let us in on her thoughts, but it has brought fourth some great food for thought..

I agree

I don't mean to up and make people "thread hop" but check out the Monistat thread, SpicedTee is telling it like it-T-I-S.

 

[sharee]

I haven't been this interested in what a thread was going to say or bring about since I started this board. I too think I know where this is going but I can not wait to hear what Blossom is going to say!!! I am already in agreement with several of the comments that others have already made. Blossom, even though you haven't "officially" posted your thoughts, this is a GREAT thread.

 

[Victorian]

I can't believe the "pre-thread" has gotten this long

I found some LHCF reading material to keep us occupied while we wait. There was some interesting discussion in this thread:

Why do Black Women Want Long Hair???

 

[Iluvsmuhgrass]

*PJ seriously thinking about the monkey ball sweat & Monistat 7 mixed together* Nawww. "I'll take the house arrest."

GIRL you made me spit all over my screen!!!!!!

 

[DragonPearl]

Interesting thread. My question is, why does the suggestion of using Monistat bring up an epiphany?

I am curious. Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of glueing other people's and animal's hair on their scalp? Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of using relaxers whose main ingredients are sodiym hydroxide or calcium chloride, same as the main ingredients in Drano? Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of using products made for horses on their scalp? Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of ingesting mega vitamins for the sole purpose of growing hair, with no scientific studies on the long term effects of such vitamins?

Why is one method okay, but another not okay in the search for longer hair? Will the people chiming in be willing to give up relaxers, mega vitamins, controversial hair products and weaves, and just let their grow at their own pace or will this be an exercise in futility?

 

[vaqtea]

Interesting thread. My question is, why does the suggestion of using Monistat bring up an epiphany?

I am curious. Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of glueing other people's and animal's hair on their scalp? Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of using relaxers whose main ingredients are sodiym hydroxide or calcium chloride, same as the main ingredients in Drano? Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of using products made for horses on their scalp? Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of ingesting mega vitamins for the sole purpose of growing hair, with no scientific studies on the long term effects of such vitamins?

Why is one method okay, but another not okay in the search for longer hair? Will the people chiming in be willing to give up relaxers, mega vitamins, controversial hair products and weaves, and just let their grow at their own pace or will this be an exercise in futility?

This was a excellent post. Pure excellence

 

[Tosca]

Interesting thread. My question is, why does the suggestion of using Monistat bring up an epiphany?

I am curious. Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of glueing other people's and animal's hair on their scalp? Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of using relaxers whose main ingredients are sodiym hydroxide or calcium chloride, same as the main ingredients in Drano? Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of using products made for horses on their scalp? Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of ingesting mega vitamins for the sole purpose of growing hair, with no scientific studies on the long term effects of such vitamins?

Why is one method okay, but another not okay in the search for longer hair? Will the people chiming in be willing to give up relaxers, mega vitamins, controversial hair products and weaves, and just let their grow at their own pace or will this be an exercise in futility?

I am SO diggin' your post, Jessy!

 

[DiamondStar]

Interesting thread. My question is, why does the suggestion of using Monistat bring up an epiphany?

I am curious. Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of glueing other people's and animal's hair on their scalp? Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of using relaxers whose main ingredients are sodiym hydroxide or calcium chloride, same as the main ingredients in Drano? Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of using products made for horses on their scalp? Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of ingesting mega vitamins for the sole purpose of growing hair, with no scientific studies on the long term effects of such vitamins?

Why is one method okay, but another not okay in the search for longer hair? Will the people chiming in be willing to give up relaxers, mega vitamins, controversial hair products and weaves, and just let their grow at their own pace or will this be an exercise in futility?

Wow! Jessy, you are so on point, and I completely agree with you! I don't understand how some people are bashing or questioning other people's extremeties for longer hair, when they are engaging in the same type of activities.

 

[MzTami]

uh can someone define epiphany for those of us that do not know the meaning?

Thanks in advance!

 

[Koffie]

uh can someone define epiphany for those of us that do not know the meaning?

Thanks in advance!

Its like a revelation. Like when something "hits" you (mentally).

 

[MzTami]

Its like a revelation. Like when something "hits" you (mentally).

Thanks Koffie.

ITA why???????

 

[Koffie]

Interesting thread. My question is, why does the suggestion of using Monistat bring up an epiphany?

I am curious. Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of glueing other people's and animal's hair on their scalp? Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of using relaxers whose main ingredients are sodiym hydroxide or calcium chloride, same as the main ingredients in Drano? Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of using products made for horses on their scalp? Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of ingesting mega vitamins for the sole purpose of growing hair, with no scientific studies on the long term effects of such vitamins?

Why is one method okay, but another not okay in the search for longer hair? Will the people chiming in be willing to give up relaxers, mega vitamins, controversial hair products and weaves, and just let their grow at their own pace or will this be an exercise in futility?

I can't speak for anyone else, but I personally do not take mega doses of suppelements, nor do I get relaxers or do any of the afforementioned, BUT, and this is a big BUT,
I am not going to tell someone what to do with their hair or body. Just that simple.

I personally thought things had gone too far when some one on here reported a dangerous/irregular menstual flow from taking to many vitamins, but it appeared that she had learned her lesson judging by her thread.

 

[Impresaria]

My-oh-my! You are on the money with this one. And I went through GREAT LENGTHS (pun intended) to try and point out that it ain't as far-fetched as it seems. People can draw their line in the sand where they need to...but your line may not be mine. Is their some type of monolithic standard for Black women and hair care that I'm missing? Are we all supposed to be following the same regimen, using the same products? Why of course not, that's ridiculous...so why does anyone have to be behind the same line with the masses? I mean really, do people know that SULFUR is an ANTI-FUNGAL agent? As well as Tea Tree Oil, and a whole bunch of other stuff we put on our scalps? Why the epiphany on miconazole? I really don't understand. But relaxers burn the scalp, hair dyes and ingredients in our shampoos and conditioners are KNOWN carcinogens...but I don't see the big schism there.

Interesting thread. My question is, why does the suggestion of using Monistat bring up an epiphany?

I am curious. Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of glueing other people's and animal's hair on their scalp? Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of using relaxers whose main ingredients are sodiym hydroxide or calcium chloride, same as the main ingredients in Drano? Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of using products made for horses on their scalp? Why don't people get an epiphany by the idea of ingesting mega vitamins for the sole purpose of growing hair, with no scientific studies on the long term effects of such vitamins?

Why is one method okay, but another not okay in the search for longer hair? Will the people chiming in be willing to give up relaxers, mega vitamins, controversial hair products and weaves, and just let their grow at their own pace or will this be an exercise in futility?